newjez Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 The fact I split the family up making the family miserable in the process. You should see the pictures of us before we left Australia, we were smiling away, everything was rosey. As I say, we went back to England on a whim, that was all. Don't even know who wanted to do it now. Everyone smiles for the camera. What's done is done. You need to look forward. Looking back will only cause pain. Look at your options, not your mistakes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ptp113 Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 The fact I split the family up making the family miserable in the process. You should see the pictures of us before we left Australia, we were smiling away, everything was rosey. As I say, we went back to England on a whim, that was all. Don't even know who wanted to do it now. My mother wanted to return for years. Finally woke up and moved on and loved every minute from that point on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rossmoyne Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Having read the whole thread and others that preceeded it, it seems to me that Jasepom is a very selfish person... and that it all seems to be about him all the time. He brought his family out here... he took them back to UK... then he wanted to come back to Oz and his very accommodating wife finally said "no" when he wanted to transport them back around the world! Totally understand why she would do that. How disruptive to the children's upbringing is the constant moving from one side of the world to the other... let alone the financial costs involved. But guessing that Jasepom will never get it.... or that his kids need him to be in their daily lives. Perhaps they are better off without him... which I guess is where his ex-wife is coming from.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avinalff Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 I have thought of that,but I really don't want to leave my wife,and she doesn't want me to go,but I am struggling,especially with the hot weather.I don't like to keep moaning to her,so I keep quiet,as best I can.If I go back in UK summer,I'll will be coming back in QLD summer,so it would need to be a comprise of timing. I have looked into buying a car,and flights,but didn't go through with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avinalff Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 My wife loves her job,the summers,everything here in sunny Queensland. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sammy1 Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 (edited) Go see a priest, or alternately, a travel agent, and book a ticket home. Your kids will thank you for it. Sun, surf and 'lifestyle' don't cut it next to seeing their faces on their birthdays or Christmas morning. Surely the appeal of a country which is not your own can't over-ride the thrill of seeing them grow up? Exactly, when he is old and grey and without family and kids he deserted, then the sun and surf won't seem so great. Edited October 25, 2014 by calNgary edited quote Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 It does seem to be all about the lost money rather than the lost family which I find disturbing. I lost a million dollars, we had a dream house, I had a dream job etc. Now I don't know the OP at all but from reading the threads it seems that his self worth is measured through "things" - job, house, bank balance, rather than family and relationships. Now this works for some people but it seems that Jase and his wife had different views on what was important. It is not for any of us to say whether his POV is right or wrong, however blaming his wife for his decisions is not making him happy, it doesn't appear that being back in Australia is making him happy and is may be that the happiness he perceived existed before he moved back to the UK was also a facade which is being viewed through rose tinted specs. I think (as much as i am entitled to have an opinion) that his wife was more than supportive in a move half way around the world and then back again at her husbands urging, but was quite entitled to say 'enough'. the fact that the OP then made a decision to leave his family to return to the "dream life" is one he needs to live with. I think form the tone of the posts, that he has realised that it was a poor choice but is trying to justify it by saying we were happy before and we had everything and blaming his wife. I hope for his sake that he does find some peace and comes to terms with the decisions he has made. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ptp113 Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 Exactly, when he is old and grey and without family and kids he deserted, then the sun and surf won't seem so great. And for those like myself who don't give a toss about sun and surf and wouldn't go back to Blighty under any circumstance? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 And for those like myself who don't give a toss about sun and surf and wouldn't go back to Blighty under any circumstance? Not even if your kids were there? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 And for those like myself who don't give a toss about sun and surf and wouldn't go back to Blighty under any circumstance? Your situation is nothing like the OP's. I've not read of you carting your family to Aus to begin with, then back to the UK for some reason and then upping sticks to move back to Aus, leaving them behind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Roberto Posted October 25, 2014 Share Posted October 25, 2014 (edited) If family is the most important thing, then they should prioritise being together and there for each other above all else. Whether that be in the UK, Aus, or anywhere else. I think this is especially true if you have youngish kids who still live with you and rely on you. Everything else is secondary - in my opinion. If this isn't the case, then maybe emigration was a mistake in the first place. It's up to us all as individuals and as families to think long and hard about what is important, ideally before you uproot everything and make big changes. And if we make a mistake (which is ok, as most of us do on occasions), we need to think long and hard on the best way to rectify them. Good luck. Edited October 25, 2014 by Captain Roberto Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted October 28, 2014 Author Share Posted October 28, 2014 (edited) If family is the most important thing, then they should prioritise being together and there for each other above all else. Whether that be in the UK, Aus, or anywhere else. I think this is especially true if you have youngish kids who still live with you and rely on you. Everything else is secondary - in my opinion. If this isn't the case, then maybe emigration was a mistake in the first place. It's up to us all as individuals and as families to think long and hard about what is important, ideally before you uproot everything and make big changes. And if we make a mistake (which is ok, as most of us do on occasions), we need to think long and hard on the best way to rectify them. Good luck. Wishing I could undo the past. Had a fantastic job in Australia which i loved and the house everything was perfect. Edited October 28, 2014 by jasepom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MovingtoTasmania Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Wishing I could undo the past. Had a fantastic job in Australia which i loved and the house everything was perfect. @jasepom. What about your fantastic children? Your loving wife? Your perfect family? What the heck is a job and a house compared to a child's hug. Compared to your child saying "I love you". When you lose a child and that child can never hug you again, you'll never see that smile, you'll never hear then shout "mum I'm home, is my shirt/trousers ironed, I've got a date" or in your case "dad" it's the saddest thing in the world and you try to put that pain behind you, but then something reminds you and everyday is a reminder that you lost something that was so precious, once so tiny, so completely dependent on you, that your heart aches with it. Forget this stupidity Jase please and mend those bridges with your children. Please. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harpodom Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Wishing I could undo the past. Had a fantastic job in Australia which i loved and the house everything was perfect. I understand the first statement, but I cannot for the life of me understand the second. Is this a wind up Jase? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MovingtoTasmania Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 I understand the first statement, but I cannot for the life of me understand the second. Is this a wind up Jase? If it wasn't for the fact that his wife posted on here to refute some of the things he had said, you would think it was a wind up wouldn't you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aunt Agatha Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 It's easy to create a second profile... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest51810 Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 It's all so sad. Wish he would go and speak to someone if he hasn't already Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MovingtoTasmania Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 It's easy to create a second profile... That didn't even occur to me........:dull: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MovingtoTasmania Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 It's all so sad. Wish he would go and speak to someone if he hasn't already I don't think he has and I don't think he's got any intention of doing so either. He has tunnel vision!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
calNgary Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 It's easy to create a second profile... Not very easy to slide a second profile past the mods though and even harder to get one past admin. Cal x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aunt Agatha Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 Even if using a different email address? I'm not suggesting that admin aren't great, I just feel like we are being played. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johndoe Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 Even if using a different email address? You'd also need a different computer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted October 29, 2014 Author Share Posted October 29, 2014 No I am who I say I am no need to have conspiracy theories on here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parley Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 I believe you Jase. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest51810 Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 No I am who I say I am no need to have conspiracy theories on here. I believe you too, I suppose that's why I find it sad. So do you have no contact with your children at all? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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