VERYSTORMY Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 It has been a long and hard journey. But I think I am finally starting to appreciate Oz. We arrived in 2008 to Sydney and I loved it. Then work brought me to Perth and I hated it. But I am starting to see some of it's pluses. There are still things I will miss. But there are things I have I couldn't have in the uk. I think, for me it has come down to roots. We have rented since arriving and now are building our first home and I think this has made me feel more settled and start to feel like home. There will always be part of me that is English. There will always things I will miss. But I think I am finally happy to call Oz home. I never thought I would say that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freckleface Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 There's nothing like your own home IMO regardless of how grand or modest it is to help you feel more settled - wherever you are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VERYSTORMY Posted November 16, 2013 Author Share Posted November 16, 2013 Yep. I think that was it. I spent a significant chunk of my adult life homeless. So have some roots was very important and selling my home in the uk to go back to renting was I think a pretty severe shock to the system. It felt like I was about to go back to the time of being homeless - I was renting when I became homeless and spent a year living in the shop door way of BHS in Middlesbrough - some of the members on here may have given me spare change. So, moving back to renting after spending years to get to my first home felt so wrong. But, now buying my first home in Oz has had a fairly profound affect on me. I think the day we move in - I guess about 6 months will have a even bigger affect! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ramot Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 Good to hear you feel more settled, wish you a happy future. I think unless you have had a rough time for whatever reason, it's hard to understand how fantastic it feels when it hopefully gets better. I had a pretty rough childhood, will spare you the details, but realized I could either sink or swim, it was up to me. I never sank!! good wishes for the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ptp113 Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 It takes 5 years to get a handle on Oz. Always said at least 3 years but realistically it's 5. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonyman Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 glad to hear that VS as you did sound very unsettled , maybe we can now go for that drink ............ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VERYSTORMY Posted November 16, 2013 Author Share Posted November 16, 2013 glad to hear that VS as you did sound very unsettled , maybe we can now go for that drink ............ Would love to mate. Just say the word. Have even discovered some Oz beer I like! It has just been a bit of a harder transition than most. I think it was largely based on fear. I was so frightened. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest66881 Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 When that moment happens and it all just falls into place - it's amazing mate isn't it:wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonyman Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 Would love to mate. Just say the word. Have even discovered some Oz beer I like! It has just been a bit of a harder transition than most. I think it was largely based on fear. I was so frightened. ok VS will do , what Oz beer are we talking about , I`m hooked on Dry Dock atm............but I am genuinely made up for you pal........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VERYSTORMY Posted November 16, 2013 Author Share Posted November 16, 2013 When that moment happens and it all just falls into place - it's amazing mate isn't it:wink: Yep Paul it is. For me, it was just realizing that I am not in the same place as I was back in the 80's. Sounds bizarre but, that was where my mind was. It was very scary to be constantly being back in that place. Not so much for me, but for my wife and thinking about her being in that place where I would give anything for her not to be. It was simple fear. I can live with what ever life throws. But I was soooooo scared for my wife. I couldn't really accept I am not in the same position. But buying our own place has made me realize I am not. It is hard when you go though a hard time to forget you are no longer going through it. I suppose it is a defense mechanism in the brain. I think it was for me added to by having my brother and daughter commit suicide while in Oz. I think part of me blamed Oz. But it isn't Oz. It is just one of the things we live through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rossmoyne Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 Great to hear VS. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest66881 Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 I tried some of that dry dock Tony it's an ok drink ain't it, not enough in a bottle for me though:wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VERYSTORMY Posted November 16, 2013 Author Share Posted November 16, 2013 ok VS will do , what Oz beer are we talking about , I`m hooked on Dry Dock atm............but I am genuinely made up for you pal........ You name. My treat. I really enjoyed wild goat he other day. But open to try. I am here till 30th before back to damned work (unless lotto comes up) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonyman Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 I tried some of that dry dock Tony it's an ok drink ain't it, not enough in a bottle for me though:wink: yes, feel as though your being ripped off as its no cheaper than the bigger bottles , does put me off buying some beers but like this one .......VS will see what we got on before 30th if not December hols , you must be off then and thanks ...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flag of convenience Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 It has been a long and hard journey. But I think I am finally starting to appreciate Oz. We arrived in 2008 to Sydney and I loved it. Then work brought me to Perth and I hated it. But I am starting to see some of it's pluses. There are still things I will miss. But there are things I have I couldn't have in the uk. I think, for me it has come down to roots. We have rented since arriving and now are building our first home and I think this has made me feel more settled and start to feel like home. There will always be part of me that is English. There will always things I will miss. But I think I am finally happy to call Oz home. I never thought I would say that! Besides the decision to plant yourself in the way of building a house, the principle difficulty that I could see was loneliness. As you related recently coming across an old mate from your home town in your present home town, does from this point appear to have alleviated the negativity towards being here. Nothing wrong with feeling settled. Being away can also help see it through different eyes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Que Sera Sera Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 Been jet ski ing over your way in Port Bouvard we loved it, such a lovely area. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johndoe Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 It has been a long and hard journey. But I think I am finally starting to appreciate Oz. We arrived in 2008 to Sydney and I loved it. Then work brought me to Perth and I hated it. But I am starting to see some of it's pluses. There are still things I will miss. But there are things I have I couldn't have in the uk. I think, for me it has come down to roots. We have rented since arriving and now are building our first home and I think this has made me feel more settled and start to feel like home. There will always be part of me that is English. There will always things I will miss. But I think I am finally happy to call Oz home. I never thought I would say that! Your own home makes a world of difference, particularly when you have it built to your own specs. Seems like you've had a hard time of it. I lived rough after coming out of the mob, so i know in some small way, where you're coming from..................insecurity is very hard to shake. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 Good to hear that VS. Still, at the end of the day nothing is forever and you may move on but being able to live with some sense of peace where you have to be is a bonus! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 . But I think I am finally happy to call Oz home. I never thought I would say that! I never thought you would say it either lol - but I'm glad that you're feeling more settled and that it feels like home (especially as you work away a lot). It's a nice place to be able to appreciate where you are and also where you've come from. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyHeart Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 Extremely sorry and shocked to hear about your family tragedy VS...I think anyone would feel that the world was an awful place in that devastating situation. I am glad you have found some peace...long may it last. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flag of convenience Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 I hope though this doesn't infer that you are not totally removed from the non conformist,dissent club entirely? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest 47403 Posted November 17, 2013 Share Posted November 17, 2013 Glad your now settled and happier, being unhappy with somewhere or something can lead to all sorts of stresses. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
garyupnorth Posted November 17, 2013 Share Posted November 17, 2013 Glad to hear its all worked out good for you. I commend you for hanging in there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ptp113 Posted November 17, 2013 Share Posted November 17, 2013 "Only the strong survive". Can't say that about to many pom migrants.................. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Counting Stars Posted November 17, 2013 Share Posted November 17, 2013 Great to hear you post about feeling happier and settled xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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