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  1. Quoll

    Scratching your homesickness itch

    It's been a while!!!! I can relate to the only child-ness - sucks, doesnt it?! We came to UK on holiday 8 years ago and didn't return because of the "only child thing" and a pair of parents galloping towards their 90s with the wheels falling off. Now, 8 years later, mum has died, dad has recently decided that he is better cared for in a Care Home (we agree, by the way) and we are in the process of selling up his life, belongings and home (to support him in the care home) and we will be returning to Australia, probably by the end of the year. All I can say is that these past 8 years have been bloody fantastic. I have loved being "home". I've lost a lot of weight, am considerably fitter and have an amazing group of new friends. If you can persuade the rest of the family to come to some sort of compromise where you get at least a few more years of belonging, I'd say go for it! My DH hated hated hated the thought of living in UK but he's had a ball, he's seen and done so much in the time although we have been hamstrung more recently with 24/7 care of a 95 year old! I would give my eye teeth to stay here but I promised the DH that we would return and, honestly, we couldn't afford to live here, we are past the point of no return unfortunately. Good luck living with your homesickness, I reckon the only child guilt factor probably plays a significant part and I am hoping that the knowledge that my dad is well cared for (and the communication with the home seems excellent at this point) will in some way reduce that for me when I have to return and I can view it all with the "whoopee it's a new adventure" frame of mind. However with one kid there with 2 grandkids and one kid here with one grandchild (he came for a year's holiday 17 years ago!!!!) I am always going to be batting around from one side of the world to the other and you will never know where your kids decide to end up.
  2. Good point, I'd forgotten about that. Ive been away too long!
  3. You're probably going to struggle to be a police officer wherever you go TBH. You could try the AFP which is Canberra's local police force but it's also the national police force and does things which go over state lines and had quite a large presence in Sydney. However you're probably better thinking about what new career pathways to take.
  4. Quoll

    Harrisdale poms

    Wouldn't go into it looking for deep long term friendships, you're probably going to be disappointed so throw yourself into your local community regardless of where they originated and see what sticks. If you go into it expecting nothing then you won't be disappointed. I've found the best friendships I've had have been formed at times of developmental angst or significant stress so you might find some mates if you volunteer for things like the bush fire brigade or Lifeline, nothing like throwing yourself into stressful situations to see who has got your back and who will laugh with you. Personally, over 3 decades in Australia I never made the kind of friendships that I've found here in UK over the past 8 years but lots of other folk say they've made lots of friends - what friendships I had were generally situational and rarely stood the test of situation change.
  5. Possibly. You’d be well advised to talk to one of the agents who specialise in medical conditions. George Lombard & Peter Bollard are the two usually recommended in this regard but there are probably others who now have good medical advice. In addition, not only might you have to pay for mainstream education (depends on the state) you will probably have to pay for any additional special ed support in school and possibly therapies as well. You will need all assessments, IQ, language, skills, adaptive behaviour, academic skill level etc. Btw there is no 457 any more.
  6. Quoll

    Flu Shots

    In UK shingles vaccine is offered to all 70 year olds. I had mine as soon as I could and no ill effects even though I had the flu /shingles double whammy. It's quite common in older people especially at times of stress apparently - my dad has had it at least twice to my knowledge and a good friend, my age, recently had shingles of the mouth - definitely horrible! I didn't know you could get it in the mouth but it follows one or other of the cranial nerves.
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    Urgent Move Back to UK Likely

    I promised my DH we would return when we were no longer needed to support my parents. My dad has decided that he needs to be in a care home now so we are having to sell up his stuff and we will leave him in care. I feel sad that we are having to do that but we cant afford to live here unless we move lock stock and barrel and that would be financially ruinous for us - we are past the point of no return and DH is an Aussie. Dont panic about Brexit - the Remainers are spinning all sorts of doom but once we leave (fingers crossed) there will be scope for a much better future and more opportunities. Dont envy you Darwin - not the sort of place that I would like to spend awfully much time and it sounds like you have done the hard yards for a long time with all your moves.
  8. Quoll

    Urgent Move Back to UK Likely

    I'm in the throes of moving in the reverse direction (unfortunately for me) without all the additional stresses you have but it's still pretty daunting. Sadly I'm not that good about education moves to UK, I'm more Au fait with the Australian system. But, that said, the vast majority of returnees I have spoken to who have kids with special needs say that the service they have had in UK knocks spots off what they had in Australia. You've got comprehensive reports so you're definitely on the right track. You could approach schools once you know where you will be living and see what advice you get. They'll be able to get you organised for whatever level of support may be necessary. My experience of the NHS (with frail aged folk mainly) had that is been amazing but everyone seems to whinge constantly about appointment times which, compared with what I've had in Australia are astonishingly quick for a free service. We have decided on the Move Cube option - we don't have much but we have been here 8 years now and my wool stash rather reflects that as does the DH'S book collection. We are clearing out my parents house of 35 years detritus and sentimental value so lots on Free cycle and the local charity shop is going to get fed up with seeing us! I think it would be easier if it was our own stuff rather than someone else's precious belongings. I'd be optimistic, I've not meet many who haven't been able to find a job and it seems to me that there is much less age discrimination here. You're lucky to have the parental backstop option to tide you over. Good luck! We may cross in the air - our move depends on how quickly the house sells and fingers crossed its in one of "those places" that everyone wants (worst house in best Street thing). Then we return to our own house which is half renovated and sort of have to stay again with the declutter ruthlessness. I hope your move on is going to be more satisfying than I fear mine will be.
  9. Apply right now and cross your fingers. If his visa comes through then you win. If it doesn't, then you have a choice - either you go and he waits for his visa to arrive then he joins you or you tell your CO that he will be applying for a tourist visa and he goes with you as a tourist then nips over to NZ or wherever when it is due to be issued. If he goes on a tourist visa and lies about his intention to be a tourist then he runs the risk of being turned around at the border and even if he is allowed in, as has been said, he could struggle to find work in a bridging visa and on shore applications are taking longer than off shore ones.
  10. Quoll

    Sad News

    So sorry to hear that. And to Bunbury - sorry for your losses too. I hope there is much love and support around you all.
  11. Quoll

    Traveling back to the UK with a 9 month old

    Nah, just bite the bullet and do it. The bassinet on the bulkhead will probably be ok but take a sling just in case you need to walk the aisles with the baby. You don’t want your arms dropping off. Travel light, sleep when you can, hopefully your wife will still be bf at the time, it’s a whole lot simpler than faffing around with bottles, be confident in your own parenting. It’s only 24 hours, get it all done in one hit. I did it with my kids at various ages and more recently with grandkids. Only one of the grandkids eschewed the bassinet but she was a kid who was a co-sleeper. If you can travel while the baby is younger, you may find it marginally easier.
  12. And what second language do you teach? Do you have a 4 year degree? Lots of hoops for teachers to leap through
  13. Schools usually reflect the suburb they are located in and if you wouldn't want to live in a suburb because of the neighbours, you probably wouldn't want your kids to go to school in the suburb so choose your home first and if you're happy with that then likely you'll be happy with the school and, if not, theres always the private system which is very popular especially at HS level. Schools change all the time too, get a new principal and they'll be gung ho about embellishing their cv and doing new things so even if there's a bit of a lull, change is found the corner.
  14. Quoll

    Finance job needed

    You're unlikely to find anything until you've got your boots on the ground and it could take you 6 months to get something. That local experience thing will be thrown at you all the time. Australia is good at that. Just have to be prepared for unemployment and be flexible.