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    5 minutes ago, Beckfield said:

    Hello Tricky, I really sympathise with that feeling of uncertainty as to what's best for your family and whether you should go back or stay in SA.  Personally, I would certainly go.  Bonds with extended family can't really be forged easily when the visits are few and far between, and your daughter is just a tot, so it would be really lovely for her to grow up knowing her extended family.  I was a child of a migrant family back decades ago, and we always missed our grandparents and aunts, uncles and cousins so much.  Whenever there were weddings or other special family occasions we were always the ones who were stuck here unable to go, and to some extent it affects your identity because you're cut off from your relatives and feel removed from the clan, if you know what I mean.  We missed out on lots being so far away from everyone else we loved.  Living 30-50 minutes away is nothing, given the distances we all do living in Australia.  I travel an hour to the nearest major town.  So personally, I say Go, and rejoin your family.  Life's so short....  and the need to belong is so important.  All the best!!

    I mentioned in another thread that if my sons had been born in the UK, I doubt we would have come to Australia for the reasons you state above about grandparents, aunts, uncles etc.  However our sons were born here and my Mum was their only grandparent alive and she came to stay for 3 or 4 months at a time regularly when they were growing up.  She died when they were 10 and 11 years old.  Plus they visited her in Scotland as often as we could.  Their only uncle lived in Thailand and visited us often with their cousins.  My sister and only sister in law don't have any children so my kids didn't miss out on extended family stuff.  Very different for people with larger extended families though.

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    Well it's all go at our end. Currently getting the house ready for sale is going well and we are counting down the weeks. Have had some quotes for the dog's shipping and now we have to start sorting belongings. 

    It's interesting, but we've never really realised that we've been missing out on family life until now. And our daughters birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks and we are so relieved that it'll be the last birthday where it's the three of us and next time the whole family can be there instead of on Skype. 

    Only 20 weeks or so left. It'll fly by. 

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    20 minutes ago, Tricky said:

    Well it's all go at our end. Currently getting the house ready for sale is going well and we are counting down the weeks. Have had some quotes for the dog's shipping and now we have to start sorting belongings. 

    It's interesting, but we've never really realised that we've been missing out on family life until now. And our daughters birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks and we are so relieved that it'll be the last birthday where it's the three of us and next time the whole family can be there instead of on Skype. 

    Only 20 weeks or so left. It'll fly by. 

    As you say, the 20 weeks will fly by!  All the best to you and your family Tricky.

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    14 hours ago, Tricky said:

    Well it's all go at our end. Currently getting the house ready for sale is going well and we are counting down the weeks. Have had some quotes for the dog's shipping and now we have to start sorting belongings. 

    It's interesting, but we've never really realised that we've been missing out on family life until now. And our daughters birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks and we are so relieved that it'll be the last birthday where it's the three of us and next time the whole family can be there instead of on Skype. 

    Only 20 weeks or so left. It'll fly by. 

    That's so exciting Tricky.  Wish you and your family all the very best.  Lots of happy times ahead.  

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