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Hi all. It's been a little over 2 months and I'm absolutely loving it. Came back on my own and now have a flat, my friends and family and even been on a few dates. Best decision I ever made.

Thanks. Yes it feels pretty terrible but but I just keep telling myself that 6 months from now it will be different. Is the other member still on the forum. Would love to message them.

This is what made me finally decided to go to. I couldn't do australia forever

So after a few years of posting on here I am now on my way to the airport to head back home. Mixed emotions. My dog and my fiance have stayed as he does not want to go back but I just missed home too much and can't cope with saying so many goodbyes. Hopefully I can love being home right now it just feels gut wrenching to leave.

Hi Scousers, Sorry to hear this. I hope the doctors helps. It did for me. I thought you were definitely planning to head back to the UK without your husband and daughter?? I recently decided I have to leave my other half here to head back to. Its awful but I am sure I am doing the right thing in the long term. Might not be the same for you though. Thinking of you x

So flights are booked and notice handed in. Ive told my UK friends but not my aussie ones yet. Feel terrified and excited!

So I've told him april 9 with or without him. I've also got a job interview set up next week. Time to start looking forward

So he has said he won't go again. I don't know what to do. Each time I make a decision he throws it off and now I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't stay forever but love him to much to leave. He says he promises to make me happy here.

Thanks. It does seem like a good time to head back and hopefully get some British Summer

So true. He thinks the UK is my life and here is our life but I keep telling him I'm not happy anymore so how can it be our life.

Thanks. I think I'l tell him I'm going in april if I'm going alone but that if he will come with me ill wait until may or June.

Fair point however I have been here 10 years for him. I have been on anti depressants on and off for the past 3 years as I've wanted to go home. For me it's time he put me first instead of Australia.

Thanks. Yes this concerns me to A few months ago I would be 100% certain I want him to come but to get my head in a place where I could leave I emotionally distanced myself a bit and now I'm scared to let that come back in case he chooses not to come. If he just said he is certain he wants to come with me and be happy I'd be confident we would be, at the moment though I feel like I'm forcing him into it and that probably won't work out.

Thanks for the advice. So you think stick to my plan to leave april? I keep leaning towards this to as i dont want to live in limbo still waiting to see if he will come with me. But I also want to give him time. Still I've told him for two years I wanted to go and he just ignored it cos he didn't take me seriously until now.

So I have 100% decided to head home. I told my partner that I'd be leaving april 9. Since he realises I am actually doing it he now says he will consider a move back but wants to go for a trip first and then decide. Then if he will go back it will be in a year or two time. Now I'm conflicted again..do I wait to go on the trip home together and see if he likes it? Even if he does, he wants to wait at least one or two more years and I don't know if I have it in me. Also what if he changes his mind in a year and won't go again. At the moment he is really stressed out at the idea of me leaving and maybe it' just the stress talking. I know you can't answer this for me but just wanted a sounding board. Perhaps I say I am definitely going but just move my return date back to may or June to give him more time to decide?

Hi Scousers. Just wondered how things are with you. Has anything changed in the past few weeks? I am in the same boat and looking to leave my partner after 14 years together to go home alone. PM me if you want to chat more. Louise

Hate causing any pain to anyone else. Also I do still love him and the idea of never seeing him is awful. But it's time to be a grown up and make a decision.

Hi. I was not saying he needs me or is helpless and reliant. I'm sure he will in fact cope with the separation better than me.

Yeah I feel a bit the same. If there was someone here to take my spot off Id go. Its not that he needs taking care of as he is very self sufficient. I just cant bare the idea of him being lonely.

Thanks. I think you are all right. My partner won't consider a trial in the UK. He thinks I am being selfish as our lives are better here and they are in terms of weather, job and house but that's not everything. I know he would hate it in the uk and he thinks that I will hate it to and that I am making a huge mistake which makes me nervous. Like you said though I need to know. I am terrified I am making a huge mistake but hopefully a year from now I'll be in the uk and feel settled. I know it won't be great straight away as ill be missing him and its a big change. Any tips for the move?

Thanks for the advice. Trouble is my job. I am the one that earns by far the most and so I cover off the mortgage. If I was to return temporarily we will not have that money coming in. It also means I cant leave straight away as I have to work at least 4 weeks notice. Its also his 40th birthday in early April and it seems awful to leave before this and leave him on his own. At the moment we decided that I will contribute to the mortgage whilst he gets a better job here and so can take the mortgage on his own. We have enough cash savings for him to buy me out. If he can do this then Ill just take my things and we wont have to go through the process of selling everything. I was thinking of going back to UK but saying that if he changes his mind he can always follow me. I kind of think for me to give the UK a proper go it needs to be with at least the idea that its permanent and that means getting a job and a place to live. I am also worried that if I say its just a trial and I might be back that its just dragging things out. And also will I really be able to settle in the UK if I am still emotionally tied to him here? I could move out the house now but seeing as things between us are ok between us it seems to make sense to stay but again am I just prolonging the inevitable. Its just soo nice to still see him.

Hi all So it's with a heavy heart that I am deciding to leave australia after 10 years. My partner and I came on a working holiday visa and ended up staying. We have built an amazing life here, great job, big house, lovely dog (no kids) but I've always felt the pull of home and my fiance has said he will never leave. I know the lifestyle here is better but I've just found it harder and harder to stay when all my family are in uk and parents are getting older. I've told my partner, he cried but understands and things are being really friendly however inside I'm broken hearted and just want to beg him to come with me. I am planning to leave in 10 weeks but unsure what to do til then. Stay in the house and be together til it's time to go, Move out now. My partner and dog are the only family I've really had these past ten years. Any advice?

Hi Scousers How are your plans going? As other have said finding your national insurance number is handy and if there is a way to get a bill set up in your name at a uk address this will really help with Bank accounts. Do you have a date set? It will obviously be awful to leave your husband and daughter but if your mind is made up then setting a date to fly back would be good. It gives you a deadline and sounds like things are very stressful for you hear so might be better once home with family / friends support. Do you work here? Are you planning to work in UK? Make sure you have all your financial paperwork in order and have some honest conversations with your husband about dividing your savings/ house etc. Louise

Hi. Just wondered what you decided to do??

Hi. I am in a very similar situation to you. Ive been with my partner 12 years and here for 8. Its a big decision to move back home and even bigger if it means ending the relationship. I decided to give it another year however to be honest nothing has changed. He wants to stay and I want to go. How long have you been together? Are you happy besides your desires to live in other countries? I still feel torn but in my heart i know i should probably move back however fear and love keep me holding on here