Banana707

Hi all. It's been a little over 2 months and I'm absolutely loving it. Came back on my own and now have a flat, my friends and family and even been on a few dates. Best decision I ever made.

Thanks. Yes it feels pretty terrible but but I just keep telling myself that 6 months from now it will be different. Is the other member still on the forum. Would love to message them.

This is what made me finally decided to go to. I couldn't do australia forever

So after a few years of posting on here I am now on my way to the airport to head back home. Mixed emotions. My dog and my fiance have stayed as he does not want to go back but I just missed home too much and can't cope with saying so many goodbyes. Hopefully I can love being home right now it just feels gut wrenching to leave.

Hi Scousers, Sorry to hear this. I hope the doctors helps. It did for me. I thought you were definitely planning to head back to the UK without your husband and daughter?? I recently decided I have to leave my other half here to head back to. Its awful but I am sure I am doing the right thing in the long term. Might not be the same for you though. Thinking of you x

So flights are booked and notice handed in. Ive told my UK friends but not my aussie ones yet. Feel terrified and excited!

So I've told him april 9 with or without him. I've also got a job interview set up next week. Time to start looking forward

So he has said he won't go again. I don't know what to do. Each time I make a decision he throws it off and now I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't stay forever but love him to much to leave. He says he promises to make me happy here.

Thanks. It does seem like a good time to head back and hopefully get some British Summer

So true. He thinks the UK is my life and here is our life but I keep telling him I'm not happy anymore so how can it be our life.

Thanks. I think I'l tell him I'm going in april if I'm going alone but that if he will come with me ill wait until may or June.

Fair point however I have been here 10 years for him. I have been on anti depressants on and off for the past 3 years as I've wanted to go home. For me it's time he put me first instead of Australia.

Thanks. Yes this concerns me to A few months ago I would be 100% certain I want him to come but to get my head in a place where I could leave I emotionally distanced myself a bit and now I'm scared to let that come back in case he chooses not to come. If he just said he is certain he wants to come with me and be happy I'd be confident we would be, at the moment though I feel like I'm forcing him into it and that probably won't work out.

Thanks for the advice. So you think stick to my plan to leave april? I keep leaning towards this to as i dont want to live in limbo still waiting to see if he will come with me. But I also want to give him time. Still I've told him for two years I wanted to go and he just ignored it cos he didn't take me seriously until now.

So I have 100% decided to head home. I told my partner that I'd be leaving april 9. Since he realises I am actually doing it he now says he will consider a move back but wants to go for a trip first and then decide. Then if he will go back it will be in a year or two time. Now I'm conflicted again..do I wait to go on the trip home together and see if he likes it? Even if he does, he wants to wait at least one or two more years and I don't know if I have it in me. Also what if he changes his mind in a year and won't go again. At the moment he is really stressed out at the idea of me leaving and maybe it' just the stress talking. I know you can't answer this for me but just wanted a sounding board. Perhaps I say I am definitely going but just move my return date back to may or June to give him more time to decide?