Tulip1

I think your son needs to get some professional advice. I think him getting a WHV may have been a mistake and that has cancelled his old PR. Suggest he contacts a migrant agent, there are several on here that are excellent.

Many do, strange as it is. She would be well trained in making sure too much isn’t on display. They know just where to put their hands/position themselves so that this kind of thing doesn’t happen. That dress/cape would have been positioned in front of her before she exited the car and she would be aware of where it was. It looks like she’s just stepped out the car leaving it trailing behind her. I think it’s likely to be a fake/photoshopped photo.

All the more reason to find a way to do test in the UK then. He if returns to the UK he’d be stuck with only being allowed to drive an automatic.

I hope you’re feeling better soon Parley

Is there nowhere in the UK he can do the test? Even if you have to drive a way to get to it? Assume you’re on cancellation lists/checking every day.

Have you watched the Piers Morgan interview with the Palestinian doctor?

There seems far less sacrifice on her part in terms of this move. Of course she can see the benefits, she’s moving to be near her sister. She’s also wanting you to move near her sister and take you and the kids away from parents and grandparents. Now if you are really up for the move then all good, go for it. But….it sounds like you’re hesitant. She does of course have every right to want to be near her sister but I’m not sure her gain against you and your parents loss would be described as lovely. As for your question on whether it’s selfish. I think those that make the move have to have an element of selfishness to do it. That doesn’t mean I think you shouldn’t as it’s your life, your choice. But let’s be clear and honest. No parent has hopes and dreams of their adult kids moving to the other side of the world, taking their grandkids with them. Parents may be very supportive and genuinely happy for their kids that make that choice simply because that’s what nice parents do. They want what their kids want and their kids happiness comes before their own. However, in their hearts it’s the last thing they want and if you go your decision will hurt them. You still should if you really want to and your parents will be happy for you while being sad for themselves. Don’t be swayed by the ‘it’s better for the kids’ as kids can thrive in either country. Yes the kids will get an opportunity to experience living in another country which is good but that will also come at the expense of not seeing their grandparents. Ask yourself how do you think that will make them feel. See it for what it is…..it’s better for your wife as she wants to be near her sister.

That option (and the one Robin Williams took) will only be an option if you still hold mental capacity. Many don’t near the end and therefore will be unable to make that decision.

It’s not the best end for sure but it’s perhaps the price we might have to pay for that long life. Many aren’t as lucky to have such a long and vibrant life. If you could ask anyone who’s life is cut short if they’d take another 20/30/40 years of vibrant living if they accepted maybe when they’re old they’d have to end their days in a care home they’d ask how they could sign up. The old people in care homes now have been lucky enough to get old. Many aren’t as lucky as them.

I couldn’t agree more. Many old people left at home until the end spend a huge amount of time alone and often in a confused state. A care home can give reassurance and companionship rather than silence and boredom. For those that are able, there are lots of social things going on in care homes. My mums care home had a Facebook page and I’d often see her on it singing/humming along or waving her arms and smiling to many social moments. She had lost pretty much all ability to remember anything or have any mental ability which included not even knowing who I was yet she could sing along to an old war song and showed genuine happiness. I realised when she was in there I should have moved her earlier. At home apart from carer visits and me popping in she sat completely alone and didn’t even have the ability to turn the tv on. We had it on but it stayed on one channel as she couldn’t turn it over. Sometimes you think you’re doing the right thing when actually you’re keeping them old, alone, possibly frightened and lonely. We all hope we have need to go into a care home but such is life and I honestly believe sometimes it’s better than the alternative.

It’s not always that simple. My mum had advanced dementia and us three kids struggled for nearly 2 years to do everything we could to keep her at home. In the months before she went into a care home it had got so bad we had carers going in four times a day, us all ringing her everyday although towards the end she didn’t even know what a phone was let alone be able to answer it. We had security cameras inside her house to keep an eye on her and I did many late evening/during the night dashes to her house because she was doing something worrying. I called in to see her everyday after work and did everything for her. She had a few infections that sent her into hospital and after terrible delirium she hit a new baseline which was even more dreadful than before. We knew she needed full time care but it broke our hearts to send her to a care home so we battled on. In the end I phoned our local council and asked for help from a social worker or whoever could help. They started telling me they were really busy and I just broke down and cried which is not like me. They realised how bad it was and they sent a social worker out to see me two days later. She deemed mum as needing 24 hour care and she could no longer stay in the house. The decision had been taken out of my hands. She helped me with moving mum to a local care home where she remained until she has a stroke and died 8 months later. She never knew she had moved as she was beyond knowing where she lived or what was going on. I know I did everything I could for my mum to remain in her own home, longer really than I should because she was not safe. I took the view that you mention in that it was worth an increased risk to leave her be but I also had a duty of care to protect her and at the end it was like leaving a small child alone. You say you will put on your will that if they put you in a home they don’t get anything. Your choice but I can’t imagine doing that. You could end up like my mum and your kids could work their socks off doing the very best for you to the detriment of their own health. My mum wasn’t capable of understanding towards the end but I know if she could have understood she’d have been exceptionally proud of me for all I did for her and she would have wanted so very much for her children to enjoy the inheritance she left them.

I agree with this and many don’t realise. I have a very good friend who moved to Cornwall many years ago. She saw it as the lovely life many imagine. However, pretty much the whole of the summer was a nightmare as the roads were gridlocked, especially the seven weeks of school holidays. There was no such thing as jumping in your car to pop toTescos, you could be an hour stuck in traffic driving a mile down the road. You couldn’t go anywhere for the day without the hell of spending ages trying to find a parking space along with thousands of tourists. The weather on the west coast can be rough and as you say, very wet in winter. Also, like many tourist spots, much of it was dead during the winter and many things were closed down. After two years they moved back to where they had left and never regretted the return. I think places like Cornwall would be lovely if you could have a second home/holiday place there but I don’t think living there full time is a idillic as many think.

Her granddaughter would surely still have an advantage over a biologically born female as she will very likely be bigger and stronger. I have a friend who’s 17 year old granddaughter is now her grandson. They are undergoing counselling, have changed their name and everything they do is as a male. They intend to get surgery when they are allowed to. Hormone treatment can grow a beard, deepen their voice and all the other things that can be done to make them become a man, perhaps a very handsome man like your friends very pretty granddaughter. But, my friends grandson is slightly built and is 5 foot 2 inches. If he participated in male sporting competitions he’d be at a disadvantage and that’s biologically factual.

Possibly. Why doesn’t he just get a new Australian passport. Saves any issues and he’s then got a ten year passport to use ongoing.

Sorry to hear of your frightening experience. I assume with that evidence you sued the manufacturer for lots of money,