Guest241083 Posted November 24, 2017 Share Posted November 24, 2017 ........family commitment has a way of holding us...! .......but to be unhappy while only seeing others needs .........won’t help the situation .........perhaps by going and trying to see if your happier in the uk ........your daughter will accept the situation and either make her own life here ........or find returning to be with you is what she needs .........life passes quickly who knows what’s ahead .........be happy with your decisions ..........good luck with whatever you decide 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
s713 Posted November 24, 2017 Share Posted November 24, 2017 On 4/16/2017 at 17:02, Scousers1 said: I think i have just realised after 29 years here that it just doesnt work without family and friends. I have fought off feelings for most of this time and i have exhausted myself with what about this and what about that. Well finally i have realised i need my family my friends and my home. How do i tell hubby and daughter? I'm in a similar boat after 10 years. That said, I just went back recently and moving back to the NW wouldn't work for the wife and me, it's just too depressing. There's nothing going on and the weather's always shite. We've looked at other areas to move to but that might not alleviate the homesickness as every person I know never ventures outside their postcode. So, bit stumped. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wa7 Posted November 24, 2017 Share Posted November 24, 2017 46 minutes ago, Scousers1 said: I just could not leave her behind, we fight but we are very close too. I am scared to force her to go incase it turns out to be the wrong thing Its ok for you to be happy you know? You don't need to force anyone to do anything, just go on your own, It's her choice. Looking ahead with it all, you could get back to the uk and set yourself up in a nice place, then your daughter may come over and stay with you for a few months and get a proper feel for it and decide she will give it a go after all. On the other hand you may not enjoy it yourself quite as much as you thought and decide to return to Aus but atleast you did it instead of thinking " what if ". Its a horrible situation to be in but you really do need to get some closure on it for your own good. X 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scousers1 Posted November 24, 2017 Author Share Posted November 24, 2017 24 minutes ago, Wa7 said: Its ok for you to be happy you know? You don't need to force anyone to do anything, just go on your own, It's her choice. Looking ahead with it all, you could get back to the uk and set yourself up in a nice place, then your daughter may come over and stay with you for a few months and get a proper feel for it and decide she will give it a go after all. On the other hand you may not enjoy it yourself quite as much as you thought and decide to return to Aus but atleast you did it instead of thinking " what if ". Its a horrible situation to be in but you really do need to get some closure on it for your own good. X I think you are right, i need to take some action on this or it will drive me crazy. I have also thought about a house swap for a while to see how we feel. Thanks for your input 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Home and Happy Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 On 23/11/2017 at 06:53, Scousers1 said: My family and friends are all still there and readily available the minute we land, always have been. Love being with them. That's the best feeling in the world, when you finally touch down in Heathrow. Home. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScottieGirl Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 2 hours ago, Home and Happy said: That's the best feeling in the world, when you finally touch down in Heathrow. Home. Never felt that way, I like both countries and have lived happily in both. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ali W Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 On 4/16/2017 at 19:39, Scousers1 said: Yes been back many times. Last year i was there. I hate coming back each time. where are you? I am from Liverpool originally we've been here 5 years love it miss home go home miss here more ! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scousers1 Posted November 29, 2017 Author Share Posted November 29, 2017 We are in Melbourne eastern suburbs, where are you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ali W Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 We are in Fremantle WA, we are visiting Melbourne next year , do you want to go back to Liverpool ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight7 Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 I don't mean to be rude but after 29 years aren't your family and friends over here? Obviously you have a husband and daughter- aren't they your family? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scousers1 Posted November 29, 2017 Author Share Posted November 29, 2017 Friends have come and gone that many times. I have mostly had Aussie friends but some poms too, plus sri lankans, malays etc and they never stay in Melbourne. I was talking to another girl from Liverpool yesterday about it and thinking of all the ones who have been friends here that have left, either interstste or overseas and it has been alot. So, friends wise only a couple left! Family, of course hubby and daughter are my family but back home i have cousins, aunties etc who i would spend alot of time with. Interestingly, no one has moved away back home except me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScottieGirl Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 That is very much a Scouse thing. My inlaws are scousers and when my husband moved to London and people asked his mum what he did for a living she spat our 'he's in dat London'. Not a word about his successful career. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toots Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 1 hour ago, ScottieGirl said: That is very much a Scouse thing. My inlaws are scousers and when my husband moved to London and people asked his mum what he did for a living she spat our 'he's in dat London'. Not a word about his successful career. My mother in law was part of a large Irish/Liverpudlian family. She never settled in Australia after migrating and when her husband died (in his early 40s) she didn't think twice about moving back to the UK. My OH was 17 at the time and his little sister was a few years younger. They were instantly absorbed back into the family in Liverpool though mother in law moved to London and had a good job there until she retired. We lived in Wallasey for a few years and had some good times with my OH's extended family. They are a great bunch of people. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scousers1 Posted November 30, 2017 Author Share Posted November 30, 2017 Ha... I am from Wallasey and mum is from Liverpool so alot of family on both sides of the Mersey! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toots Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 1 hour ago, Scousers1 said: Ha... I am from Wallasey and mum is from Liverpool so alot of family on both sides of the Mersey! I used to walk down to the train station at New Brighton to catch the train to work in the city centre. Used to work in an office above Marks & Spencer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest263228 Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 5 hours ago, Scousers1 said: Friends have come and gone that many times. I have mostly had Aussie friends but some poms too, plus sri lankans, malays etc and they never stay in Melbourne. I was talking to another girl from Liverpool yesterday about it and thinking of all the ones who have been friends here that have left, either interstste or overseas and it has been alot. So, friends wise only a couple left! Family, of course hubby and daughter are my family but back home i have cousins, aunties etc who i would spend alot of time with. Interestingly, no one has moved away back home except me! We have found the same in Perth. I don't think a single person remains here from late 90's. Loads moved overseas, but also to Melbourne and Sydney. Almost all were foreign born. I thought that was a Perth thing? Looks from your experience, the same thing in Melbourne. But London the same as well. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scousers1 Posted November 30, 2017 Author Share Posted November 30, 2017 3 hours ago, Toots said: I used to walk down to the train station at New Brighton to catch the train to work in the city centre. Used to work in an office above Marks & Spencer. Wow.. We could have been neighbours!! How long ago was this? New Brighton is looking fab now, they have really brought it back to life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scousers1 Posted November 30, 2017 Author Share Posted November 30, 2017 (edited) I have just been to London and it is so busy you could imagine people coming and going. I have to say i dont like this aspect of it. I like friends you can count on for life, like the ones back home. Edited November 30, 2017 by Scousers1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toots Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 19 minutes ago, Scousers1 said: Wow.. We could have been neighbours!! How long ago was this? New Brighton is looking fab now, they have really brought it back to life. 36 years ago. Where we lived was so handy for everything. Shops, bank, post office, fish 'n chip shop, Chinese, all just round the corner. Great neighbours too. Glad to know New Brighton is looking good. It was a bit run down when we lived there. Used to enjoy the ferry trip from Birkenhead to Pier Head. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bristolman Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 On 29/11/2017 at 06:15, Home and Happy said: That's the best feeling in the world, when you finally touch down in Heathrow. Home. I must admit it was a fantastic feeling and yes very much like coming home. Odd for me as I grew up in Australia lol 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScottieGirl Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 On 23/11/2017 at 22:53, Scousers1 said: No, nothing said at all. It is driving me mad but i know if i bring it up we will end up fighting. We are back in OZ and all as depressed as ever! I find it way to hard to function here, it doesnt help when there is no talk about the holiday. I have been trying for way too many years to make this work for us, but now i have finally realised i have been trying for way too long. It was easier in the past but most people we know have either moved on or back to UK or even family have passed on. When we first came here there was so much to do and so many people around. Now there is just us and its not enough. Honestly do not know what to do What made you move to Aus in the first place? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skani Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 On 11/23/2017 at 17:46, Scousers1 said: She says she will not move though. You seem very dependent on your daughter's decision. She is 19 and will be transitioning into an independent life. There is no guarantee she won't obtain employment or a partner in the future which requires a move far away from wherever you live - either in Australia or the UK. However, what is the attitude of your husband? Won't he consider a return to the UK if you are really miserable? If you are convinced you will be much happier there and he's not prepared to compromise, you may have to make a hard call. There's no point living your life in misery and blaming others for it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scousers1 Posted December 3, 2017 Author Share Posted December 3, 2017 I very much doubt my daughter would move far away from home, she is a real homebody. Hubby would go back but its not his first choice snd i dont want to force him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paulswin Posted December 3, 2017 Share Posted December 3, 2017 I have a 17 and 19 year old and we are going back next year and at the moment both my boys are looking forward to the move but I’m like you I’ve already said we all go together or we stay here I couldn’t bare leaving one or both here on the other side of the world. If they decide later in life to come back here then I’ll deal with it but at the moment thankfully they are onboard What state do you live in 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exukgirl Posted December 6, 2017 Share Posted December 6, 2017 I was born in the Uk and my parents emigrated to NSW when i was 7..i was never interested in going back to the uk. 2 of my kids are now living there and i have just returned to Australia after a 6 week visit to all the family including a sister still living in the uk. I am feeling very lost since i got back, my husband who is aussie loved it over there and wants to move there...im kinda feeling the same but not sure so much to think about. I loved being back and seeing all my extended family and my kids especially. I still have a sister and a brother and one daughter in Australia and of course friends....I have really been struggling since i came home. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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