Lambethlad Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Stick it out till you get Australian citizenship. Too many people return at the first sign of homesickness and realize they have made a big mistake and want to return. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Oh how I have missed your nonsense petals!!!!! The point of the OP is that if all they do is go to work go home and go to bed then whats the difference to being in the UK? And you agree with this by admitting that its not so different in Australia... That's the whole point. If the day to day stuff is the same (which it is in most peoples cases and certainly was in ours) then what, precisely, is the advantage of living in Australia over the UK? Good to have you back with us Blobby, hope it's going well being back home. :smile: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 Struggled since I got here really, hubby been dong well even promoted to very responsible job. My problem is it took ages to get a job, I wanted to get out and meet people, instead I sit in an office on my own all day without a. Sole to talk to, I come home hubby goes to bed at 8 and out at 5am....I have had chance to see wht Aus is offering and except for the sunshine I may aswell be at home,at least I would have my family (albeit tiny).....dilemma ..hubby has even said he wants to stay help?! Sounds like you need a more sociable job. AS your hubby is doing so well he can fund your new Socialite Status whilst trying out some different roles that involve meeting lots of people and having some fun. Ditch the boring office Job !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wolvesaussie Posted June 3, 2013 Share Posted June 3, 2013 hi sorry to hear u have not settled. I have a worry my girlfriend will end up the same as I have a job lined up and will be working from day one which is great but I worry she will get lonely etc. looking to help her find a volunteers job to get her out and about. many of the opportunitys want u to commit to a fairly long period of time which wont be possible once she finds work. I guess they cant do much tho if u leave when u find a paying job Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blobby1000 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 Good to have you back with us Blobby, hope it's going well being back home. :smile: We rather cunningly moved to somewhere else we cant settle (Cornwall) and are heading back to real home (Cheltenham later in the year!) Someone far wiser than me on here said, when I said we would move to Cornwall on our return that "even a move 30 miles from home can have a massive impact". It does!! The first few weeks back home, even down here knowing nobody, we LOVED and we still love the UK, very very glad we came back but realise that we can only live in one place!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ptp113 Posted June 5, 2013 Share Posted June 5, 2013 We rather cunningly moved to somewhere else we cant settle (Cornwall) and are heading back to real home (Cheltenham later in the year!) Someone far wiser than me on here said, when I said we would move to Cornwall on our return that "even a move 30 miles from home can have a massive impact". It does!! The first few weeks back home, even down here knowing nobody, we LOVED and we still love the UK, very very glad we came back but realise that we can only live in one place!! Now that really is weird Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest chris955 Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 See for us it was different, we moved to an area we had never even been to or quite honestly had never heard of and we are all loving it. It was the same in Australia and although I grew up in Geelong I could never live there again. Ggod luck in Cheltenham, its a lovely area. We rather cunningly moved to somewhere else we cant settle (Cornwall) and are heading back to real home (Cheltenham later in the year!) Someone far wiser than me on here said, when I said we would move to Cornwall on our return that "even a move 30 miles from home can have a massive impact". It does!! The first few weeks back home, even down here knowing nobody, we LOVED and we still love the UK, very very glad we came back but realise that we can only live in one place!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul1Perth Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Oh how I have missed your nonsense petals!!!!! The point of the OP is that if all they do is go to work go home and go to bed then whats the difference to being in the UK? And you agree with this by admitting that its not so different in Australia... That's the whole point. If the day to day stuff is the same (which it is in most peoples cases and certainly was in ours) then what, precisely, is the advantage of living in Australia over the UK? The weather.:cool: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paul1977 Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 The weather.:cool: Makes no difference to people with broader horizon's in life .. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest chris955 Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 The weather certainly isnt an advantage for everyone of course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest26012 Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Exactly the same for us, because we have a 'better' life here I am looked at as an Oz hater, it would be funny if it wasnt so sad Ha ha ha! How could you be classed as an oz hater? To the op, I hope you got some useful advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest chris955 Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Ha ha ha! How could you be classed as an oz hater? To the op, I hope you got some useful advice? Yes its bizarre but a few sad sacks have that opinion Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest26012 Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Yes its bizarre but a few sad sacks have that opinion Pmsl! Ignore them, what would they know? Who would ever think your posts come over as anti oz? Bizarre! Sad? More than that me thinks? Get a life comes to mind lol! Anyhow, going off topic now, naughty, soz op! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest chris955 Posted June 6, 2013 Share Posted June 6, 2013 Yes a couple of more obnxious ones are permanently ignored but its funny watching them trying to bait me, more fool them really. LOL Pmsl! Ignore them, what would they know? Who would ever think your posts come over as anti oz? Bizarre! Sad? More than that me thinks? Get a life comes to mind lol! Anyhow, going off topic now, naughty, soz op! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Incata Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 PMS - What does it mean? I'm assuming it's not Pre-menstrual Syndrome? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted June 7, 2013 Share Posted June 7, 2013 PMS - What does it mean? I'm assuming it's not Pre-menstrual Syndrome? You missed the L on the end - peeing myself laughing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plus4holmes Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Hi I've been here 5 months 28 years of age I'm a bricklayer and came out on a work sponsor with my partner 27 and 2 kids 5 and 8. They love it and r so happy my partner got her self a really good job and loves it, kids love school and have fitted in so well.... Me I hate it what I have been doing in the uk for the past 10 years I am no good at it over here I don't fit in at all and never get 2 go out 2 meet people as I'm always working. I want 2 go home to my mates and to what I know and do best. Its hard 2 talk 2 my partner about it as she happy. I have no one to talk to no one to turn to all I hear is u have to fake smile it for 2 years I can't do that it's hurting to much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Metoo Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Hi I've been here 5 months 28 years of age I'm a bricklayer and came out on a work sponsor with my partner 27 and 2 kids 5 and 8. They love it and r so happy my partner got her self a really good job and loves it, kids love school and have fitted in so well.... Me I hate it what I have been doing in the uk for the past 10 years I am no good at it over here I don't fit in at all and never get 2 go out 2 meet people as I'm always working. I want 2 go home to my mates and to what I know and do best. Its hard 2 talk 2 my partner about it as she happy. I have no one to talk to no one to turn to all I hear is u have to fake smile it for 2 years I can't do that it's hurting to much. Please, please, please, talk to your partner about this. The reason I say this, is because I know of a couple who were in the exact same position as you. He kept her in the dark about how he was feeling and then when they came home to the UK for a 3 week holiday he finally came clean on the last day of their holiday and told her he wasn't oming back to Oz. she was in complete shock, and after a very fraught night she ended up boarding the flight alone. She had to go back as they had bought a house, and their two sons were working and carving out lives for themselves in Australia. That was two years ago, he never did follow her back to Oz, they have split permanently and she is out there alone now, taking care of herself and her sons. If only he could have told her sooner, I am sure they could have found a better solution. The ironic thing is, he actually liked living in Australia, it was the job that he hated and he actually misses Australia now he's in the UK. Too much water under the bridge now and too late for him to go back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Hi I've been here 5 months 28 years of age I'm a bricklayer and came out on a work sponsor with my partner 27 and 2 kids 5 and 8. They love it and r so happy my partner got her self a really good job and loves it, kids love school and have fitted in so well.... Me I hate it what I have been doing in the uk for the past 10 years I am no good at it over here I don't fit in at all and never get 2 go out 2 meet people as I'm always working. I want 2 go home to my mates and to what I know and do best. Its hard 2 talk 2 my partner about it as she happy. I have no one to talk to no one to turn to all I hear is u have to fake smile it for 2 years I can't do that it's hurting to much.Absolutely, talk to her! Like many she may well be faking it til she makes it and if you say it isnt working for you, she may heave a huge sigh of relief (or not, you never know until you do it!). The kids will be fine wherever their parents are happy! If you struggle to let your OH know, then consider doing it in the realm of relationship counselling - sometimes it helps to have an impartial third party there to help people clarify what they are hoping to say. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest dragon1970 Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 That is exactly as it was for us, as soon as it was out in the open it was like a huge weight lifted off our shoulders. Its interesting that you say like many because when we started telling people of our plans it was amazing how many migrants felt the same way. Absolutely, talk to her! Like many she may well be faking it til she makes it and if you say it isnt working for you, she may heave a huge sigh of relief (or not, you never know until you do it!). The kids will be fine wherever their parents are happy! If you struggle to let your OH know, then consider doing it in the realm of relationship counselling - sometimes it helps to have an impartial third party there to help people clarify what they are hoping to say. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul1Perth Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 Hi I've been here 5 months 28 years of age I'm a bricklayer and came out on a work sponsor with my partner 27 and 2 kids 5 and 8. They love it and r so happy my partner got her self a really good job and loves it, kids love school and have fitted in so well.... Me I hate it what I have been doing in the uk for the past 10 years I am no good at it over here I don't fit in at all and never get 2 go out 2 meet people as I'm always working. I want 2 go home to my mates and to what I know and do best. Its hard 2 talk 2 my partner about it as she happy. I have no one to talk to no one to turn to all I hear is u have to fake smile it for 2 years I can't do that it's hurting to much. Go to just about any pub after 4:30 on Thursday night Plus4, there will be plenty of other brickies, plasterers, electricians and other tradies to talk to. A lot of them will be poms too, you should feel right at home. I recommend the Mullaloo tavern for the $10 ribs and pint, that's if you're in Perth. Is it the same in other states? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chortlepuss Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 Lots on here that resonates with me. In Oz I'm lonely, apparently unemployable, and as someone else mentioned have to 'scratch a living' In the UK I have lots of friends, am highly employable in well paid work (IT) and can have a very comfortable lifestyle. I worked really hard in Brisbane to make friends, know a few lovely people but it is bloody hard work. After spending a couple of months poring over self help books and feeling I couldn't justify the expense of visiting a dr for depression, I came to UK to 'get over homesickness' it was like stepping thru the wardrobe to Narnia - social life, travel, walking, architecture, culture but most of all friendly accepting people who seem unbothered by status. I was offered a great temp job here and am extending my stay. Hate being apart from hubby & kids but the thought of going back to my slummy rental and feeling sad all day(I can't afford lunches in Oz/shopping etc) fills me with dread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 Lots on here that resonates with me. In Oz I'm lonely, apparently unemployable, and as someone else mentioned have to 'scratch a living' In the UK I have lots of friends, am highly employable in well paid work (IT) and can have a very comfortable lifestyle. I worked really hard in Brisbane to make friends, know a few lovely people but it is bloody hard work. After spending a couple of months poring over self help books and feeling I couldn't justify the expense of visiting a dr for depression, I came to UK to 'get over homesickness' it was like stepping thru the wardrobe to Narnia - social life, travel, walking, architecture, culture but most of all friendly accepting people who seem unbothered by status. I was offered a great temp job here and am extending my stay. Hate being apart from hubby & kids but the thought of going back to my slummy rental and feeling sad all day(I can't afford lunches in Oz/shopping etc) fills me with dread. I know that dread feeling - I am getting over it now but its taken a while. I cant imagine how hard it must be for you without the DH and kids! Isnt it fab to have your life back with social banter, things to do, places to go, people to see?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flybyknight Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 You can't have much of a conversation with a fish anyway. or a shoe seriously though, its all about socialising. get out there. when you're not at work, do something. do you have children, they can be a great excuse to socialise, get them into loads of clubs etc. no kids? then get yourself into loads of clubs if you moved to a new city in your old country, and knew no-one, you'd probably be just as upset. people wont just knock your door; make it happen im sure the sun will come out when you do. then its time to decide if you need to stay or go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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