pommyr Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Hi Guys, I sit here in a dilema, I am a new father to an 8 month old little boy and am living in Australia working in the best jobI have ever had. My wife though wants us to break up! She has been suffering from depression somethingI have tried my best to support, so much so I feel like I have no life outside of work or home. I dont go out so I make sure she can and look after my little man so she gets a break with all my free time. My wife's depression has taken its tollon her to the point she thinks that there is no option but to split. I don't personally think it will help her but I can't stop this. Now I know that I will have to notify DIAC when push comes to shove but I just want to know what chance do I have of staying in Aus! My littleboy is my only son and a citizen of Australia and obviously I will want access to him and what i believe will satisfy the term used in all DIAC info of 'parental responsibility.' Does anyone know what my odds are of staying? the DIAC website says that my case 'may' have grounds for PR being granted anyway, being that I am on a Temp Partner Visa and we have a child we will share 'Parental Responsibility' for. I can't find anyoneout there who knows anything on this subject but surely the Aussie Gov won't take me away from my son, there has been no abuse just a breakdown. It sickens and saddens me I have to ask this but any info to calm a fathers mind would be greeted incredibly warmly. I look forward to any feedback and knowledge on this subject. Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ciaranmacgiolla Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Sorry to hear your sad news, it sounds like u are going through hell at the moment, is there anyway she may see a councillor with u over the marriage, a new born puts stress on any relationship.. Sorry I can't help with where u stand but it may be worth your while contacting diac straight away. Best of luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lebourvellec Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Sorry to hear your sad news, it sounds like u are going through hell at the moment, is there anyway she may see a councillor with u over the marriage, a new born puts stress on any relationship.. Sorry I can't help with where u stand but it may be worth your while contacting diac straight away. Best of luck Don't follow this advice to contact DIBP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blossom Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Agreed. DO NOT CONTACT THEM YET. Get yourself a good agent first to advise you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lebourvellec Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Hi Guys, I sit here in a dilema, I am a new father to an 8 month old little boy and am living in Australia working in the best jobI have ever had. My wife though wants us to break up! She has been suffering from depression somethingI have tried my best to support, so much so I feel like I have no life outside of work or home. I dont go out so I make sure she can and look after my little man so she gets a break with all my free time. My wife's depression has taken its tollon her to the point she thinks that there is no option but to split. I don't personally think it will help her but I can't stop this. Now I know that I will have to notify DIAC when push comes to shove but I just want to know what chance do I have of staying in Aus! My littleboy is my only son and a citizen of Australia and obviously I will want access to him and what i believe will satisfy the term used in all DIAC info of 'parental responsibility.' Does anyone know what my odds are of staying? the DIAC website says that my case 'may' have grounds for PR being granted anyway, being that I am on a Temp Partner Visa and we have a child we will share 'Parental Responsibility' for. I can't find anyoneout there who knows anything on this subject but surely the Aussie Gov won't take me away from my son, there has been no abuse just a breakdown. It sickens and saddens me I have to ask this but any info to calm a fathers mind would be greeted incredibly warmly. I look forward to any feedback and knowledge on this subject. Thanks You asked similar question 7 months ago, the same advice still stands that you should contact a registered migration agent. But using up all your "freetime" to look after your son does sound a chore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CollegeGirl Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 I agree - contact an agent. But having a child together is one of the only circumstances under which they will STILL grant you PR if your relationship breaks down. I wouldn't worry. You don't have a legal right to take your child out of the country without the other parent's okay - so they're not going to force you to leave Australia and leave your own child behind. A MARA-registered agent can help you work through things with Immi so you can be 100% sure the outcome is what it is supposed to be. Hope this info at least helps you sleep better until you can talk to an agent! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blossom Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 I agree - contact an agent. But having a child together is one of the only circumstances under which they will STILL grant you PR if your relationship breaks down. I wouldn't worry. You don't have a legal right to take your child out of the country without the other parent's okay - so they're not going to force you to leave Australia and leave your own child behind. A MARA-registered agent can help you work through things with Immi so you can be 100% sure the outcome is what it is supposed to be. Hope this info at least helps you sleep better until you can talk to an agent! There was a guy on here a few days ago where exactly that is happening to him. :-( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
engaus Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Except that guy and his partner never applied for a spouse visa (if it's the one I am thinking of) . The OP holds a temporary partner visa which changes the ball game a bit. Temporary Partner visa holders If your relationship with your partner ends while you have a temporary Partner visa (subclass 820 or 309),you may still be eligible for the grant of the permanent Partner visa without having to fulfil the usual twoyearwaiting period if: • after you have entered Australia as the holder of a Partner visa (subclass 309), your relationshipbreaks down and either you or a member of the family unit of yours or your partner are the victim offamily violence committed by your partner; or • after you were granted a Partner visa (subclass 820), your relationship breaks down and either youor a dependent child of yours or your partner are the victim of family violence committed by yourpartner; or • after you enter Australia your relationship ends and you have parental responsibility for at least onechild (under the age of 18 years) in respect of whom your sponsoring spouse also has parental responsibility; or • your partner dies. You will need to establish that, had your partner not died, the relationship wouldhave continued. If you have applied for Partner visa while you are in Australia, you must also be ableto show that you have developed close ties with Australia. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marisawright Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Hi Guys, I sit here in a dilema, I am a new father to an 8 month old little boy and am living in Australia working in the best jobI have ever had. My wife though wants us to break up! She has been suffering from depression somethingI have tried my best to support, so much so I feel like I have no life outside of work or home. I dont go out so I make sure she can and look after my little man so she gets a break with all my free time. My wife's depression has taken its tollon her to the point she thinks that there is no option but to split. I don't personally think it will help her but I can't stop this. Have you thought of both going back to the UK, where she can get some family support? Post natal depression is a dreadful thing and needs professional help at the best of times - combine it with being far away from your support network, as you both are, and it's a recipe for disaster. It doesn't take much searching on these forums to find women who have been driven to the verge of suicide by it. I know you have the best job you ever had, but is that really worth losing your wife and your son over? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
engaus Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Have you thought of both going back to the UK, where she can get some family support? Post natal depression is a dreadful thing and needs professional help at the best of times - combine it with being far away from your support network, as you both are, and it's a recipe for disaster. It doesn't take much searching on these forums to find women who have been driven to the verge of suicide by it. I know you have the best job you ever had, but is that really worth losing your wife and your son over? The OP says he is on a temp partner visa, which would mean the wife is Australian - so her support network is here in Australia (presumably). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrussell Posted January 30, 2015 Share Posted January 30, 2015 Consult a registered migration agent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pommyr Posted February 1, 2015 Author Share Posted February 1, 2015 Hi Lebourvellec, I did in fact ask this question 7 months ago, and have been trying and trying in the way of support for my wife. Depression is a monster and it's not her fault but without treatment it is only gettin worse. In the last 7 months I did get my partner to seek help, she went to 3 sessions with a councillor and decided she was cured. I pleaded with her to continue as to avoid a relapse, though it's not really a relapse when denial makes you believe you are ok. The last 7 months have been difficult, I have seen my best freind in Aus about 3 times, and each time it was a s***fight just to get out of the front door. I like to think I'm a considerate person and I have had the full support of my wife's family throughout these months, infact they are amazed I'm still going at times. I don't want to sound like I am just moaning about having all my free time being taken up, looking after the little man is great fun he's a legend and I'm so happy he is unaffected by this at the moment. I thought the same advice would be true, and infact from all of my readings I will be alowd to stay in Aus to be a father to my son, that's what he deserves anyway. I do hope things get better, and we can move forward from here, I just need the security in my head that no matter what I will be there for my son and DIAC won't stop this! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lea211 Posted February 1, 2015 Share Posted February 1, 2015 Sorry I don't have any advice, just wanted to say that I really hope it works out for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozmaniac Posted February 2, 2015 Share Posted February 2, 2015 You need to consult a good RMA and you need to do it NOW to make sure that you take exactly the right steps to maximise your chances of being able to stay. @wrussell who posted above is a good RMA. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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