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Hi Lebourvellec, I did in fact ask this question 7 months ago, and have been trying and trying in the way of support for my wife. Depression is a monster and it's not her fault but without treatment it is only gettin worse. In the last 7 months I did get my partner to seek help, she went to 3 sessions with a councillor and decided she was cured. I pleaded with her to continue as to avoid a relapse, though it's not really a relapse when denial makes you believe you are ok. The last 7 months have been difficult, I have seen my best freind in Aus about 3 times, and each time it was a s***fight just to get out of the front door. I like to think I'm a considerate person and I have had the full support of my wife's family throughout these months, infact they are amazed I'm still going at times. I don't want to sound like I am just moaning about having all my free time being taken up, looking after the little man is great fun he's a legend and I'm so happy he is unaffected by this at the moment. I thought the same advice would be true, and infact from all of my readings I will be alowd to stay in Aus to be a father to my son, that's what he deserves anyway. I do hope things get better, and we can move forward from here, I just need the security in my head that no matter what I will be there for my son and DIAC won't stop this!

Hi Guys, I sit here in a dilema, I am a new father to an 8 month old little boy and am living in Australia working in the best jobI have ever had. My wife though wants us to break up! She has been suffering from depression somethingI have tried my best to support, so much so I feel like I have no life outside of work or home. I dont go out so I make sure she can and look after my little man so she gets a break with all my free time. My wife's depression has taken its tollon her to the point she thinks that there is no option but to split. I don't personally think it will help her but I can't stop this. Now I know that I will have to notify DIAC when push comes to shove but I just want to know what chance do I have of staying in Aus! My littleboy is my only son and a citizen of Australia and obviously I will want access to him and what i believe will satisfy the term used in all DIAC info of 'parental responsibility.' Does anyone know what my odds are of staying? the DIAC website says that my case 'may' have grounds for PR being granted anyway, being that I am on a Temp Partner Visa and we have a child we will share 'Parental Responsibility' for. I can't find anyoneout there who knows anything on this subject but surely the Aussie Gov won't take me away from my son, there has been no abuse just a breakdown. It sickens and saddens me I have to ask this but any info to calm a fathers mind would be greeted incredibly warmly. I look forward to any feedback and knowledge on this subject. Thanks

Thanks Marisa I had the feeling it was something I needed to address. I was looking to this forum purely for help in taking the pressures of ensuring I will be near my son whatever the outcome of this out of the equation . hence removing pressure and resentment it creates and allowing us to look at the problem without any external issues. I am as I said reccomending councilling to my wife and will do all I can to save the marriage as she is the original reason I moved to Australia.

Adam you are so right my child became my everything the moment he came onto this planet and is all I can think of at present. I have been having nightmares about what could happen with regards to my visa so its a relief to here that should be OK. Now without such pressures on my head I must move on and try and save this relationship! Fingers crossed there!

I am already pursuing councilling hoping wife will attend too! I know she is struggling at times with the little man and she gets frustrated with how calm he is with me. With regards to work I will be looking into whether it is sold or csol but I also don't want to raise my relationship issues quite yet at my new job. I have been there only two months. I have read that I would be granted pr because we have a dependant Australian citizen from the relationship but I do not know how solid this advice is. It eats me up thinking I may have to be in another country to my little man!

Hi guys. I have been living in Australia about 3 years currently on my temporary partnership visa. I have finally found a good full time job just had my first child with my partner life seems fantastic... Until a week ago anyway, when my wife told me she is not happy in our relationship... In fact getting to the point she told me to f*** off back to England. Well as you might guess quite the shock for this new father who finally managed to set off his Aussie career who loves driving home each day and cooking for my family cleaning up and generally thought everything was going fantastic... The Australian dream! Now since that morning we have not separated but I am constantly worried... I am on a temporary visa... If my wife pulls sponsorship I will have to leave my son behind and just as I thought life couldn't be better the world would decidedly suck! What are my options here has anyone else been caught in this situation? Now I never married for a visa but now if things continue and I can't save this relationship I may be sticking this out just to get one. What should I do?