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Going to make yourself ill jasepom. We went to oz on a whim returned twice would have been mortgage free in my mid forties if never tried it, but what an adventure and it 'aint' over yet.

History has shown those that dismiss extreme party winning votes and seats etc should wake up and smell the roses, yes a protest vote, but if enough get winning votes and seats and the tories are ousted labour become a minority party then still technically a protest vote? Cameron and labour need to take heed of the results, arrogance has a tendency to bite yer back on your own bottom, and successive main parties have shown extraordinary arrogance and condescending attitudes for a long time.

thanks for the replies, It was something that crept upon me and difficult to weigh up. I,m going to knock the house sale on the head and settle here a little longer, I have been offered a good easy going job with a big pay cut but better quality of life here for a while, then re assess, my youngest takes a pre military course end of june and I can see where we go from there, it 20 weeks, think i will give him support while he doing that. Mind you at 52 its not an easy thing to re settle back in Perth work wise even if I do take my money with me.. Thanks again. :hug:

Strange one this, my health issues after returning to the UK seem to be over and all is well, just a mri result to come back People who know of me on PIO know I love both UK and Oz. Well after 7 months back in the UK where I took a job at half the wages I am used to just to have quality of life for a while I am now planning to return to Perth for good as was more or less planned. Thing is my eldest is in Perth married 2 kids etc and is constantly on at me to return asap, grand kids miss me etc, Youngest here in UK 17 his mum and I are splitting amicably she grew up in Perth and says its not the same and prefers Uk plus to be fair we are parting as we outgrown each other. Thing is I feel so guilty about leaving either one of them, If I decided to stay longer in the UK my eldest would be so upset, yet my youngest at 17 looking to join the army or failing that mechanic seems to show no emotion as my returning to Perth apart from saying it would be boring without me. I was told on my return to UK my eldest had an episode and was distressed culminating with a weeks visit to stay with me,. I get sleepless nights now as I just dont want to upset either son, I would be renting alone in Perth and when my ex finds a rental here in UK my youngest has indicated he would stay with us both but not entertain return to Oz. I do feel younger son may need me more. This guilt feeling has crept up on me and left me in a dilemma to which I dont see a outcome, strange and a little un -nerving.

Great idea keeping people updated like that. My pal in Perth saying jobs available are reduced at present, Electricians excepted.

Well as said, I had suspected heart attack which has and may keep me in the UK a bit longer, I was well cared for, hospital for a week and meds etc and frequent visits for BP. Had an MRI at Southampton on weds, awaiting results and can honestly say the people from porters to the consultants were excellent. My only issue now is that the results of the MRi need to be looked at by consultants etc to see what exactly went wrong with my heart and if any further treatment required, my house sold within 2 weeks and now I have been told they want to exchange early June, so if I have a heart issue should I wait and return later as expenses in Perth could be damaging or just sell. My son 15 at the time in Perth had a ct scan, we were billed $400+ for this. The NHS was a godsend for me cannot fault them

Do it, I think you may well find it has the opposite effect you'll find you can use the break to confirm you made the right decision, people have carried on back in the UK and all you left behind is still there. you'll enjoy it and poss enjoy the flight back to Perth too.

yes back in Portsmouth for now, been interesting, most people now just moved on which is good, best time of year spring is here was lucky in that my tenants looked after my house, what has surprised me is the number of 'tradies' here now who claim to be gas engineers electricians etc after 3 months training, no disrespect to them but i would be a little concerned and it seems gas safe issue certs to just anyone now. but hey not really my prob but has hit the work availability here. hopefully see the next 2 weeks out then get a move on

Thanks for replies, The good thing is where ever I live will make me happy as i love both places, I wish I could do 6 months in each country every year, I think once I find out the results of the mri i can decide, if all is well ten off back to Perth for me, if any underlying probs ten meds etc will seriously make me consider staying here and downsize mortgage free and visit Perth as much as I can, I see it as a win-win situ really.

Some you may recall my earlier posts regarding my loving the UK and Perth and both have been very good to me even though I resigned myself to having one child in the uk and 1 in Oz. Well I didnt let on but I have been back in the UK for the last 5 months as my youngest stood by is decision to move back here as soon as he could and what a rollercoaster. I arrived on a rainy day and it seemed to rain for the next 3 months solid lol,I arrived first to clear the way for my son and get my house sorted. good to see parents but after near 3 years saw how much my dad has deteriorated and out of breath etc with a form of asbestosis.My old boss was straight on to me to work for him again so within a week of arriving I was back in college gaining my gas licences which I passed, I was told by my younger son that my eldest had some sort of emotional distress episode on my leaving which upset me and I remember being in Perth airport with both my boys wondering if this was the last time we would all be together, My eldest in fact booked a weeks visit to see me 4 weeks after I arrived!!. I started work and it was tough getting settled, On the first friday I sneaked to the local to semy pals as we always met on fridays in a local bar and none knew i was back,I found one pal in there who said the friday nights changed after i left and he was alone most weeks, good to catch up then on the monday he had a heart attack and has not been out since, that was november. still finding it difficult tosettleand the workplace had changed with lots of travel around hants and sussex etc, the house needed repairs due to leaks from the incessant rain but still it was home and in a way gld to be back. my youngest turned up just before xmas so all seemed well, trying to find other work as a gas engineer was difficult and my old contacts had moved on or away, coupled wit my partners mother who was ill and was phoning a lot, partner unable to move back for awhile and we had already agreed to part company, series of small but numerous bad luck occured but i was now settled and open to staying in the UK or Oz, still no jobs for me though and grew to dislike the job a lot although they now wanted me on the cards and a contract was due, my partner arrived and she moved into my house until she could find her own, 2 days later... I had a suspected heart attack,mild but put me in hospital and a month off work, came home to find contract of employment arrived, duly signed sent in and had to inform them I was off sick, straight away the company went cool on the idea of empolying me, asked me to resign if they paid sickpay til my sicknote expired which was increased by 4 weeks, had all sorts of test,small heart damage and still no idea what happened as arteries were clear insurance i took out for critical illness to pay off mortgage trying to get out of paying, several visits to partners mother increased and as i was off sick i visited to help out, turned up one day under all sorts of meds to find her dead on the floor, not good for me for sure and very sad for my partners mum, so funeral I sorted and wake etc at my house,eldest in oz married with kids still asking when i returning, youngest no intention of stepping foot in oz again. no more sick pay and no benefit sick pay until i complete habitual residency test which could and has taken months. the weather here been fab blue skies seaside and travel great, I signed of for a further month and have a MRI on heart in 2 weeks which i,m told will tell them what the problem with heart is, i tentatively put house up for sale for a month and it sold within 3 weeks,though i dont have to complete until the exchange of contracts, dilemma now is I would return to Perth alone where my eldest is or buy downsize here no mortgage, wait n see what mri results are as i on 7 tabs a day, i increased my visa rrv for a further 5 years ( and my youngest without him knowing 16 yrs ) So at the moment I stuck between a rock and a hard place and at 53 need to make a decision,personally now I feel i have moved on from the chase of good money doing the gas here and enjoyed the plod work i had in perth. however this time of year the uk is a beautiful place to be and inotice the upturn is there but slower than i imagined. a tough call to make. bit of a long post but as honest as i see it. I still see both good and bad in both countries and enjoy the positives of both. :-)

Nah, your'e building blocks now to make things worse,

Re Read this post and others Jasepom, No-one made you do anything, you are a grown up, you must have talked about it, if you felt coming back to the UK with your wife was better than staying in Aus in your dream job then you made the correct decision for you. I feel there is a bit of a large wooden spoon here just stirring things up for a reaction, and a little nasty to your wife, dont blame anyone else for your decisions, you made them. The UK is not that bad unless you want to believe it is.

Welsh beach in top ten in the world.

Lots of bad stories with regard agents giving bond back, seems they find any reason to trim it. you will have to pay for re advertising the property and admin break lease fees. one agent we had was really good, wetook videoes of the place on taking up rental showed them to her to prove marks on wall were already there so she couldnt charge us 300 dollars repaint. also had one ripped us off, I landscaped the whole overgrown garden did the plumbing repairs ( as the landlord hadnt made any profit on the house for a year ) we were charged 250 lawnmowing fees, many other fees, in the end we were told we were due 124 dollars from our 1800 dollar bond. tried to bill us for new hotplate and electrical works carried out, wiring melted in roofspace. they seem to treat tenants second class in oz whereas in uk my tenants seem to have more power. so we have had good and bad

'I have only ever lived in England' Says it all Gbye Grey Sky

those lists are out of date usually, my plumber pals say work slow yet gasfitter on list etc

http://au.news.yahoo.com/thewest/a/20274768/grim-future-looms-after-holden-closure Obviously not saying dont come etc, just keep your wits about you and do the research. couple who lived next door to my mum were in Ford melb, he lost his job they had to return.

we did it and i think wherever we were we had a lot of wanting for the positives of the other country, i think its something that stays with those of us that have lived abroad

he has always said he will return, he is quite mature, being torn between both countries and the boys was always going to be an issue. but its no drama really.

Yes he staying with family, the dilemma now is my partner his mum is considering returning to the uk for a spell, so now I have to decide if we should all go and spend say a year in the uk then finally say our goodbyes to everyone or just see where it goes, partner grew up in perth as a 10 pound pom kid, we shall see how things go after xmas my eldest is married to an aussie girl 2 kids etc so bit of a pull both ways and my dad becoming more frail as the dockyard work takes it toll on his lungs after all those years, difficult but not impossible situation

left school, November, year 11 had no intention completing year 12. I had fair amount of probs with him and school yet put him in a garage on work experience and he happy as, happily work 8-5 when he could have gone to school and finished at 1. I knew this moment was coming and I would not stand in his way just advise as best I can, those who know me on pio know i love both countries and both can niggle me, asi said before i could have retired at 45 as a gas/plumber but have a quite low mortgage on a house in the UK and wondering whether to sell and buy in Perth with a 30 year mortgage, renting is a pain in the ass. My son needs to make it there or maybe after the honeymoon period see that Perth is where he wants to be, I secretly renewed his visa, extended for 5 years so he will have a choice, still has his friends in the UK but I am not sure what he has to do re ni etc on a personal note when working in the UK as a contractor i registered with agencies to go for the work best paying, this year I have been inundated with e-mails from these agencies and ex bosses asking if I am available for work, my pals in construction all report the same so I would say its definately on the up there. It couldnt go any other way really though could it. difficult but then again I had plans and just went with them, tried it and turned to something else if it wasnt what i wanted,my son is just doing the same.

My 16 yr old is returning to the UK, never liked it in Perth and always said he wants to return asap. well, he left school and is returning. what does he have to do there?, obtain N.I number I assume, then what does he look for work or register anywhere, I am not really sure what he will have to do. thanx in advance

I dont understand people like Baz and petals who are constantly on the mbttuk forum arguing the point for Australia, we know you love Oz let those who found it difficult or simply found its not for them and feel the UK is far better say it on the forum. Baz are you still in the UK?, ifso you know not of Oz, if in Oz you seem to waste a lot of time on pio gushing about the virtues of Oz rather than enjoying them.

kids in any country make the best of any opportunity they have no matter where they are in the world, always invincible. us as parents were the same their age yet we all think we know better for them when we grow older let them go make their own success and mistakes just be there to catch them. what seems good to us may not be right for them

what worries me is some of the peeps I went to school with are starting to pop their clogs, and I,m only in my 50s, bodie with his 3.0 ford capri was a welcome relief from my days as a gasboard apprentice now he's gone along with Jack Reagan from the sweeny :eek: