Time for an update!t

[Shellybingobingo]

You are correct Shelly, Australia isn't any better than the UK. For me it was different as I married an Australian who couldn't settle in the UK otherwise I wouldn't be here. His parents migrated from England in 1949. He was born in Brisbane. When his father died (he was 16 when his Dad died) his Mum went back to the UK with him and his younger sister - his older sister stayed here. He enjoyed the first few years in the UK and hitch hiked around Europe - completed an apprenticeship then became homesick for Australia. We met and married and bought a house in Liverpool and worked and lived there happily until he told me he really wanted to return to Australia. I had been here on a WHV for 6 months and liked it so after mulling over all the pros and cons we arrived here in 1981. Funny how life pans out. Occasionally he used to ask me if we had done the right thing but all in all we have been very happy here. His Mum was very happy back in England and his younger sister still lives there.

 

yea maybe years ago jock in tas it was the land of opportunity not no more ! So maybe that's y I don't see a difference x. I better go pack lol been awake since four o'clock like a bleeding owl ! Lol best pack me case got a flight catch tonight excited lol I'm frozen this morning ! Hubby said its freezing more in Perth lol brrrrr

Edited June 24, 2015 by Shellybingobingo

[JockinTas]

Have a fab time with your hubby Shelly :smile:

[Shellybingobingo]

Have a fab time with your hubby Shelly :smile:

 

thanks I will

[Guest]

I think Fifi was suggesting that it's the Brits who ask these questions when she's been on meet ups.

 

I think migrants often do - they are using material success to justify being there, that was my parents experience in South Africa too.

 

Not pointing at you or Fifi with regards to this Ali - you don't Just making a general observation.

[ali]

I think migrants often do - they are using material success to justify being there, that was my parents experience in South Africa too.

 

Not pointing at you or Fifi with regards to this Ali - you don't Just making a general observation.

 

No offence taken LR - I think you're right, I remember my brother telling me 10 years ago that they'd had neighbours move in (Brissy) and they'd had to sell up and go back to the UK, but as soon as they got here they both bought very expensive cars outright and had $80,0000 worth of car on the drive but were moaning that they couldn't pay the bills

 

I think it's about priorities - our first car here was about $5,000 and lasted us about 3 years, we don't live in a Mc Mansion. My goals here were always to have a comparable life - our benefits are more subjective and not materialistic e.g. family time, activities.

[kiwiathome]

Hi Shelly, I guess I am saying again sorry, and goodbye. I have left, re logged on, but really felt I had to say what I had to say. Because I don't think it came across right.

 

I find you delightful, and u make us feel good after bad.

 

The day I said that, and I don't even really remember the first post, only afters, my mum just told me about her new cancer, and I will be responsible for caring for her. I am not going to beat around the bush, because won't come back on,

so here it goes:

 

I am sorry Shelly if I upset you. I stand true by what I said. You do hog these forums. Bear in mind, it might mean a lot too other posters on this forum to be encouraged, and heard.! My hubby is very busy in work, and I find it hard to make

friends in Australia. So I guess I just wanted to be heard. This forum was kind of a friend to me.

 

Your personality and gift of the gab is unique. You are such a big personality, you could have something of your own and we would tune in. You do put a smile on peoples face!

 

 

All the best Shelly, Sorry if I upset. just wanted to clear the air for final time because I have felt stink. kind regards to everyone, just wanted to leave on a good note, and say sorry for any upset.

 

Go for dreams, I am . In two years, back in England. Kind regards, Kiwi in aus.

[Shellybingobingo]

Hi Shelly, I guess I am saying again sorry, and goodbye. I have left, re logged on, but really felt I had to say what I had to say. Because I don't think it came across right.

 

I find you delightful, and u make us feel good after bad.

 

The day I said that, and I don't even really remember the first post, only afters, my mum just told me about her new cancer, and I will be responsible for caring for her. I am not going to beat around the bush, because won't come back on,

so here it goes:

 

I am sorry Shelly if I upset you. I stand true by what I said. You do hog these forums. Bear in mind, it might mean a lot too other posters on this forum to be encouraged, and heard.! My hubby is very busy in work, and I find it hard to make

friends in Australia. So I guess I just wanted to be heard. This forum was kind of a friend to me.

 

Your personality and gift of the gab is unique. You are such a big personality, you could have something of your own and we would tune in. You do put a smile on peoples face!

 

 

All the best Shelly, Sorry if I upset. just wanted to clear the air for final time because I have felt stink. kind regards to everyone, just wanted to leave on a good note, and say sorry for any upset.

 

Go for dreams, I am . In two years, back in England. Kind regards, Kiwi in aus.

 

 

hi kiwi no need to apologise it's is fine really ! I'm just going fetch me hubby but I shall pm UK privately lots of love coming your way , but I will pm you as soon as I get chance big hugs and no need to apologise honestly xxxxxxxxx

[kiwiathome]

Thanks Shelly, no need to go further. Just too much going on for me at mo. Not about that. Just would of hated to think I had caused upset or harm to anyone. can move on, cause your OK. All the best. x kiwi. In two years, back in Uk! positive!

[legoman]

Hello everybody!

 

We have now been back in the UK longer than we were in Australia and have returned (via a failured venture in Cornwall for 8 months) to the same house and town that we left in Gloucestershire . We have been back 31 months and were in Australia 26 months?

 

Its been an interesting time and generally quite unsettling for the adults! Our children have settled into a great school, our oldest has been well behind due to not starting in Australia (and attending a rubbish school in Corwnall) so effectively missing the first 2 years of education. But he is catching up and both our children are happy. Our trusty dog (now 10) is still alive and has been joined by a new puppy. I have a job that I enjoy and Mrs Blobby has a job that she doesn't (no change there)

 

I suppose the point of my post is to say that although we seem to be doing quite well (and are hopefully about to move house as well) we have found it difficult to get Australia out of our heads. It was a while ago, but you may recall that during the 26 months we spent in Australia, I spent most of my time on here moaning. Towards the end I saw the error of my ways, but Mrs Blobby grew to absolutely abhor Australia and all things Australian. It's fair to say I would have given Australia one more chance in terms of moving whilst we were there to try a third location...but coming home was my idea at first...and it was always going to end that way after we agreed we wanted to leave....having said that we NEVER expected to be back in the same town, the same house (and until recently, me doing the same job)....we had hit a wall in Australia and just couldn't see anything good about it......it was all to do with absolute total negative thinking (everyone on here told me that,,,but I didn't listen).

 

Anyway, now we are back there are some positives and negatives that I think would be interesting to mention. I genuinely find English people nicer than Aaustralians..friendlier, funnier, more intelligent....(I'm talking generally...as we all know there are plenty of ignorant, unamusing, unfriendly thick English!).... And I do prefer England as a country...the greenery, the seasons, Christmas, swimming without constant worry about being eaten or drowning, the humour, the pubs, the ale, the football (although I've gone off that)' National Hunt racing (flat racing sucks!), snooker (!!!), being able to drive my car without being tailgated, sworn at and driven off the road, not getting speeding fines every week, sensible weather (not 46 degrees!)

 

BUT

 

life just doesn't feel the same! I'm lucky...I have a lovely family...believe me I'm not saying life is dull...it is not. But our time in Australia, looking back, was so exciting! We had the whole country to go at...we didn't really know where we would be living from one year to the next...we could get in the car and go on road trips having no idea what we would find....we lived by the beach...the coffee was great...the scenery was incredible, we could spend our time looking for whales, trying not to get eaten by sharks, seeing Dolphins, watch our son dive into our own private pool in Bali and swim a width before breakfast, never knowing when it's going to rain and when it rained did it bloody rain,,,and the electrical storms....never seen anything like it. And you did get in a car wondering if you would die! It was really edge of the seat stuff at times! And we had money, and we didn't know what to expect from one day to the next (although at the time I kept saying I was bored)

 

it's funny but I have good family and friends and loads of stuff I like to do that I can only do in England. In a sense, when these things come around England feels special but it also gets me thinking 'was it REALLY worth coming home for this? Is Cheltenham Race Week really that important?!!!

 

i guess you can only make a decision based on how you feel at the time. And at the time I genuinely think we were both a bit depressed and actually quite paranoid. I look back now and really do think that.

 

im not saying we made the wrong choice but I miss the adventure. And funnily enough, Mrs Blobby would return to Australis tomorrow if I would agree! I wonder if that would work? (We are NOT coming back! Too risky. And too much upheaval for the kids!)

 

anyway just a few thoughts

 

In conclusion, I have to say... Life is never quite the same after you've emigrated!,,

 

I feel your pain mate I really do, Indecision killing me now, stay mortgage free uk with younger son who is off and out most times, or return to perth with older son distraught at my return to uk and the 2 grandaughters there. thought I was sure what i wanted to do. now at 54 I stilldont know. :-(

[davlap]

 

im not telling you how to live your life...and it's hard to get motivated when you are feeling down...but you should lead by example...say "right, this suburb is boring.,.....i want us to live somewhere better" (and there are better suburbs in Melbourne than Greemsborough) you could move somewhere better without uprooting the family......

 

if if your family won't listen then you go and discover that suburb,....and then show them it.....you could win them over!

 

i know it's not that easy.......but you can only control what you do, and it sounds like you haven't given up on finding happiness in Australia so I reckon you need to carry on!

 

The boring suburb thing is only a minor part (not mentioned by me until you pointed it out from my profile!!). Just a tweak that might help things. At heart lies a bigger problem where I/we have not really had much 'success' of making a go in Aus (reasons mentioned before) and I don't know if I want to stay here at all, let alone Melbourne. Trying the east coast is probably a minimum for me before seriously thinking of heading back to the UK.

[wattsy1982]

The boring suburb thing is only a minor part (not mentioned by me until you pointed it out from my profile!!). Just a tweak that might help things. At heart lies a bigger problem where I/we have not really had much 'success' of making a go in Aus (reasons mentioned before) and I don't know if I want to stay here at all, let alone Melbourne. Trying the east coast is probably a minimum for me before seriously thinking of heading back to the UK.

 

Follow your heart, its not often wrong!

[blobby1000]

The boring suburb thing is only a minor part (not mentioned by me until you pointed it out from my profile!!). Just a tweak that might help things. At heart lies a bigger problem where I/we have not really had much 'success' of making a go in Aus (reasons mentioned before) and I don't know if I want to stay here at all, let alone Melbourne. Trying the east coast is probably a minimum for me before seriously thinking of heading back to the UK.

 

Fair enough and I hope it works out for you

[blobby1000]

Follow your heart, its not often wrong!

 

Where are you these days Wattsy??

[wattsy1982]

Where are you these days Wattsy??

 

Hi @blobby1000 , we are still in Aus (gold coast) been here 2 years now. Times flown but to be honest Im no more settled than I was when we stepped off the plane. Don't get me wrong, I dont dislike it here, just miss home, people and life in general.

 

We were planning to move home this year (would have been next tuesday actually) but my wife wasnt ready to go and she said she would always feel the pull to come back if she left before she was ready.

 

We are going to stay and get citizenship (2 more years) and then decide. Kids will still only be 7 and 5 then so young enough to move and settle. We are about to build a house and have a holday back home planned for 5 weeks next June/July for 2 weddings and my sisters 40th birthday so plenty to keep us occupied for the time being.

 

Funnily enough, it was me that wanted to move home this year but then when we decided to 'give it a bit longer' I suggested another 2 years (purely for citizenship) and it was then my wife that panicked and said, "oh why dont we just see how it goes when we go back for the holiday". My thinking is that if we arent going back 1 way for the wedding we will need to come back here for 6 ish months to save to move back so may as well do another 6 months and be eligable for citizenship.

 

I have no plans to move back here once we move home but you never know whats around the corner and should the kids do what we have when they are older it would mean we could come too instead of going through the lengthy parent visa process.

 

How is it being back home, your first post suggested you are on the fence? For me family and the variety in life throughout the year is what I miss most. Different weather, scenary, colours, clothes, food, activities etc...just keeps life a bit more interesting I think.

 

Dan

Edited July 2, 2015 by wattsy1982

[Que Sera Sera]

Hi @blooby1000 , we are still in Aus (gold coast) been here 2 years now. Times flown but to be honest Im no more settled than I was when we stepped off the plane. Don't get me wrong, I dont dislike it here, just miss home, people and life in general.

 

We were planning to move home this year (would have been next tuesday actually) but my wife wasnt ready to go and she said she would always feel the pull to come back if she left before she was ready.

 

We are going to stay and get citizenship (2 more years) and then decide. Kids will still only be 7 and 5 then so young enough to move and settle. We are about to build a house and have a holday back home planned for 5 weeks next June/July for 2 weddings and my sisters 40th birthday so plenty to keep us occupied for the time being.

 

Funnily enough, it was me that wanted to move home this year but then when we decided to 'give it a bit longer' I suggested another 2 years (purely for citizenship) and it was then my wife that panicked and said, "oh why dont we just see how it goes when we go back for the holiday". My thinking is that if we arent going back 1 way for the wedding we will need to come back here for 6 ish months to save to move back so may as well do another 6 months and be eligable for citizenship.

 

I have no plans to move back here once we move home but you never know whats around the corner and should the kids do what we have when they are older it would mean we could come too instead of going through the lengthy parent visa process.

 

How is t being back home?

 

Dan

 

Just be warned it takes at least another 3 months after you apply for citizenship to actually get it, sometimes even longer depending on your local council.

[wattsy1982]

Just be warned it takes at least another 3 months after you apply for citizenship to actually get it, sometimes even longer depending on your local council.

 

Yeah we are aware of that. We will be eligable in the July and are looking at moving home by the xmas...if not, another few weeks wont be the end of the world.

 

We have some friends here on the gold coast who are currently going through it and they offer plenty of dates here and in brisbane.