VERYSTORMY Posted January 19, 2013 Share Posted January 19, 2013 Ok, I will through in another opinion. What makes you happy? For me it is my partner. I can live anywhere as long as I have her. Where are you compared? Also, what is it you think Oz is going to give you? You still need to go to work, pay the bills, get rained on, worry about this and that, live in a first world society with all of the issues that brings such as crime, social issues and the like. Employment in IT has been, according to posters on here recently, been poor and several have returned. So you have to put all of that in perspective and then decide what the future holds for you both. Is this the girls you want to marry and have children with? Does she have, and I think she has, a valid point that life for her and maybe de facto, not as good in Oz for you both? You need to do a lot of thinking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
claudiodr Posted January 19, 2013 Share Posted January 19, 2013 Hey man, I feel for your situation, was in a similar position. I'm South African, came over to the UK during my gap year and loved it. Went back to SA with full intention of getting my degree and coming right back over to UK perm. Whilst studying I met met the girl of my dreams (now my wife) but we broke it off because she'd been to UK and hated it (No offence - just the weather's cr@p) and I insisted my life plan included me migrating to UK. Anyway, long story short we knew we wanted to be together (and happy wherever we landed up). We came to a compromise, I came over a year before her and maintain the relationship long distance and she'd follow me over and give it a year. If after a year it didn't work out I'd follow her wherever she wanted to go. So, it's now 6 years later, married for 5 and although we're still happy here in UK we've made the decision together to immigrate to Aus. Basically what I'm saying is if she feels like 'the one' (cheesy I know, sorry) then try find a compromise between you. If you have doubts, make decisions that feel right for you! Good luck man! C PS: My Mrs' folks were also very well off and she admits now that she was completely spoilt. Getting out of her comfort zone was the best thing she ever did (her words not mine) and I've seen her grow exponentially! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacaranda Posted January 19, 2013 Share Posted January 19, 2013 Make a decision based on what you feel TODAY,not next week or 10 years time.Whatever decision you reach will never be a mistake because you made the decision based on what you know now and feel now.Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bubbe2005 Posted February 28, 2013 Share Posted February 28, 2013 you only live once and life is too short Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vcosta Posted February 28, 2013 Share Posted February 28, 2013 I tried to persuade my partner of 3.5 years to go out there with me. I ended up staying here as he didn't want to go, then he left me and I am furious with myself for not doing what I really wanted. Now even if I totally fall for someone before I get there I am still going! You're 29, don't wait until 37 like me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
james007 Posted October 30, 2013 Author Share Posted October 30, 2013 So the end to this story goes like this: I got my perm visa today Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tappers2oz Posted October 30, 2013 Share Posted October 30, 2013 So the end to this story goes like this: I got my perm visa today Oh wow great news!! What happened with you and your gf and when do you plan to head over?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
james007 Posted October 30, 2013 Author Share Posted October 30, 2013 Me and my ex split up earlier in the year... it was hard and still hurts now but she was prob not the 1 hey if we have diff dreams.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tappers2oz Posted October 30, 2013 Share Posted October 30, 2013 Me and my ex split up earlier in the year... it was hard and still hurts now but she was prob not the 1 hey if we have diff dreams.. Very hard decision I'm sure. If you had a dream for that long it's difficult to ignore the chance of fulfilling it if/when the opportunity arises. Super news about the PR visa though. :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Pom Queen Posted October 30, 2013 Share Posted October 30, 2013 So the end to this story goes like this: I got my perm visa today That's great news on the visa. Thank you so much for updating your thread, there are lots of members who post and then I wonder what happened to them. So where are you heading? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
james007 Posted October 30, 2013 Author Share Posted October 30, 2013 "No worries" Brisbane, queensland, but who knows could end up somewhere else..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rickandange Posted October 30, 2013 Share Posted October 30, 2013 "No worries" Brisbane, queensland, but who knows could end up somewhere else..... Foot loose and fancy free hey :biggrin:. You've got a lot of guts making the decision! Hope your move turns out to be everything you hoped!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
james007 Posted October 30, 2013 Author Share Posted October 30, 2013 Foot loose and fancy free hey :biggrin:. You've got a lot of guts making the decision! Hope your move turns out to be everything you hoped!! Me 2 wish me luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxlornaxx Posted October 30, 2013 Share Posted October 30, 2013 Ahh good luck sounds like this adventure was meant to be Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest30085 Posted October 30, 2013 Share Posted October 30, 2013 So the end to this story goes like this: I got my perm visa today Congratulations on gaining your visa Sometimes it comes at a cost (mine was my sanity ) but I hope things all work out for you in your new adventure Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
calNgary Posted October 30, 2013 Share Posted October 30, 2013 Congratulations on the visa and lots of luck with your plans Cal x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toodolou Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 congrats and good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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