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Ok - so i think we can hear your anxiety coming through. I really think you need to go get some professional help, initially by yourself and then with your husband. You guys need to make this decision together or there is a very good chance that the relationship won't survive. Just on the resentment issue, if you end up going by yourself and having the child in the UK, not only will your husband resent you, your chld may end up resenting you if he/she grows up without their Dad in their life. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but it is the reality. Unfortunately, I have some experience in a similar (if not the same) situation and have come across cases where the child turns completely against 1 parent in similar circumstances. So, I'll leave it as - talk to your GP and ask for a referral for a Mental Health Plan. This will get you some professional counselling funded by Medicare and you can plan how either work through the issues or have that conversation with your husband. BTW - the baby will become a child will become an adult and will very much care if they grow up in one country while their other parent is in another - that is the worst case scenario. I really hope you guys can work through it and come to an agreed decision that works for you both. Whether that is to move to the UK or find a way to make Australia feel more like home for you. Like I said - Good luck and please go talk to your GP as the anxiety and worrying is not good for the baby.

Hi there, First off, congratulations on your pregnancy to both you and your husband. You say that you suffer from anxiety, pregnancy hormones can often accelerate feelings of anxiety. I suggest you talk to your GP about it, you can get a referral for some counselling from them (funded by Medicare). There you can talk with a professional and get help with strategies to manage your anxiety. You also need to talk with your husband (without scaring the hell out of him). Having being through something similar with my ex, what I will say is that if you choose to go to the UK without your husband or if he goes begrudgingly, there is a high chance that he will always resent you for it and it could lead to the end of the relationship, if not immediately, then down the line. While it is understandable, that you want your family in your child's life, I'm sure your husband will also wants his family in the child's life. Just because they are in a different country doesn't mean they will not be in your life. My daughter skypes regularly with her grandparents, my sister and her kids. My mum said the other day that she sees my daughter as often on skype as she does my sister's kids. This is then supported by regular visits both ways. My last comment may sound a bit harsh but I feel it needs saying. You have a child on the way, he/she comes first. Going forward it is not about you or your husband anymore. It is about what is best for your child. Good luck.

Ok, so it sounds like this is a relatively new relationship. I'm no expert but think you will face difficulties for a partner visa. Could be worth spending some money with a migtration expert to work out the best strategy (if any). Can he move to the UK for a period to establish the relationship?

Congrats on the move and your pregnancy. Look, it depends on the person, some people never settle and end up moving back. You are an expat now and sometimes that requires you to move out of your comfort zone and make the extra effort to start building social circles etc. Have you joined any playgroups for your son, good opportunity to meet other parents. Have a look at meetup.com for groups with similar interests to you. It will be a bit hit & miss but don't write it off, you could find some good new friends. Have you joined any local clubs etc? What I can say is that 4 months in is probably too soon to make a call. Moving to the other side of the world is a big deal. I have ping ponged a bit and find that it takes about 18 months to truly settle (was the same when I moved back to Dublin in 2007). Also, it is winter now, spring, summer and autumn bring out the best in Australia. Not working can get you down when you are looking for work. What type of work are you looking for? Working helps, not just financially, but socially and giving one purpose etc. Is the issue that it is a competitive market for your skills? Given that you will taking time off in the next 6-12 months for the pregnancy (fingers crossed), maybe this is an opportunity to do something different for while. Maybe broaden your horizons and consider roles you normally wouldn't. It will only be for a short time. If you find yourself getting anxious, talk to your GP about a referral to a counsellor to help you work through the issues (funded by Medicare for PR & citizens) Good luck.

Goes back into the prize pool for future draws AFAIK. I think you have 3 months.

Ok, so what I think you are saying is that You have already used your WHV You lived here as a spouse on your (now) ex's 457, when the relationship ended you moved back to the UK. You have started a new relationship with a previous friend in Australia (Aus citizen?) but it is currently a long distance relationship (with visits etc). You want to move over to be with the new partner and apply for a partner visa but don't have the history in the relationship to satisfy the criteria (live together for 12 months etc) Is that it? What is your occupation? Do you qualify for a visa in your own right?

It has already been brought in in many countries due to the addictive nature of codeine. It was also being bought and mixed in with illegal drugs.

Sorry - not familar with the e600. The 457 visa is a temporary visa designed to temporarily fill skills gaps in the economy. At the end of the visa you are expected to leave the country. They changed the rules on it recently and occupations are now on a 2 year and 4 year list. Have a look through the threads, it will have been well covered. AFAIK - Yes your spouse can come on it and work. You are tied to the employer (which causes it's own issues if you don't like them - they have you by the short & curlies) But the big take away is that it is a temporary visa and when the job finishes, you will need to leave. There is not a pathway to retire to Australia based on this visa. Look, it 's worth spending some money with an agent to examine your options for what you want. I'm no expert but I think the best option for you will be via being NZ citizens and the reciprocal arrangements between Australia and NZ, I know that they have tightened them up in recent years but not familiar with the details.

Hey mate, I think you're best bet is to talk to a migration agent to work out your options and the consequences of these options When you say sponsor, do you mean a 457 visa or sponsor for PR? Have either of you any family living in Australia as citizens/PR? Given your ages, I think PR will be difficult (but may be wrong). If you can get a 457 (2-4 years depending on the list), your wife can be included but it is a temporary visa with no rights to PR. When the job finishes, you are obliged to find another sponsor or leave the country.

Sorry, just seeing this now. Moved for my daughter (who should be in Sydney). Long story but after nearly 3 years of coming over every month and trying to do skype calls, it just got too hard, it wasn't sustainable and both she and i were missing out o important stuff. Don't get me started on the family court system and, some parents abuse the hell out of it and are let do so. Teh whole thing needs a massive overhaul and children's matters should be removed from the court system altogether. I don't mind Perth but if I had my choice I would be back in Balmain (or Dublin). My little girl comes first though.

Yep - could easily have 2-3 Adelaide sized cities along the south coast

Not really, depends on where you are going. Singapore airlines are very highly rated and is you are going to do a city stopover, I would pick there or Hong Kong. You will need to do a stop somewhere in Asia or the middle east (although London-Perth direct starts with QANTAS next year). Most common are Emirates, Etihad, Qatar, Qantas through the middle east (Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Doha), or through Asia, Singapore, Bangkok, KL or even through China (Hong Kong or other chinese cities). Lots of options from London. Skyscanner or kayak best IMO for assessing across the options. I travel to/from Dublin and tend to favor Etihad, avoids a 2nd stopover (LHW, CDG etc)

Pop over on the ferry to the NI, the causeway coast is stunning. Belfast worth a night or 2, Titantic exhibition is quite good and city hall

Well, the first thing is to understand where your skills lie. Applydirect.com.au is quite good for government jobs.

No worries, The Olgas were pretty cool but the best think IMO was checking out the sky and stars with no light pollution by the campfire.

Did an organised group trip in 2012, flew into Uluru and out of Alice. Did Uluru, Olgas one day, camped overnight and then drove to Kings Canyon another night, camped lot and then to Alice for a night before flying to Sydney. Alice is dodgy and you need to be careful at nighttime (we were advised to get cabs everywhere after dark). TBH - I thought it was a bit of a dump and nothing there. I'm in no rush back. If I was to do it again, I would fly into and out of Uluru (covers the Olgas as well - can't remember the Aboriginal name) . It may mean skipping Kings Canyon (which was good bit was it worth the 4 hour drive? I don't know).

Big snow dumps expected in the snowy mountains this weekend so must be from that same low pressure. Perth has been rainy and stormy for the last week or 2 but beautiful the last couple of days

Hi Noelle, Under the proposed rules (not law yet), you need to live in Aus for 4 years as a PR to apply for citizenship. I'm not sure what gaps are allowed in the 4 years. Note that depending on where you are, there may be long delays in the citizenship application actually being processed. In Perth, I know people who have applied last October and have now have their test in November 2017 and then it may be another couple of months to the ceremony. So you may have to wait another 12-18months for the application to be actually processed and you get your certificate. One of the migration agents will probably be along soon to fill in the info on the gaps. It may be useful to post when the 2 years 10months was.

If you can plan your travel in advance, you can get good fares. I flew SYD-PER return nearly monthly for 21/2 years. WIth a bit of planning and watching the sale fares you can get good fares, I often got $350 return with Virgin at reasonable times (did the red eye a few times but got too hard). It is a long way, generally 5 hours coming west and 4 going east. Most of my fares were $350-$500 return with Virgin.

Yeah - you'll just have to have a couple of months experience to get a feel for things. Worth tracking it though (there are apps you can use, I like my excel spreadsheets though), after that you can make a budget/plan for going forward.

Yep, i agree with Ken. This is a fallacy spouted by vested interests (Real Estate Agents, Landlords). Landlords will charge the market rent. If the rent is not covering their costs, they either exit the market (freeing up a property for a buyer - so they cancel each other out, 1 less property, 1 less renter) or wear the loss (hoping for capital appreciation). The taxpayer should not be subidising the investment (of any asset class)

Well, it should be big enough to be self sustaining. It does have the raw materials to be a fantastic city, great beaches (and plenty of them), super climate (little or no humidity). The Swan river is not quite Port Jackson but is still pretty attractive with the foreshore largely accessible to the public. It is fairly easy to get around by car but the public transport could do with some improvement Asia is pretty accessible (closer than Sydney or Melbourne) with Singapore a 5 hour flight away. It will be interesting to see if there is an impact from the direct Europe flights next year. Lots of potential but a ways to go on capitalising on it.

Interesting, although it does say there are restrcitions so would be interesting to know what they are and is it apples and apples.. Germany and Sweden don't seem to go through the issues with the property market that Australia (& NZ) does - soaring increases in prices and rents. Outside of the major cities, the US doesn't seem to experience the extreme price inflation that we do, they do have non recourse lending over there though. I know that in Germany, most landlords are institutions (pension funds) who run a professional portfolio as part of the investments rather than the Mom & Pop landlords with 1 or 2 properties. Also people tend to rent long term (often decades). Tenants rights are a lot stronger, although when you rent in Germany, you generally are renting the shell, putting in your own globes, curtains etc, often you even have to put in your kitchen (or buy it from a previous tenant). AFAIK, Japan often have intergenerational mortgages (50 years +) where the asset and remaining mortgage pass onto the next generation, Often you have 3 or 4 generations of the same family living together.

Fair enough. I thought it was a fair question in the interests of transparency.

Yep but if you track your spending in a spreadsheet, you will get a good picture after a month or 2 and that will help you frame a budget going forward. I've been doing this for years. I try to pay for nearly everything by card (credit card or debit card), then you can download your transactions into a spreadsheet easily and categorise them. Pay off you credit card in full by the due date though. I am an accountant, though so like my spreadsheets It doesn't have to be exact but will give you a good idea.