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  1. Sorry Jimmy I can't help with your practical questions but other members including @Marisawright will hopefully be along to advise on some of the financial implications of relocating back to the UK. @VERYSTORMY and @LKC also moved back to Scotland in recent years and have both settled very happily. Good luck with the adventure! As you know, you are returning to a beautiful part of the UK . T x
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    CTF - what's the solution

    Ali isn't asking whether people want to keep CTF as how people feel about this section of the forum isn't the issue, it's the unmanageable amount of work created for the mods that is unacceptable. Removing the report button might reduce their need for input but allowing threads to disintegrate into cyber bullying and worse would inevitably change the general atmosphere of the site. For different reasons the same could be said about closing CTF, as PIO would simply become a migration Q&A forum and the friendly community who visit threads such as IKNWC etc would probably disintegrate. I'm not sure there is a simple answer but I remember similar problems years ago in relation to MBTTUK and one of the main reasons I joined PIO was to offer support to pingpongers on the receiving end of scathing and patronising criticism. Things got so bad that for a while a private section was set up but ultimately it was no longer needed, and thankfully MBTTUK seems a lot more civilised these days. But I wonder if this approach might work again? i.e. move a complained about thread to a private section and anyone who wants to continue to read or contribute to it must either be a member of the exiled thread section, or apply to become a member? Other than that I have no idea as people will always disagree, some more loudly than others and often without filters of any kind. T x
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    Is it the right thing?

    It's a gamble and for many the risk would be worth it, but I guess much depends on your priorities and focus. Does what you might gain outweigh what you might lose? If you move and things don't work out, which would you regret more - the end of the Australian dream or sacrificing the life you once had in Cornwall? There's no right or wrong answer, only a difficult decision made more pressing by the timescales you are working with. Good luck Tappers, weighing heart and head is never easy. T x
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    Moved back and confused!

    It doesn't have to be a massive connection in the sense of living in each other's pockets. We live a fair distance from the rest of our family but near enough to be part of all those happy, as well as sad, occasions. My child has grown up with a real sense of belonging, knowing where she fits into her wider family relationships, and has so many memories of time spent with different generations of people who love her. Some of those people are no longer here and in that respect I do think her childhood was richer for having the opportunity. Having said that, moving to Aus my nephews could not maintain such close ties but they too have grown up happy in their smaller family unit, and enjoyed visits from family and friends from overseas. I doubt they feel they have missed out and there's a good deal of truth in the saying 'you don't miss what you've never had.' Whether that's a good or bad thing depends on your point of view and is likely to mean different things to different people. T x
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    Moved back and confused!

    People say all sorts when they are angry or frustrated and the 'better childhood' argument is banded about a lot, even when people aren't arguing, but I'm not convinced it is true tbh. As first world countries both Australia and UK produce children who grow into happy well rounded adults. Opportunities and experiences may differ, but different is not necessarily better or worse. My nephews learnt to body board in Australia while my own child did the same but with a wet suite in West Wales, and all of them have happy and treasured memories of that time. I think as adults we can get side tracked by what we think our children need but it's pretty simple for kids, they just need to feel loved and secure. To an extent the rest is window dressing and more about adult values than what a child needs to thrive. T x
  6. Iknowc but I miss Pablo, Tink and Happy Heart ... and a few others.... but particularly those three. T x
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    UK General Election Predictor

    Why do you dismiss out of hand the view of 163 Economists? Is your opinion based on a key economic miscalculation they have made or simply a reaction to the party putting the proposals forward? Either way I'm surprised by your subsequent posts on this thread tbh Bunbury, as it's not like you to use a tragedy to point score, or to belittle women based on their appearance. T x
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    UK General Election Predictor

    The Labour Manifesto includes detailed plans relating to funding as well as spending and a letter to the Financial Times signed by 163 Economists supports those proposals. Financial projections of any kind are a gamble, including as Newjez pointed out anything to do with Brexit, however a significant number of financial experts believe that after a decade of poor management the UK economy would benefit from the type and level of investment proposed in Labour's plans. I have no reason to doubt the ability or knowledge of any of the signatories to the FT letter, and the rise in homelessness, child poverty and use of food banks is enough to convince me that they are right about a decade of financial mismanagement. T x
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    UK General Election Predictor

    Letter in the FT today signed by 163 Economists criticising UK's poor economic performance over the past decade, and supporting Corbyn's proposals for higher public investment to kick start growth and raise productivity. "It seems clear to us that the Labour Party has not only understood the deep problems we face, but has devised serious proposals for dealing with them." I guess some experts think it is doable, even if some of PIO think otherwise. Tx
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    I am a pretty relaxed driver in that I accept people will cut in front of me, I know idiots will undertake on motorways, I have to smile at people desperate to be the first away from traffic lights. But I draw the line at people who can't be bothered/ don't know how to/ have lost the habit of indicating on roundabouts! What's wrong with you people? Am I supposed to guess where you're going and when it's safe for me to move??? T x
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    how to deal with creep at work

    I agree, but would suggest choosing your words carefully. If he is trying to intimidate he may not be discouraged to learn that he makes you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps explain that while you appreciate he is not trying to offend, you find constant references to skinny dipping inappropriate and would prefer them to stop. Hopefully that will be the end of it. However be prepared for him to switch things around and accuse you of having no sense of humour, but try not to get drawn into apologising or explaining. You are at work, in a professional environment, and it is not unreasonable to expect work colleagues to act professionally. If he can't or won't do that, take the matter up the line. T x
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    The (all new) Brexit Thread

    I dip in and out of this thread, not sure why tbh as views seem fairly entrenched with the same arguments going round and round, but I am genuinely interested in why some believe the future for their/ my family and friends is brighter outside the UK. Fwiw I do get that leavers are frustrated. I'm not convinced they were all chomping at the bit to leave the EU before 2016 but I recognise that since the referendum many, for whatever reason, feel they have the right to expect their 'winning' vote to count. It does bother me that it was a narrow victory and that many of the alleged benefits have been discredited, but it seems that for a significant number of leavers the act of leaving is at the very least a matter of principle and that is why the 17.4m statistic is frequently quoted. I don't think leavers are expecting the UK to become a more affluent society because it was already 5th strongest economy in the world. I don't believe we would be in a stronger position to attract business either, too many leading organisations have already left or are preparing to do so. Control of our laws and borders is often cited, but there has been so much gnashing of teeth over the recent Supreme Court ruling that it's hard to believe leavers, in general, are genuinely happy to respect the judiciary as the ultimate defender of UK law. So maybe control of borders is the key issue, with freedom of movement ok if we don't have to reciprocate. Even as I write that I find it difficult to believe 17.4m would feel so strongly about freedom of movement that they would risk crashing the economy for years, risking recession and poverty that will hit the most vulnerable the hardest. So I don't really get it. What is it that we want or need that is worth the very scary divisions we are creating in society to achieve it? T x
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    3 months in the uk

    It has to be worth some proper research, if only to reassure yourself that you have done everything possible? Most Local Council websites are a good starting point for a range of information from amenities to what is going on in the area. Use sites such as Rightmove to check out properties and prices, and Indeed to get a feel for jobs and salaries. Thanks to the internet you can roam all over the country, even taking a virtual walk down a street hundreds of miles away if you need to. Being unhappy with where you live does not necessarily mean you cannot find happiness in the UK, but it probably does mean that you need to change something. I hope it works out for you, take care. T x
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    3 months in the uk

    A similar thought occurred to me. We live 200 miles from our nearest relatives and it's not a problem as we've found it fairly easy to maintain regular contact. It possibly helps that no matter where you live in the UK you can share a bit of banter on common issues such as the weather, NHS grumbles, political shenanigans and such like while also getting to share the important stuff like birthday celebrations, weddings, Christmas, children growing up and grandparents ageing. But for a small island Britain is very diverse, and it is possible to find a very different lifestyle depending on what you need and where you are prepared to go to find it. Although I accept the weather is possibly a non negotiable issue for some! T x
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    The (all new) Brexit Thread

    The referendum was advisory, not binding, and simply one factor the Government and Parliament should have considered when balancing the benefits of the UK leaving or remaining in the EU. By deciding to trigger Article 50 with no practical understanding of what they were trying to implement, Parliament signed up to a vague one line commitment in ‘Brexit means Brexit’ and set the clock running. Three years later the UK is still making it up as they go along with politicians wrapping their bluster and indecision in rhetoric that includes emotive triggers such as ‘democracy’ and ‘red lines’ in a vain attempt to demonstrate they know what they are doing/ talking about. True democracy relies on enough politicians operating with integrity and responsibility to ensure their country and its people prosper, while also providing the electorate with timely opportunities to ditch those people and policies not up to the job. Brexit doesn’t fit that brief because the potential damage is too deep and far reaching to quickly turn it around if we don’t like the vaguely defined outcomes. That includes any shameful attempts to ditch the GFA as collateral damage. Ireland maybe in the ‘too difficult’ box for some politicians but the very fact it needs to be considered is down to the role Britain historically chose to play and impose on the island of Ireland. You sow, you reap. T x