Guest Aldo Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 Hi Aldo, I really didnt mean to offend anyone, and yes I take on board what you are saying vis a vis "The Government... I realise that Australia/Spain, France is not for everyone, I really appreciate the highs and lows what people are going through Aldo. It takes much courage to go to the other side of the world, and no one deserves to be criticised, they need all the help they can get at both ends. I love the UK for all its foibles, I owe the the Uk a lot in my life. Aldo what does upset me is not someone slamming Australia because each to ther own, but out and out attacks on Australian people as a nation. There are a wide variety of nations that visit this forum and each and everyone will have their story and expectations but to come in expressing such out and out bitterness is negative and destructive. Apologies for any upset ss xx There are a lot of migrants who have found Australia to be a let down and not at all what they had hoped for,, some have packed up and moved on, some are trapped and some are undecided on what to do. To read posts by other poms that don't get the Aussie thing must be reassuring to them that they are not alone or weird. When you say "attacks on Australian people as a nation" i think you mean generalisations (sorry if i'm wrong) if so I make no apologies for this, its common practice and IMO acceptable to give opinions of peoples in general, for example; people constantly say aussies are friendly and laid back. Although I disagree, I can't really object to the statement just because i know a few uptight and miserable aussie gits. I'm sorry for anyone that finds negative posts "bitter" or "destructive", bitterness a terrible thing but surely you must have noticed the majority of bitterness being directed to the UK by potential migrants ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest WSB Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 HI All, I have moved to Perth on a Wa state sposorship earlier this year. But it has been so hard to get any work in my field due to the recession. I am thinking of goiing back home for one year and then coming back when thingd turn good. Is it alright by the State of WA if we go home and come back later? Can any one shed any light? William Ryan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Clarebob Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 Hi susie - i can relate to what you are saying in this thread. the only difference in my situation is that i didnt get homesick until about 12 - 14 months (been here two years now) - it was all great to begin with and i could see us all living here indefinately. there is loads i like about the place and we have a very good day to day life. but the bigger more important stuff is missing. we had friends over for a visit and it was the best two weeks i've had - just sitting talking and feeling relaxed, not having to think before speaking, being myself warts and all and so on - i'm sure many will know that feeling. we are heading back next early 2010 once my contract is up. like you, i know that if anything serious happened we'd be straight back to uk. also, if i won the lottery, i wouldnt stay here - would get a great house back home then maybe visit australia. now that the decision is made, i am enjoying life again but also really excited about going back. i think if you have good friends/family here it would help. i know if we stayed we would make good friends over time but to be honest, i cant wait 10 years or whatever to have that kind of relationship that i have with my "old" friends. we researched til we were blue in the face before we came and on the practical side everything has worked out great (jobs, house schools, money etc) and we knew we would miss everyone etc. however, one thing i have learned is that NOTHING can prepare you for how you will react to it once you are here living it. having a pool/boat/sunshine etc etc means jack sh*t if you have no-one to share it with. sometimes i find myself walking along the street and i think "WTF am i doing here?? why did i leave all the people i loved and who loved me?? what were we thinking??" then I think about taking the kids away from their friends, school etc here in perth that they love and i get confused again. so much for doing it for the kids - come out to give them a good life then take them away again:unsure: at then end of the day no-one can know what is right for you and your family - and most of the time we dont even know what's right for ourselves with this bloody immigration lark!! but if you really in your heart cannot imagine really settling here, then dont stay. and dont worry about what people will say - people i have told back home have been delighted that we are going back and are already planning the parties and weekends away. anyone that does not sound like my homecoming is the best news they've heard is off the xmas card list!! but joking aside, this emigration shows you who your real friends are. i would sum up oz as great for a holiday/temporary stay but not to live. good luck in whatever you decide and keep us posted. you are not alone:hug: I read this post with great interest and wanted to quote so many other points not just one above. The points which I have pulled out above really rang true with me (things which Quoll, Jackie Macdonald and John Locke amongst others have said in this post and other posts really made me think). We've gone through the question about what I do if OH died and yes hard question but does put things in perspective, don't want to be here on my own (realise in time it might change but thinking about now and near future, OH just had an accident recently not bad but so could have been), and if we won lottery and could have the big house and holidays back whenever we wanted would we stay but decided we would have the house back in UK and come here (and loads of other places) on a holiday instead. I started my own thread last week asking if 8 months was too soon to know and with replies from that and other posts and speaking with OH again we have decided that we won't be staying, a calmness has come over me since the decision was made, although it was my OH who had the guts to make it for us as he said he would like his wife back to her happy self. I still think maybe we're giving it up too soon sometimes but as soon as I start to think maybe we will stay the dread starts again. I do still feel a bit like we failed (don't know why, just do) as we intended to come forever but as others have said before until your here properly you really don't have any idea. Still don't regret coming (well most days) we needed to find out for ourselves. The plan at the moment (may change, that seems to be life at the moment) is to take 5-6 weeks getting back to UK so our adventure wasn't just about Australia, so I'm busy trying to see if that viable at the moment, back to researching again. As just a note, we have a nice life here BUT I know if we stay I will always be living 2 lives the Aus one and the UK one so going back while Aus life is just an adventure we once had. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunbury61 Posted September 1, 2009 Share Posted September 1, 2009 i know exactly what you meani have been given completely contradicting messages about socialising in oz one that they are very outgoing (that is superficially correct such as the smile and g'day and general politeness) and two - that you have to work hard to make friends here the fact is it's a socially insular and cliquey place and the concept of sweating blood to do something normal and natural such as this is farcical in my opinion, and if it's true that you do have to work that hard just to make a friend(sounds a bit pathetic actually), then it completely negates the saying that they are outgoing sociable people a social life to an aussie seems like isolation to a brit, but then again a lot of people who come here come here for a quieter more private life anyway, so it really comes down to what you prefer Underneath all that " front", the Aussies are very conservative in their ways .....i know quite a few Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz B Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 Hello Suzie I say head back, Why wouldnt you, The UK is great! High Crime, High Unemployment, Wet, grey and Mizo everyday! Why would you want to stay in Perth? Jayne my partner was the same as you, We have been in Melbourne for 11 months, Last month her sister came out and saw us and since then the homesickness has gone! I can arrange for the sister in law to visit you and trust me, You will realise just how lucky you are. Try and remember why you came? On those cold nights when you sat in your house in the UK, why did you want to come to OZ? You only ever remember the good things about the UK. It does get easier I promise but you cant sit back and think O WOE TO ME, Get up, Make some new friends, get a new job and stop being a winging POM! If after two years of trying all of the above and your still not happy, then head back! But I promise, Once you have a taste of life down under you cant go back. Nothing will compare. Chris P.S let me know if you want the sister in law over! P.S.S Good luck! x What's so bad about her sister? I think I need a visit from her as I know I'm being a whinging pom and missing home after 2 years! Liz B Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andromeda9 Posted September 11, 2009 Share Posted September 11, 2009 trust me you will get over it but only if you go back in a year or two just to see what your not missing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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