Bethan Watson Posted April 18, 2016 Share Posted April 18, 2016 I just received permanent residency as a result of a family violence exemption on my partner visa. I'm 21, living at a friend's house. I came over when I was 18, gave up university to make a life here and now I don't know what to do. My head is pretty fried. I have received a few interview offers for excellent jobs, one of which would pay exceptionally well considering my age. I don't know whether my best option is to go home and study like I wanted, and the potentially come back with a degree in tow, or whether I should stick it out and stay. I still live in the same city as my ex-partner. We both want nothing to do with one another. I'm honestly just at a complete crossroads of what to do. I'm worried I'm wasting valuable time going home when I should be focusing on making a life out here. And in regards to practicalities, I only have a car left to sell. It's a toyota corolla with 200,000+ kms on it , but I recently had it serviced and it's sweet. Should I book flights then sell it? And should I sell it unregistered/registered? Really confused. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 18, 2016 Share Posted April 18, 2016 The one thing that concerns me with study in the UK is that you may well be charged international student rates as you've been gone longer than 3 years. That could be very pricey. Can you not do your degree here? or take the job offer that appeals and perhaps study part time alongside it? I'd not rush into a decision right now. Wait for the PR and things to settle in, research options in both countries and see how you feel. If you are homesick or really struggling emotionally then perhaps UK is a better option but if you've come through the appeal for PR in Aus and stuck it out, something tells me you'd like to stay there.... Also you can't be out of Aus for too many years else your PR will lapse and you'll need an RRV to get back in. And these can sometimes prove difficult to get without strong ties etc. And goalposts on these could change while you are out of Aus. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 18, 2016 Share Posted April 18, 2016 I just received permanent residency as a result of a family violence exemption on my partner visa. I'm 21, living at a friend's house. I came over when I was 18, gave up university to make a life here and now I don't know what to do. My head is pretty fried. I have received a few interview offers for excellent jobs, one of which would pay exceptionally well considering my age. I don't know whether my best option is to go home and study like I wanted, and the potentially come back with a degree in tow, or whether I should stick it out and stay. I still live in the same city as my ex-partner. We both want nothing to do with one another. I'm honestly just at a complete crossroads of what to do. I'm worried I'm wasting valuable time going home when I should be focusing on making a life out here. And in regards to practicalities, I only have a car left to sell. It's a toyota corolla with 200,000+ kms on it , but I recently had it serviced and it's sweet. Should I book flights then sell it? And should I sell it unregistered/registered? Really confused. Really sorry to hear about your family violence situation, but I'm pleased that you're out of it now. My view, for what it's worth, is that you should take one of the jobs and go from there. You can always study in later life if that's been a dream of yours, but unless you definitely have a job/career to go into post-studying, you may find yourself laden with a lot of debt and few job prospects. Personally work experience and life experience in my view count for more than a degree, even if you have a first class honours from a redbrick university. In terms of where you want to make a life, that's only something that you can decide. Do you have any family or friends over here? How do you feel about making a life here (even if that's just on a temporary basis whilst you gain some work experience in one of the jobs you have been offered)? I am English and over here as my husband wanted to return to Australia and be closer to his family. Neither of us ever expected to dislike living here and are looking forward to going back home in December this year. That said, we're at a completely different stage of our lives to you: I'm pregnant, haven't settled here, have found it really difficult to find work, desperately miss family and friends (which has gotten worse since getting pregnant) and my husband has worked out that England is home for him, not Australia (having spent 15 years of his adult life there). Weigh up what you want: what is it about going back to England that tempts you? Is it just the studying? Or are there bigger reasons? Whatever you decide, good luck with it! And remember whatever decision you decide to make is not permanent and you can always change your mind at a later point. Good luck!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight7 Posted April 19, 2016 Share Posted April 19, 2016 I'd take the job, too. Studying isn't always the best thing to do, especially if you already have a job. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bungo Posted April 19, 2016 Share Posted April 19, 2016 I just received permanent residency as a result of a family violence exemption on my partner visa. I'm 21, living at a friend's house. I came over when I was 18, gave up university to make a life here and now I don't know what to do. My head is pretty fried. I have received a few interview offers for excellent jobs, one of which would pay exceptionally well considering my age. I don't know whether my best option is to go home and study like I wanted, and the potentially come back with a degree in tow, or whether I should stick it out and stay. I still live in the same city as my ex-partner. We both want nothing to do with one another. I'm honestly just at a complete crossroads of what to do. I'm worried I'm wasting valuable time going home when I should be focusing on making a life out here. And in regards to practicalities, I only have a car left to sell. It's a toyota corolla with 200,000+ kms on it , but I recently had it serviced and it's sweet. Should I book flights then sell it? And should I sell it unregistered/registered? Really confused. Well you just got permanent residency, so you must have applied for it and therefore wanted it not that long ago? If you don't know what to do, then probably staying put until you do have a clearer purpose makes most sense. As for job or study, I would base that on finances as much as anything and would be pretty tempted to take the job if it is something that interests you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted April 19, 2016 Share Posted April 19, 2016 If you think that a longer term aspiration is for you to be in Australia then I don't think you would gain much by going back. If you want the support of family then go but otherwise you are going to be stung for fees when you study in either place so you might as well do it when you have a job to support you. If you can stick it until you are eligible for citizenship then you really do have much more security to come and go as the mood takes you. Remember that life is what happens when you are busy making other plans! So sorry that you've had a bad experience in your relationship though but good to hear it's all sorted now! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nemesis Posted April 19, 2016 Share Posted April 19, 2016 a Well you just got permanent residency, so you must have applied for it and therefore wanted it not that long ago? If you don't know what to do, then probably staying put until you do have a clearer purpose makes most sense. As for job or study, I would base that on finances as much as anything and would be pretty tempted to take the job if it is something that interests you. Could'e been a couple of years ago as Spouse PR is applied for when the initial temp spouse application goes im. Also it would have been applied for because of the relationship, which has now broken down. So the OP now not only has to decide about staying in Australia, but about staying in a country they probably only moved to because of their partner. Tricky one..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tickled Pink Posted April 19, 2016 Share Posted April 19, 2016 If you stay in Australia and get citizenship you will be able to get student loans to enable you to go to University. Depending on the visa you were here on previously you may have already served time that will count towards eligibility for citizenship, so you might be not so far off. Taking the job option for now could allow you to save a bit of money, get yourself in a better place, maybe even socialise and make some new friends, build some self esteem - which I wonder might help you lots at the moment. A bit of time working might give you some space to consider where you're at, and some focus to move on and rebuild what must have been a tough time for you recently. You are so young, University is waiting for you if thats what you want... take some time to regroup. Beyond all this, take some credit for making some really good recent decisions and decisive action to improve your life short and long term. I wish all the good luck for the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Croft Posted April 19, 2016 Share Posted April 19, 2016 Be very careful about getting your degree in then UK then hoping to use it back here, especially if it is a vocational degree like education or physiotherapy. Most of the professional organisations with whom you have to register don't recognise 3 year degrees and you have to undertake extra study to gain accreditation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ken Posted April 19, 2016 Share Posted April 19, 2016 If you've already been here 3 years you only need spend a year on PR to be able to apply for citizenship. Not only does citizenship give you the option to leave and come back anytime it also makes you eligible for student loans. So I'd recommend taking the job, getting citizenship and then thinking again about what you want to do. I think right now studying is a very expensive option for you either in the UK or Australia. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chortlepuss Posted April 20, 2016 Share Posted April 20, 2016 Don't worry about 'wasting time' You've got all the time in the world and it sounds like you're pretty switched on. Personally, I'd take the well paying job, go for citizenship and keep your options open. You can study later if that's what you want, but if you have the choice to earn good money without the debt that comes with studying that would be sweet. And if you ultimately want to study then you'll have a bit of experience, savings and citizenship under your belt. In the UK you'll have to wait at least 3 years to qualify for local fees, and from what I can see youngsters don't get paid anything like what they do in Australia (my daughter is a nurse and earning much more but if she was waiting tables she'd still be better off in Aus). If you do decide to return to UK you'd have work experience and/or a degree which would put you a step in front of the competition, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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