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Here goes had probably the most honest talk we've had for a while including me telling him the love I had has been taken over by resentment. He tried to persuade me to stay longer & in the words of a certain female politician 'this woman isn't for turning' I even told him about my dream to join the police force, told him I felt like I was being controlled in Australia etc. he even asked if I had found someone else over there & that's why I wanted to go home!!! Told hhim the only person who matters to me is Olivia. Anyway there was other stuff said but he is paying for my flights & I'm booking them in the next few days. He will stay in oz for longer.

Yep I spoke to my mam about flights & that's not a problem! But she thinks I should give him the opportunity to pay for them then if he doesn't she will. She is also giving me money to start myself off with when I get home. I'm having another talk with him tomorrow as I want these flights booked ASAP. Thanks for looking for me Hun xx

Thanks for researching for me! She has a Bristish passport Hun.

Is there a specific form I need him to sign? Or do I draft one myself? I know he's being a t**t but I don't think he'd go that far. We shall see.

He's categorically said he isn't coming back he's turned into one of the those expat England hating people & it saddens me tbh!

Thanks AA you are right he's trying his damn hardest to make me stay. So like you said I'm keeping on with my plans & have been getting quotes from shipping companies, only for 4 boxes! Plans are to live with my mam for 6 months whilst I get sorted with work & save money. Our house is rented out & it's no good saying ill move back there when I actually have nothing! I won't be guilted into staying here, he says stay until July so we can get Olivia's child benefit money! How bloody shallow is that? I'm booking my flights once I've spoken to my mam I don't really want him to have to pay for them & it get chucked back in my face xx

Agree marisa

Hey lovelies Right, here goes my hubby has always 'known' that I'm going in April but has been sweeping it under the carpet. Anyway he asked me what was wrong the other day so I said my decision is made I'm going in April. H said fine book your flights then a tirade of words was thrown at me...you have no plans, you are going backwards, you never think about anyone but yourself its been the same all you life, you aren't thinking about Olivia, you will have no money, you are splitting up a family, I've given you everything. You don't think about what I want, you've never compromised, you just want your mam you aren't 12 anymore. It was horrible & all that positivity id been feeling pretty much left. I feel like that hole is opening up again. Xx

Wow!! That's fanastic! So happy for you! Xx

Hey lovely, I can understand the anxiety issue as that is what made me realise how bad I wa feeling about being here. Now it's not too bad & the depression is better but mainly as I've made a decision & am looking forward. But it's hard, like quoll when I went home last year it all disappeared & pretty much appeared again as soon as the plane was landing in Sydney. Big hugs its hard I've thrown myself into running & circuits as well as changing my diet & I feel better. Well until my hubby starts being a **** then it makes an appearance xx

Don't worry Hun, he will be great! As long as his mummy is happy he will be! My lo first came to oz when she was 6 months old & is now 2.5. But everyday she talks about being at her nanas house & going back on the big aeroplane. & I know that when we go back in April she will be happy cos her mammy will be!

Tbh I think I'm done with our relationship. All this time of not being listened to has lead to resentment & I need out. I may change my mind when I'm home but at the moment I can't see a future for us.

35 is the year that I'm going to successfully apply & join the police force! Well that my dream anyway xx

I know @Quoll I've got nothing to stop me from coming back now but I said I'd come back for 6 months so I want to stick to my word even if he hasn't, strange I know! Is there a statutory piece of paper he needs to sign?

So an update from me... Christmas I knew was going to be hard but stick a 2 year old with gastro into the mix made it even harder. NYE I spent alone as hubby was working away. So I used that opportunity to write down on a piece of paper what I want to achieve in 2015 & put it into an sealed envelope. discussions wise with hubby? Well he asked me if I was ok as it was Xmas & it always harder. I said do you think I'm ok all of the time just because I haven't said anything? Anyway I said you lied to me about me coming back for my 6 months holiday & you expect me to stay. He said you need to make yourself happy here. I said I can't & I'm going home. His last words were if you go home it's over between us. To which I replied fine with me. So there you go, no change. But I'm quite happy that he doesn't want to return, I'm 35 on the 16th & it's going to be my year.

At the end of the day everyone has their reasons for leaving the UK, it's what you (OP) want to do that counts. Not a bunch of strangers on a forum! Good luck with what you decide to do. It is an exciting time for you & your family

Obviously mine hasn't withstood the Oz test!!

Everyone talks about the weather, money etc...what about relationships? What happens when it goes pear shaped when one of the partnership loves oz & the other doesn't? What happens then?

If you are really concerned the British consulate will give you a 1 year extension on your passport for no charge. Just give them a call when they open on the 2nd just to alleviate your fears xx

Totally agree with you chortlepuss!!!

Aww Hun! It's normal to shed a few tears but chin up! As for them numpties on the other boards ignore them xx

Wow!! Absolutely fantastic news I'm so pleased for you! & can't wait to meet up when we are both back on UK soil xx

No not booked yet going to do it after Xmas! But I will keep you updated on my journey to get home! Xx

Sounds like you've got a busy time ahead Paul!! I can't wait to see daffodils & lambs in the field (family are farmers) I'm over this bloody heat. Makes me like when people talk about the outdoor lifestyle....erm it's too damn hot to go out! I think my daughter was outside everyday back home in the summer! Yes chortlepuss I'm keen to keep things at a level where it's all amicable & yes he's not in decision making mode & I don't think he ever will be. My packing will consist of 2 bags & that's it everything else is just stuff ? I'll begin with nothing & that thought doesn't phase me one bit, a few months ago it would've but not now. I'm strong & I can do this xx

Aww sorry to hear about your grandad, & I'm pleased you have made your decision on what to do. My hubby's gran died today & although this may sound awful I truly hope he starts to think differently about our move back home. Xx