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Thanks Karen. Normally I try not to listen to people but I've not had anyone to talk to about my session. Tbh she was only saying to me a few weeks back how homesick she was so I'm inclined to think she's trying to convince herself. Heading home mid/end July no flights booked as yet but am already counting the weeks & am incredibly excited. Yes oh does not want to move back but I want him to see how happy I am at home. I've never really had depression before but oz seems to have sucked a lot of my spirit away. Ive talked to my mam before & her & my dad just want me to be healthy & happy & can see/hear that I've not been since November & that worries them

Hi folks!! Am having a wobble & I'm probably just winding myself up but ever since I went to see my counsellor (first session) on Wednesday I've not felt great. It's like a lot of stuff was brought to the surface that id never considered like my life wa actually quite good in the uk,& a host of underlying relationship issues. However it's just made me more certain that uk is what I want but I've got nothing! No money just my daughter ?but a very supportive family who would definitely help. I just ffeel useless as I've never been in this position before & I just feel trapped & lonely. I'm crying as I write this & I just want my mam sorry for the post I tried to talk to my friend last night but all she said was 'cant believe you are still banging on about going home, you know you are lucky to be here & you won't be able to do half the stuff you do with Olivia here back home'

You are right sallykay ettalong foreshore is fantastic spent Friday morning down there whilst hubby was fishing.

Hi I live in Woy Woy which is next to umina. Not a clue about the school as my daughter is only 2. It's a beautiful place & I've got lots of friends who commute to Sydney. There's the rail station at woy woy too. It's a beautiful place to live tbh, everything you would want. Pm me if you want any more info.

Agree supa if you want to make it work all will be ok! I've never listened to doomsdayers, waste of energy!!

Thanks for my pics caramac!!! You aren't helping btw lol xx

Hi we are going through police checks again for our daughter (we are in oz so need uk checks again) anyway hubby had no live trace & that was accepted without a hitch in 2011 now I've read the guidance it says we need written evidence of stepped down convictions. Am tempted to just send the certificates off to the CO & see whether he does come back & says we need evidence. When I spoke to ACPO they said would the immigration not accept hubby writing down what his stepped down convictions were after speaking to them. anyway am waffling, did it take you 40days?

Hey don't worry!! You wouldn't be human if you didn't have doubts! I met up with a newbie or FOB yest & I looked at her & thought you are fresh faced & excited!! Good for you....as I went back home & counted my grey hairs lol. But seriously everyone is different & you've made the decision based on your situation nobody else's. xx

I emailed them back as soon as they sent me that email & I've heard nothing since & seeing as they've been pretty good with emailing even ringing me if they wanted further info, am assuming all is ok but I'll call them when the clocks hit a sensible hour over in the uk

Going for 8-12 weeks Emma but we've been apart for longer before so who knows! But am hoping it makes him think xx

Just over 2 years but its not been straight forward! It's only been since nov last year that my homesickness was more than that

[quote=wattsy1982;19364893 i think am past the point of caring what others think. I think for me personally people never actually thought I would go in the first place! I think oz is a great place, I live in a town where you walk down the street & strangers say hello, I've got lots of friends & some really close ones who I can talk to about how I'm feeling. & yet I still want to return. I always said oz isn't forever & I feel like am 'working my notice' at the moment. Saying that I may get home in the summer & realise nope oz is for me so that's why my 'holiday' in August is important. I think you are just thinking out loud Dan!!! @starlight totally agree nothing is paradise it's how the place makes you feel as to whether you are in paradise or not

I know for my friends & I the biggest change in our life was having our children & realising that they need grandparents & we need support. That may not be the case for everyone but all I see is Olivia in her wellies running about on my parents farm in the north Tyne valley! Not dealing with fecking sand & me worrying that some kind of nasty creature will get her (bit extreme but you catch my drift!!)

My counsellor rang today to say there's a cancellation tomorrow (was waiting until mid may initially) so that's something & hubby has decided to join us in the uk for a holiday (he vowed & told my mam that he wouldn't be back) so plans are me & littly head out end of July & he follows in sept. I think this is great as hopefully this will show him how happy I am back home. Not sure why he's changed his mind but I think the fact he walked out last Monday (not for long just a few hours) & I never batted an eyelid had maybe made him think a bit more. We did have a lengthy talk afterwards & I'm hoping he's started to take me seriously. My best friend told me yest that she thought I'd become very disconnected (not me at all) & that she was worried about me. & on the other hand my Aussie friends don't want me to go...even for a holiday!

Anyone?

I've kinda been in my own bubble, taking each day etc quietly counting down the weeks until I go home (albeit no flights booked yet) & I was talking to 2 of my expat friends & they broke down (seperately) about how they feel about oz & how desperate they are to go home but have been too scared to talk about it. I was in a shop being served by a woman who has been here for 42 years & said whatever you do follow your heart, I never did & now it's too late to go back. It just goes to show how many of us poms just want to be back.

Thanks for everyone's replies & I guess whatever happens will happen. We still love each other that is for certain & who knows when I return to the uk for my holiday in August I may think differently about returning to the uk full time. Unfortunately we do not have crystal balls! So for now I will continue to take each day as it comes & enjoy what Australia has to offer

I must admit I feel more comfortable posting here. I don't understand why some...one in particular....who hates the uk & says its the biggest mistake they ever made going back...why post there!!! Youve always given me good advice ? xx

Hi i am a PR but we are applying for my daughters PR as she was born in the Uk (long story so won't bore you) anyway applied for police checks & I get an email back saying 'you said no to being arrested etc but our records show) now my police trace in 2011 came back no trace so how can that change within 3 years when since 2012 I've been in oz (apart from when I had my daughter) the only dealings I've ever had was in 2005 when I had a car accident & I was breathalysed (it was 0 btw) anyone had this happen to them? I've emailed them back to say no I haven't & detailed the dates I've been in oz. thanks

One thing I will say, and I want you to listen very closely: you followed a dream which is something a lot of people never have the guts to do. So what if it doesn't work out? You gave it your best shot, and if you do decide it's not for you and go back home don't let anyone make you feel like a failure. Totally agree with your point there Lynne..spot on

Even though I want to go home, I've been here since 2012. It took my hubby 3 months to get a job & even then it took a further 6 months to start his contract so he ended up working for Allianz recovery!! Paid the bills & easy in the short term. It's hard to come over & expect that wow ill get a job & off we go. We were told yeh mate with your qualifications you'll get into the mines no trouble at all. Didn't work out like that. But now he's been working for Rio Tinto since oct 2012 & is on good money but the job is pretty **** as he's not using most of his skills that he earned in the uk. What am saying is give it a go, use this time as your job ie looking for work is your job but alps take some time to think about why you came here in the first place. Good luck!

Maybe am just over thinking things....that's typical of me. I'll just look forward to my holiday in the uk & only then can I make any decisions xx

I hope it never comes to that...

I have to say that initially in 2012 we were the strongest we have ever been, even through the tough times when our daughter was born very early but the past few months its not been like that. It could just be me but some of things he does/I do we don't seem to get along & because I've actually stopped mentioning wanting to go home it's like it's the green light that says yes she wants to stay. who knows, these feelings could pass but all I care about is my daughter as selfish as it sounds.

Sat here wondering (after another 'discussion') how many couples have split up due to differences in whether its UK or Oz?