Dawny Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Hi all i'm hoping someone who has made the move to oz,may be able to shed some light on making new friends, we read somewhere that the agency you go with for imergration can help you find contact places and get togethers once you have settled down in your new home, In the uk stay at home mums contacts are mostly through schools, and workers in the work place! or failing that neighbours etc, are australians that easy to befriend for our sakes as well as our childrens, or does it depend on the areas you live, any information would be good cheers john:chatterbox: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest moonraker1961 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I found it better to make friends in a small country town.I have lived in the "burbs"and found it fairly hard to get a feel for community if that makes sense?I guess it also depends if you join groups/clubs ect,if your kids are still at school and so on? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzy+1 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 Hi, it can be difficult at first. The Aussies are friendly but of course many are already established in thier social circle i think this is why many people probably find it easier to make friends with like minded brits who are also relocating and looking for friends. Certainly a good way of meeting anyone weather oz or other is through work/schools/kids clubs etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest jewels1356 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 i think its up to indivuals and the places they are living in it does take a long time to become established you just have to like each others company for a while julie xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steveNem Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I think about this quite often. Im quite a shy person so wonder how long it will take me to make friends. I think you sometimes need to step out of your comfort zone, if you get invited somewhere go even if you dont know the people really well. Will you be working over there? i think work friends are the easiest to make in the first instance then you can spread your wings wider. Im sure you will be fine once your there. Em x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawny Posted August 31, 2008 Author Share Posted August 31, 2008 I think about this quite often. Im quite a shy person so wonder how long it will take me to make friends. I think you sometimes need to step out of your comfort zone, if you get invited somewhere go even if you dont know the people really well. Will you be working over there? i think work friends are the easiest to make in the first instance then you can spread your wings wider. Im sure you will be fine once your there. Em x hi i will be a stay at home mum for a while, but yes you are right, it is what you do your self to make friends, we are an easy going bunch here so hopefully we will just be able to throw ourselves into it, thanks for your kind words:jiggy: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petals Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 If you have children I think its quite easy even for sahm. They are usually the backbone of the school and kinder systems and do lots of stuff and meet people that way. Even Aus women feel isolated when they leave work and have a child and are at home all day because if its their first often their friends may still work or not have children so they have the same problem of making friends with women with children and interests. Throughout life we make friends and lose friends for some reason or other and me I have a few close friends who have been friends for life but many others who have come into my life and left because we do not live nearby anymore. Community houses are around and they different classes and offer child care and if you want to paint, do patchwork or just go for a walk there are groups to do this. Netball is a favourite with lots of Aussi mums as is tennis. Just go along and even if you are shy there will be someone just like you who will gravitate to you. Good luck. Don't sit in the house get out and about even if its only a walk. A little dog is handy everyone talks to people walking dogs. :smile: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest mollyflanders Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I have been here nearly a year and so far have not made any real friends, neighbours are chatty in my complex but they have their own circle of friends, i would just love to have someone you can drop by for aa natter and a cuppa and for them to do the same with me, but drawn more or less a blank so far................i live in hope Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest taffy 62 Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I found it better to make friends in a small country town.I have lived in the "burbs"and found it fairly hard to get a feel for community if that makes sense?I guess it also depends if you join groups/clubs ect,if your kids are still at school and so on? Hi Dawn. I agree with Moonraker totaly. I made friends realy quick in a small country town, even through just being a regular customer in a shop! people strike up conversations more. I am finding in the "burbs" I feel like a little fish in a big ocean! and I have found it hard to make friends as people keep to themselves. If you get involved in the school or your kids sport things you will soon make friends. My kids have left home so this option is not availabe to me. It does depend on your "stage n life" as to how hard or easy it will be. but even at the hardest it can still work and you can make friends and establish yourself but it will take longer. Some communities have what they call newcomers clubs where you can go and meet people in the same situation as yourself, as then you can make friends as you can relate to each other. I also think that people are different in different parts of Oz so you need to do a couple of moves before you find your niche. :smile: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sam&Si Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 quote=mollyflanders;314875]I have been here nearly a year and so far have not made any real friends, neighbours are chatty in my complex but they have their own circle of friends, i would just love to have someone you can drop by for aa natter and a cuppa and for them to do the same with me, but drawn more or less a blank so far................i live in hope Hi Mollyflanders, What a shame, hopefully one of the PIO members might live near you and I'm sure a cuppa can be sorted out no problem - where about's in Oz are you? x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Scott Family Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 As we are on our way in 7 weeks this has been something i have been thinking about recently as in the UK we tend to have a small circle of really good friends and then a wider circle of aquaintances. It is the good friends who we will miss and it is hoping we will be able to find similar people in our new home. I suppose as someone said earlier in the post you have to force yourself into these situations and then also accept that not everyone will be your cup of tea but sooner or later someone will be. Mollyflanders if you are in the hills area in sydney then i will come round for a coffee! Kate x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest mollyflanders Posted August 31, 2008 Share Posted August 31, 2008 I am in middle park if you are familiar with that area Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest mollyflanders Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 sorry scottfamily I am in queensland....just a wee bit far away from sydney Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest12791 Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 sorry scottfamily I am in queensland....just a wee bit far away from sydney Hi mollyflanders, we were in carindale last year for four months, i too missed having a coffee with friends, after hitting lodsa problems we headed home to yorkshire! we are hoping to be back in brisbane maybe in january so keep in touch it would be great to meet up and go shopping, annemarie x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sykestykes Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 Hi Annemarie and Mollyflanders We'll be heading out around the same time as you, Annemarie (all being well!) we're not that far from Wakefield where we live now. Hope all goes well for you and you might have to keep that kettle boiling for when I get there girls lol !! Sue xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawny Posted September 1, 2008 Author Share Posted September 1, 2008 ok guys,, who highjacked my thread!!!!!!!!!!! look its all about me!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sykestykes Posted September 1, 2008 Share Posted September 1, 2008 hey dawny get that kettle on lol sue x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest taffy 62 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Hey dawny! Come to Albury Wodonga and I'll put the kettle on I'll even chuck in a packet of Tim Tams :jiggy: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alcocainmel Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I think when you have children it is far easier to make friends through schools, kinders etc. We have been here over a year now and have made many friends both POMS and Aussies. Having said that we do have more Aussie friends than POMS which is funny cos most of our POM friends tend to stick with POMS!! Now I am not saying that we have more friends here than in the UK because of course we dont however we are always doing something at the weekends with various friends we have made. Infact when we do have a free weekend its quite nice to just chill!! lol As hard as it is starting up new friendships you do have to put yourself out there. Good luck to you all and Molly if you were down this way then you would be more than welcome to pop in for a cuppa!! Deb xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest mollyflanders Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Hi mollyflanders, we were in carindale last year for four months, i too missed having a coffee with friends, after hitting lodsa problems we headed home to yorkshire! we are hoping to be back in brisbane maybe in january so keep in touch it would be great to meet up and go shopping,annemarie x will look forward to you and others coming over and kettle will be on keep in touch Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest madplumber1 Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 I don't care wether we fit in or not because i'll be like this most of the time...........hic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawny Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 no surprize there then! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
onecrankypom Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Been here 3 months still no friends:( only time i smile hearding a pommie voice sad hey:_S Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgie Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 One cranky pom and molly flanders where are you both living because i am sure there are friends to be made (even ones off here looking for friends). I think PIO should set up a matchmaking service for anyone to look and see who is in what area and maybe message them. You wouldnt have to tell anyone publicly where you lived if you didnt want but the general suburb would be good then people can meet others who generallly do live round the corner and meet for coffees and chinwags more easily instead of having to gallavant all over Brisbane to meet friends. It would be a bit like when you are looking for a house to rent and you just click on an area and everything comes up. I am waffling i know but i think its a brill idea. ta ra:chatterbox: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawny Posted September 2, 2008 Author Share Posted September 2, 2008 I might just do that, Sue as long as you bring the bickies hun x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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