trevnod Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 Just wondered if anyone has migrated over by themselves? I am doing this in October and honestly, I am s**ting myself :-( Just wondered if anyone else was in the same boat as me and how they coped..... Cheers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARYROSE02 Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 Well, you are making a huge change in your lifestyle, not just moving to another country, but changing your job, leaving family and friends, and you can find any or all of those on a 'top ten' or stressful events in one's life. (Google them!) I left England in October, too, back in 1978, on my own, after my best friend changed his mind about coming with me. I had my 'ups and downs.' I had never really been away from home before. I was not very well qualified in 'life skills!' But I got through it. Where are you planning to live in Australia? Have you already got a job? Sometimes a new employer will help you with your move. If you are doing it all on your own, well, book into a hotel or a hostel for a couple of weeks or so whlst you find your feet. In a hostel, you are almost certain to make some friends. I was in a pub last night - Trinity Bar in Surry Hills, near where I live, joking with a guy I first met on his first night in Australia when we shared the same room at the YHA at Central here in Sydney. (He says he complained to the YHA reception that 'one of the caretakers' was sleeping in his room! I'm 61 so not exactly a 'Youth' not that the YHA worries about that!) I was only there for four nights, and then a couple of years later, in the Trinity, we met up again. He came on a Working Holiday Visa, managed to get sponsored and change to a 457, and now he is a permanent resident, soon to become an Australian citizen. He has a wide range of friends, made mostly I think, through playing squash and going to a gym. Give yourself time to settle in and be prepared for the possiblity of homesickness. It's not a certainty and I can tell you that just about EVERY single guy and girl I've met from the UK tells me that they love it here in Austraila. The last guy I asked that was a young Spurs fan on Saturday night, here on a university exchange for four months. They all say the same things - lifestyle, weather, opportunities, pay. Some people say to me 'but Dave, they are all young singles, it's bound to be easier for them, you have to ask married couples and older people.' Perhaps, but as you are young and single (I assume!) even if it was true, which I dispute, it does not apply in your case! Get yourself somewhere to live, maybe consider sharing a house/flat, as many people do. The guy I was talking to at the Trinity has just moved into his own flat, after three or four years of house sharing. Find yourself a 'local', get talking to people. Join a club in whatever hobby/pastime/sport interests you. I watch Tottenham Hotspur with a group of Spurs fans at our 'Spurs' pub, which is one thread of my social life. I have friends in various pubs. I do pub quizzes. I've just enrolled in an Open University degree. Well, not 'just' as I've almost completed my first unit. I've 'just' enrolled in my second unit. I think you will be OK. Just try to surround yourself with 'positive' people, and don't pay too much attention to the 'anti-OZ' threads and posts on PIO! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Atlas Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 I'll be doing the same! Not sure when I'm going exactly, but most likely looking at March/April next year. It's a daunting thought but I think as long as you're willing to step outside of your comfort zone, make an effort with new people etc you should be fine. There's a site called meetup.com which seems to have a lot of activities going on - I'm hoping to use this to meet people outside of work and pick up some new hobbies Also if you are looking to rent a room/flat share, you'll most likely meet people through your housemates too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quinkla Posted May 18, 2015 Share Posted May 18, 2015 I'm guessing emigrating alone is a mixed blessing. You'll have nobody to turn to for emotional support, but you have nobody you would feel guilty towards if things go more slowly or not quite as you expected - so less pressure. It'll also force you to try to make friends with your new colleagues and neighbours. Best of luck with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trevnod Posted May 19, 2015 Author Share Posted May 19, 2015 Thanks for the advise Maryrose. I have my heart set on Perth but I guess it all depends on work etc. I will defo be looking for a flatshare as thats what I have been used to in the past. Good to know there are Spurs clubs over there, I will be most likely going to the Rangers club in Perth for all my sins haha. Went there before and its always useful to meet people from back home. Funny I think its worse for a single person than a couple as the single person doesn't have anyone else whereas the couple have one another. Folk would assume that the single person is grand as they don't have anything or anyone to answer to but it ain't as simple as that :-D Don't have a job but my aim when I get there is a flatshare and also work so will be on that asap. I doubt I would get something before as that is very rare for an employer to offer a position for the type of work I do without actually meeting me. I could always look online beforehand just in case. Sounds like it worked out for you. Thank you again :-) Well, you are making a huge change in your lifestyle, not just moving to another country, but changing your job, leaving family and friends, and you can find any or all of those on a 'top ten' or stressful events in one's life. (Google them!) I left England in October, too, back in 1978, on my own, after my best friend changed his mind about coming with me. I had my 'ups and downs.' I had never really been away from home before. I was not very well qualified in 'life skills!' But I got through it. Where are you planning to live in Australia? Have you already got a job? Sometimes a new employer will help you with your move. If you are doing it all on your own, well, book into a hotel or a hostel for a couple of weeks or so whlst you find your feet. In a hostel, you are almost certain to make some friends. I was in a pub last night - Trinity Bar in Surry Hills, near where I live, joking with a guy I first met on his first night in Australia when we shared the same room at the YHA at Central here in Sydney. (He says he complained to the YHA reception that 'one of the caretakers' was sleeping in his room! I'm 61 so not exactly a 'Youth' not that the YHA worries about that!) I was only there for four nights, and then a couple of years later, in the Trinity, we met up again. He came on a Working Holiday Visa, managed to get sponsored and change to a 457, and now he is a permanent resident, soon to become an Australian citizen. He has a wide range of friends, made mostly I think, through playing squash and going to a gym. Give yourself time to settle in and be prepared for the possiblity of homesickness. It's not a certainty and I can tell you that just about EVERY single guy and girl I've met from the UK tells me that they love it here in Austraila. The last guy I asked that was a young Spurs fan on Saturday night, here on a university exchange for four months. They all say the same things - lifestyle, weather, opportunities, pay. Some people say to me 'but Dave, they are all young singles, it's bound to be easier for them, you have to ask married couples and older people.' Perhaps, but as you are young and single (I assume!) even if it was true, which I dispute, it does not apply in your case! Get yourself somewhere to live, maybe consider sharing a house/flat, as many people do. The guy I was talking to at the Trinity has just moved into his own flat, after three or four years of house sharing. Find yourself a 'local', get talking to people. Join a club in whatever hobby/pastime/sport interests you. I watch Tottenham Hotspur with a group of Spurs fans at our 'Spurs' pub, which is one thread of my social life. I have friends in various pubs. I do pub quizzes. I've just enrolled in an Open University degree. Well, not 'just' as I've almost completed my first unit. I've 'just' enrolled in my second unit. I think you will be OK. Just try to surround yourself with 'positive' people, and don't pay too much attention to the 'anti-OZ' threads and posts on PIO! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andrewajp002 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 HI MR, do you go the triple aces to watch the spurs game? I was over last year and met up with some top spurs guys there and watched a couple of matches. Im heading to Melbourne this time so likely to catch up with the OzSpurs guys there at the Imperial Hotel Tevnod, I'm also heading over on my own, likely to be landing in Melbourne in July, same as you as no job lined up but I have my Resume with a couple of agencies so fingers cross. MR is correct, start off small, poss hostel and look for a house share, I see they are about the same as a hostel per week, but it will then be your home from home and can act as a starting point for your new life. Check out the meetups website, they have loads of groups for all sorts of activities. You'll be fine, I totally understand your fear, there is not 1 moment I don't try to talk myself out of it If you don't do it you will regret it for the rest of your life Good luck on your move. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight7 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 trevnod I think it is much easier to make friends and contacts on your own so you are going to be fine. People will invite someone round who is on their own whereas they will think twice about asking a couple or family round. You will go well and good luck to you, you brave person! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARYROSE02 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Thanks for the advise Maryrose. I have my heart set on Perth but I guess it all depends on work etc. I will defo be looking for a flatshare as thats what I have been used to in the past. Good to know there are Spurs clubs over there, I will be most likely going to the Rangers club in Perth for all my sins haha. Went there before and its always useful to meet people from back home. Funny I think its worse for a single person than a couple as the single person doesn't have anyone else whereas the couple have one another. Folk would assume that the single person is grand as they don't have anything or anyone to answer to but it ain't as simple as that :-D Don't have a job but my aim when I get there is a flatshare and also work so will be on that asap. I doubt I would get something before as that is very rare for an employer to offer a position for the type of work I do without actually meeting me. I could always look online beforehand just in case. Sounds like it worked out for you. Thank you again :-) Manager of one of the pubs I go to is Rangers fan. He told me he worked in a sports bar and when the Celtic fans were there for a game he'd wear his ?Hun? Shirt. Why Hun? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARYROSE02 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 HI MR, do you go the triple aces to watch the spurs game? I was over last year and met up with some top spurs guys there and watched a couple of matches. Im heading to Melbourne this time so likely to catch up with the OzSpurs guys there at the Imperial Hotel Tevnod, I'm also heading over on my own, likely to be landing in Melbourne in July, same as you as no job lined up but I have my Resume with a couple of agencies so fingers cross. MR is correct, start off small, poss hostel and look for a house share, I see they are about the same as a hostel per week, but it will then be your home from home and can act as a starting point for your new life. Check out the meetups website, they have loads of groups for all sorts of activities. You'll be fine, I totally understand your fear, there is not 1 moment I don't try to talk myself out of it If you don't do it you will regret it for the rest of your life Good luck on your move. Yes, I go to the Aces for most of the games Inc Hull but I am glad I stayed home for the Stoke debacle. I doubt like getting up for the 5am games but I'll stay up if it's 3am or 4am I'll stay up. Bar at Aces closes for alcohol at 3am. I've got my shirt for the 30 May game. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andrewajp002 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Cool, I quite liked the Bar, I think I will find it strange initially having to watch spurs at 5am etc., and with being in the EL meaning most games will be on a Sunday night / Monday morning. I wish I would have got my redundancy earlier then I would have come out for the match, however it got delayed and now I cant really get out until end of July, shame but I guess spurs will be back out there at some point, also I kept my ST on at WHL so I get to go back for a few games each year and I get to go to any finals Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thistle87 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 I came out on my own in march and im managing ok renting a room in a house with aussies an indian and a kiwi so they are keeping me right lol yeah its tough and you will feel lonely sometimes but skype and facetime help me get over my homesick blues and you will soon meet people through work etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARYROSE02 Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 Cool, I quite liked the Bar, I think I will find it strange initially having to watch spurs at 5am etc., and with being in the EL meaning most games will be on a Sunday night / Monday morning. I wish I would have got my redundancy earlier then I would have come out for the match, however it got delayed and now I cant really get out until end of July, shame but I guess spurs will be back out there at some point, also I kept my ST on at WHL so I get to go back for a few games each year and I get to go to any finals I've met people out here who kept their season tickets, or perhaps loaned them to family members/friends. Talked to a young guy on Sat night in fact, out here on a uni exchange for four months, season ticket holder, has loaned it to his brother I think. Perhaps not much point, financially, in keeping a season ticket going if you live here? But then again, following a footie club, especially Spurs, is not about making sound financial decisions! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Bora Posted May 19, 2015 Share Posted May 19, 2015 I've met people out here who kept their season tickets, or perhaps loaned them to family members/friends. Talked to a young guy on Sat night in fact, out here on a uni exchange for four months, season ticket holder, has loaned it to his brother I think. Perhaps not much point, financially, in keeping a season ticket going if you live here? But then again, following a footie club, especially Spurs, is not about making sound financial decisions!Season Tickets, if you can, should be kept for as long as possible wherever permitted just in case, (depending on who you support of course). I put my name down on the STW list in 99' and moved up about 60 places in 7 years due to unprecedented success. in 2006 I snuck in with a few seats of the new capacity spare meaning I was almost 22,000 places down the list at that time. Two years later, on my renewal pack the opening page explained there were now over 40,000 on the season ticket waiting list. 40,000. We could have built the biggest stadium in Europe at 100,000 and seen it mostly filled every week. So hang on to those Season Tickets if you can, you never know how long the queue may be should anything strange happen over the road ....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trevnod Posted May 20, 2015 Author Share Posted May 20, 2015 Haha it's a slang name for us really, good to know he's a Rangers man. Yeah every fibre in my being is saying no especially as I have to break up with my partner but I know it will all be worth it. Maybe not straight away but it will come ? Manager of one of the pubs I go to is Rangers fan. He told me he worked in a sports bar and when the Celtic fans were there for a game he'd wear his ?Hun? Shirt. Why Hun? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolla Bolla Bing Bong Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 Just wondered if anyone has migrated over by themselves? I am doing this in October and honestly, I am s**ting myself :-( Just wondered if anyone else was in the same boat as me and how they coped..... Cheers Hi Trevnod, I did the exact same thing you did in October 2011 and I to was sh*tting myself. Its just a natural reaction. Where abouts are you heading to? I came close to not coming out here to be honest but my friends and some of my family were so supportive that I headed out and its been the best move of my life. Of course I was scared to begin with but you soon make friends. What sort of working industry will you be in? Best thing to do when you get here is 'socialise'!!! I dont mean go out and get drunk at the pub and dance on tables, even though that would be funny. I mean get out and about, join up with clubs, groups, gyms etc. You soon get chatting and before you know it 6 months has passed by and you have a great selection of friends which can only grow. If you are heading to Brisbane then let me know and if you have any questions, dont hesitate to give me a shout. Cheers Matt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quinkla Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 Manager of one of the pubs I go to is Rangers fan. He told me he worked in a sports bar and when the Celtic fans were there for a game he'd wear his ?Hun? Shirt. Why Hun? Hun is short for Hanoverian - referring to the House of Hanover - the Protestant German royal family who overthrew the House of Stuart. Calling Rangers fans "Huns" was an allusion to their Protestantism and loyalty to the current British monarchy. Sadly, Rangers went into liquidation in 2012. A new club was formed called Sevco, which then changed its name to Rangers to try to replace the defunct club and attract its supporters. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trevnod Posted May 21, 2015 Author Share Posted May 21, 2015 Hi Matt Love the username :-) heading out to Perth myself probably in October but before if the right opportunity comes about. Think your definitely right though, throw myself into the deep end. Thanks again Trevor Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest51810 Posted May 21, 2015 Share Posted May 21, 2015 Why do you have to break up with your partner? Do they not want to come? Hope you don't mind me asking that btw! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jumpingjellybean Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 Just wondered if anyone has migrated over by themselves? I am doing this in October and honestly, I am s**ting myself Well don't s*** yourself - you will be just fine I am sure. How very very exciting......look on it as an adventure This is for Sydney but sure each city has something similar: http://www.meetup.com/cities/au/sydney/events/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trevnod Posted May 25, 2015 Author Share Posted May 25, 2015 Ah it just wasn't for her. She tried a holiday there and never liked it. As hard as it is I am still going as its my dream. Why do you have to break up with your partner? Do they not want to come? Hope you don't mind me asking that btw! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trevnod Posted May 25, 2015 Author Share Posted May 25, 2015 Cheers jumpingjillybean all useful advise :-) Well don't s*** yourself - you will be just fine I am sure. How very very exciting......look on it as an adventure This is for Sydney but sure each city has something similar: http://www.meetup.com/cities/au/sydney/events/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pommekate Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 I emigrated on my own 13 years ago. Was 27 years old left my family and a great network of friends. Just couldn't stand working for the NHS. I remember leaving heathrow with all my friends waving me off and arriving in Sydney knowing nobody and not having anyone meet me from the airport. I had arranged temporary accommodation at the hospital I had been employed by but that was only for 3 months. I was sharing a hospital flat with an aussie radiographer and in the first two weeks we just seemed to pass each other as we both worked shift work. In my first two weeks it did feel pretty lonely visiting the sights on my own and I remember one evening feeling really teary thinking I had made a massive mistake. I remember plucking up the courage to ask my aussie flatmate (who I had only seen in passing) if she fancied going out in Sydney thankfully she agreed, I then learnt that she had only lived in Sydney for 2 weeks longer than me. Thankfully we built up a great friendship even her parents adopted me as their pomme daughter! It is nerve wracking but also exciting. But I look back now and think it was one of the best things I could have done. I have since married an aussie and have 3 kids. I'd be lying if I said I didn't have my ups and downs, probably took 2-3 years to not feel homesick. I reckon you make more of an effort when you are on your own. I have found the Aussies to be very friendly warm and inviting. I was amazed at how the friends I met even their families wanted to make sure that i was welcome, my first Christmas was spent with 3 different families, Christmas Eve with one, Christmas Day with another. The parents of my aussie friends said that if their children were in the Uk they would hope british families would be the same towards them. just go for it, wish you all the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trevnod Posted May 28, 2015 Author Share Posted May 28, 2015 Thank you very much. I will definitely try even if it's the hardest thing I've ever done Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bobj Posted May 28, 2015 Share Posted May 28, 2015 Thank you very much. I will definitely try even if it's the hardest thing I've ever done Love your attitude, mate. Did the immigration thingo in 1963 as a 22 year old...Have had and still having a fabulous time. Cheers, Bobj. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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