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Dell, I think you are amazing and I say go for it how wonderful !! You have given me hope here I am at aged 49 thinking im leaving it too long to go back and live. I moved here with my parents who live in sydney, I have two kids aged 18 and 20 and its not the right time for me to move back although I would love to. I look forward to hearing all about your adventures... Im going back with hubby and kids for four weeks next year and am looking forward to that.... can I ask do you have any kids or relatives either here or in England ?, how do they feel ?

My brother had a falling out with them some years ago, its just not an option for him to be involved. Its not an option right now to move back just looking at other options for the next 3-4 years. My kids although adults at 18 and 20 still need me and I probably still need them ..... thanks for everyones answers and feedback x

Hi Marisa , easier said than done parents getting older , brother doesnt speak to parents and my son is only 18 and I couldnt leave at this time. At this time Im trying to work out how to spend more time in UK. Maybe in 3-4 years things may be different but leaving now is not an option.

Morning Everyone , I have posted on here before and then disappeared , Im sorry for that as some people posted really lovely replies. Short version of my story : emigrated to sydney on 1986 with parents and brother , married Aussie had two kids. Got divorced and remarried first boyfriend from UK. Mum and dad in their 70's. They have made the decision to not move back to the UK ( although its still where there heart is ). My kids are 18.5 and 20.5 , my daughter wont move to UK ( although loves going for holiday ) and my son feels English ( even though born here ) so he could end up anywhere. The thought of living in Aus for the rest of my life I actually cant let myself believe ( although I love Aus ). Next May 2019 we are going back for four weeks , the four of us. I am trying to think of a way to be able to spend more time in the UK . Has anyone lived in Aus and found a way ( without been rich ) of spending time each year in the UK ? really appreciate any help.... on a side note I am close to my parents , and hubby loves it here xxx

Thank you Sunni, for me money really is the answer , I know money does not buy happiness in all situations but in this it would , If I could go back every year for a period of time ( prob at least a month or two ) I think this would help. But in the end I am one of four people and at the moment this is where I have to be. The kids will both have finished school in four years and they have a good relationship with their dad and family so maybe it will be an option. My plan and I have told them is that when they finish school we all go over for three months and just see and take it form there whether this will happen I dont know. x

I am not married to their father and there is a court order inplace with access. I would be arrested in UK and sent back. After they turn 16 the Hague convention doesnot apply and so if they wanted to at that point we could do that but I am 90% sure they wont want to and as I was brought here against my will ( all be it well meaning ) I owuld not do the same to them.

I know Skani and I have not thrown the towel in I cant ....... Just as they got older I thought it would be easier but they have their own minds which is annoying !!! (LOL)

Hi Michelle, Yes thats how I know I would feel , I better keep playing lotto. I have though I will open up a UK account . You said an important thing though you are going " home" this is not my home and believe me I have REALLY REALLY tried ...... I love my kids so much so I dont know what to do. My husband loves it here and has a job he loves so I dont know what the answer is x

Hi Skani, Yes but its not that simple really , as they will still need me and they will get married have kids etc etc...... and I think the guilt of leaving them would be toomuch

I had a break from Poms IN aus and now Im back , despite all the arguing that goes on here. I find no one else really knows how I am feeling. If it helps someone here is my story , moved here in 1986 with parents and brother , I was dragged kicking and screaming I didnt want to come ...... when I was 17. For the last 20 or so years have yearned to go back to UK , Have 2 children born here am divorced from their dad and re-married an english man. Cannot go back right now as kids here ( they are 13 and 15 ). My mum and dad are now going back for four months to see if they want to live there. I truly dont know what to do I actually like/love Australia but England is where my heart is and I dont want to grow old here and have regrets but then there are my children who are my life as well ...... Has anyone else had this situaaion and how has it/is it been resolved good or bad , has anyone managed to live in both countries ( and not won lottery ) ........... thank you x

I agree with you pommy oz , In my case the father does as little as possible . pays as little as possible but then says he could not bear to be seperated from his precious children.... If he was honest the only reason he fights so hard to keep us here is to spite me ..... I agree it is all about the kids but SOMETIMES it is best that the parent the child lives with is in a good mental place ...here I honestly believe that the courts favour the father most times , the pendulum has swung so far back the other way......SO be very careful if you are coming here with kids !!! x

I am here with two children who have an aussie father. They are 10 and 12...The fact is that anti depressants dont always help situational depression which is what it sounds like you have and what I get. One day I hope to be home but for mow I am here.... Your children WILL cope. My adivce for what its worth is go home.I have now been here 23 yeasr and yes the pain does dull...but if you dont have to go through life with a constant dull pain then dont do it !!!!

This is why get it sorted before you come here.....both do up an agreement and sign it then just file it !!