Elven Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Hi I'm new to the group and looking for advice from people who have emigrated. It's a massive decision and I think feeling scared but excited of your new adventure is normal. Also the leaving family and friends is gonna be tough. I'm on a mind blowing roller coaster of emotions and slowly driving myself insane! Looking for support and advice from people who have made a new life in Oz :unsure: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
calNgary Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Hi Its normal to panic about what your doing, especially as the move gets closer. Its a huge thing to do and unfortunately is very tough on the heart strings. The goodbyes are horrible, im not going to lie, its the worst thing ive ever had to do and i thought i was a bit of a tough cookie,lol. However, you have to keep your chin up and be somewhat selfish and put you and your needs first,keep focusing on the reasons you are wanting to migrate and wanting to have this new adventure. The first year or so once you arrive here can be tough, you miss all the familiar things and know no-one but if you can hang on in there, get out and meet people you can settle into a great life over here. Picking an area that suits you and your needs is also important, dont rush into anything, take your time even if it means spending a tad longer in holiday or temp accommodation. We are coming up for 8 years and now have no regrets,despite having plenty of wobbles prior to leaving and quite a few'' i want to go home' tantrums in my first year here,lol. Lots of luck with everything Cal x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lynsey Nicolson Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 I suppose I am slightly different in circumstances in that I have lived in the area I am going back to so I have a few friends there so wont need to start out all over again, however nothing compares to having your best friends but there's facetime and skype which i will hound them with! Deep down I am terrified! I'm desperate for my email to come and tell me yes but that is when the it will sink in that I am leaving. I know that all the time, money and effort I have put into this is all for the better and a new life that I am about to start and that is what you need to keep thinking about. New start and experience, so exciting! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Ok, first off there is no "new" life just a continuation of the one you have (wherever you go, there you are!) so if you've managed your life ok thus far, chances are you will manage it ok isolated on the other side of the world. Self sufficiency tinged with quite a dose of selfishness will be key (if you get enmeshed with other peoples' emotions you will flounder. After a while it will become the same wash-the-dishes-do-the-laundry-put-the-garbage-out life you're leading already. At least Poms are in the enviable position that if it all goes pear shaped you can move on to another first world country. Enjoy the adventure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mxmanus Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 We are only two months away from leaving and almost every weekend is booked with something or somebody to do things before we leave. Arrange meals out with friends and family so you can have relaxed chats about all sorts of things. Try not to focus on AUS. If it comes up talk about it briefly then move on. Remember your excited, others probably are not. We are all going through a massive emotional roller coaster, with times when you feel like your crazy to be leaving. It doesn't help that the UK is picking up economically and AUS is in a slow down if you believe what you read. Remember if you dont have a go you'll regret it for the rest of your life. As others have said if it doesn't work out you can come back. But dont give up too easily though . I see your from Corby LOL so are we. ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elven Posted June 6, 2014 Author Share Posted June 6, 2014 Thank you for all your kind words of support and it's a great help knowing others are going through the same emotions. Keeping busy and not obsessing with leaving is key but hard to do when there's planning and preparation at the forefront of your mind. Our families don't really talk about it as I suspect it's painful for them. My friends are keeping me busy with having fun and making memories. A new day today to start to stay focused on why we started the emigration in the first place. Argh! I can do this "keep calm and emigrate" haha. Mxmanus I can't believe your from Corby too that really made my day I hope you keep in touch with your progress and settling in when you's arrive. I sent you a pm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy99 Posted June 6, 2014 Share Posted June 6, 2014 Like others have said the last few weeks before you go are the worst ever! We rented our house out from January 1st and weren't flying until 27th January so were in holiday accommodation for 4 weeks and it was the longest 4 weeks ever, I feel like I was in limbo land! I was dreading the 'day' we left, but I was also secretly excited to be starting our new adventure, and like the others have said your friends and family will be feeling a lot worse than you as you have so much to look forward too. I did a lot of socialising in those last 4 weeks, it was very moving actually the amount of effort my family and friends were going to for us, meals, gifts, drinks, family gatherings in fact in the end (this sounds awful) but I was glad to go when we did as it was all getting a bit too much for me. Thankfully with technology now and skype I've kept in touch with everyone and making more of an effort too, it's lovely to be able to keep them all up to date with our new life and they're genuinely interested. When you arrive you'll be in shock for a day or so, I know we were, but a lot of that was jet lag as I just could not sleep on either flights so I was knackered, homeless and all of a sudden the enormity of what we'd done hit me - but i soon shook that off once I looked at the blue sky and felt the warm sun on my skin and the rest is history as they say, but yes it's perfectly normal to feel the way you are feeling but just focus on the adventure :rolleyes: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marisawright Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Hi I'm new to the group and looking for advice from people who have emigrated. It's a massive decision and I think feeling scared but excited of your new adventure is normal. Also the leaving family and friends is gonna be tough. I'm on a mind blowing roller coaster of emotions and slowly driving myself insane! Looking for support and advice from people who have made a new life in Oz :unsure: I may have missed other posts where you explain your background. If you're single and moving on your own, then I'd say you've got nothing to worry about - it's an adventure, it's not going to cost you a fortune, and if you don't like it you can always go home. If you're a family, then you may have reasons for nerves, especially as you're talking about a "new life". You'll find life in Australia isn't necessarily better than where you are now, it's just different. So it really depends what you're hoping for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elven Posted June 7, 2014 Author Share Posted June 7, 2014 I'm moving with myself and partner leaving grown up off spring behind, which is gonna be tough. I see it as I'm opening up opportunities in the future for them and hoping they will follow me out. One has a career in the armed forces but the other has just finished uni and starting out with his career but sadly shows no interest in emigrating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marisawright Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 I'm moving with myself and partner leaving grown up off spring behind, which is gonna be tough. I see it as I'm opening up opportunities in the future for them and hoping they will follow me out. One has a career in the armed forces but the other has just finished uni and starting out with his career but sadly shows no interest in emigrating. I assume that means you've got a bit more behind you, so you can afford the cost if you move and decide it doesn't suit. I don't think "opening up opportunities" for your children is a valid reason to move. Australia's economy is good, but it's a very small country compared to the UK and it's a long way from anywhere - in almost any career, there are far more opportunities in the UK, especially because of the ease of movement across Europe. Besides, you know one of your sons doesn't want to migrate, so he's unlikely to change his mind. What does the other one think? A cautionary tale springs to mind here - there's another member of these forums who says she persuaded her daughters to come to Australia against their better judgment. Now she's older she would like to spend her old age back in the UK - but her daughters are now settled here, with grandchildren, and they would never forgive her if she upped sticks and abandoned them after pressurising them so hard to migrate. So she's stuck, and miserable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Rummy Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 Hi Elven, don't sweat it. I moved here five months ago from America, and trust me it's not scary at all. The country is friendly, and you'll like it here. It does take a while to make friends here -- more difficult that in the States, but trust me it's a great place and nothing to get worried about!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elven Posted June 8, 2014 Author Share Posted June 8, 2014 Hi Marisa we're not making the move to open up opportunities for my sons we just think it'll give them more options in their future. I've thought long and hard about what if we don't settle and they do (if they ever did come out to live). What will be will be and my sons will make their own paths in life which could take them anywhere in the world. We fell in love with Oz and the pull to live over there is strong. But what we're leaving behind is tough and a hard thing to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 Hi Marisa we're not making the move to open up opportunities for my sons we just think it'll give them more options in their future. I've thought long and hard about what if we don't settle and they do (if they ever did come out to live). What will be will be and my sons will make their own paths in life which could take them anywhere in the world. We fell in love with Oz and the pull to live over there is strong. But what we're leaving behind is tough and a hard thing to do. As adults it won't really give them any more options in their futures, they'll still have to make their own way on their own merits regardless of whether you live there or not. They may end up anywhere from Alaska to Zanzibar depending on where their interests and skills may provide options or they may settle down anywhere between Aberdeen and Yeovil leaving you alone in Aus - be prepared for that isolation. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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