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Thanks Shelly, no need to go further. Just too much going on for me at mo. Not about that. Just would of hated to think I had caused upset or harm to anyone. can move on, cause your OK. All the best. x kiwi. In two years, back in Uk! positive!

Hi Shelly, I guess I am saying again sorry, and goodbye. I have left, re logged on, but really felt I had to say what I had to say. Because I don't think it came across right. I find you delightful, and u make us feel good after bad. The day I said that, and I don't even really remember the first post, only afters, my mum just told me about her new cancer, and I will be responsible for caring for her. I am not going to beat around the bush, because won't come back on, so here it goes: I am sorry Shelly if I upset you. I stand true by what I said. You do hog these forums. Bear in mind, it might mean a lot too other posters on this forum to be encouraged, and heard.! My hubby is very busy in work, and I find it hard to make friends in Australia. So I guess I just wanted to be heard. This forum was kind of a friend to me. Your personality and gift of the gab is unique. You are such a big personality, you could have something of your own and we would tune in. You do put a smile on peoples face! All the best Shelly, Sorry if I upset. just wanted to clear the air for final time because I have felt stink. kind regards to everyone, just wanted to leave on a good note, and say sorry for any upset. Go for dreams, I am . In two years, back in England. Kind regards, Kiwi in aus.

The only posts I have put on this thread, are the ones you see. The moderators have deleted nothing from me. I have not said anything about your marriage or husband Shelly and I take offence to you keep going on that I have. I have enjoyed the relevant topics on this thread, and I do prefer to keep the topic about the poster. But I give up. It does go off track and people do squabble. You do not need to unsubscribe Shelly because I am. Please stay on this forum as I know you enjoy it.

I don't really understand, I never said anything about your marriage. Am a bit confused as to what is going on and think you have taken this out of proportion.

I've only just come back on so don't know what screen shots have been removed or what you mean by gossips and making 10 etc Shelly, I did not know upset was going on. My intention was to be factual not personal, I apologise if I upset you. I just do prefer it when the threads stay more on track. Just my opinion. I am not seeking anyone's agreement or trying to upset. Now, just wondering if anyone else is having strange things going on with this forum?????? I am getting words changed, weird errors and links to newspapers and odd stuff going on. I seem to have some windows error with this. I am going to do a virus check. Anyone else getting odd things or just my computer???

I don't think its about nice or not shelly, I am nice, and you are super adorable. Just I think we should always go back to the poster, and check in how they are doing. Have we heard from those two upset men in a while?

I know JockinTas, just we should all matter and we all have something to say. I just think someone who has the guts to start a thread should be heard.

I did post something. I don't know what happened. Maybe I am not meant to say? I'll try again. I said "don't wan to upset the applecart". I just think Shelly you do hog the forum at times. Think back to the original poster and what it is all about. Are you really that happy with all? I am not sure. We all have things to say. At the end of the day, it is about the poster who started the thread.

How wonderful the above have said the encouraging comments they have said. Don't read too much into it or be afraid for change. You have said your reasons for leaving, and good on you. I would move back tomorrow if I could. I have a near 15 year old daughter. She was born in England the moved at age 3. She is looking forward to dong University in England, would move back earlier if had too. No problem. I guess I am trying to say, if you think you are doing the right thing, and children are cared for, they are open minded and ok. Do what is right for you and your hubby, kids will be fine. And don't expect too much from extended family. They are a bonus if all great, but don't live your life through others. Just keep doors open, but put yourselves first. All the best.

Last post I promise! I have just read your posts to Gough and Marissa. You come across as not sounding happy or confident in your marriage. If you can make things right, and if that is what you want, while staying in Ausi, then find a counsellor and go for it! But if deep down you need to go back to England, and try a new life, and re connect with your family, then this is an option. Sometimes walking away from a marriage and saying I deserve more, is stronger, than staying.

It is interesting how the "mid life crisis" continues to come up. I am 44. I prefer to call it "mild life empowerment". It does not have to be a crisis, I think it is more than in your 40's and 50's you are older and wiser, you have the strength to say what you think, stick up for what you believe, and go for what you want. davlap, it is hard for you to be objective and see the big picture, if you feel so down. Absolutely you should feel down. There is not a lot of culture here in Aus, working only 3 months in 18 is not good, you don't go out anymore, you've lost your interest in sport because of AFL (I soooooo agree, I am a former sports lover, and athlete) , no hobbies or interests. You say you are not happy because of above, and because your OH won't speak to you, well, to feel down and think you have the right to complain or say not right, very sane. All of the above is not good. Your OH owes you proper conversation. And my personal opinion is never settle in a country just for old age, or being scared to address things. Moving to NSW or Brisbane is not going to change anything. Just make your loose money and be more unhappy. QLD is still Australia! Speak to your OH, maybe see a counsellor to have an outsider see clarity, but don't ever settle. Oh and by the way, the fact you want to give up booze, see culture, not into AFL, not want to watch crap TV, !!! you do not sound right for Australia. That is a good thing! Look into it more, seek advice, and go for it! One life, don't settle!

Hi blobby1000, first of all the basics, your children are happy. That is huge! Secondly you state you prefer England as a country, so again, more positive than negative. You say "was it really worth coming home for this"? Well your children are happy and you prefer, the country, so yes! Allow yourself to accept your new life and enjoy. Maybe you were seeking adventure in Australia for Mrs Blobby? Maybe she is not happy where ever she is??? I absolutely agree with Lady Raincorn. Seek new adventure in England. Make the best of what you have. Encourage Mrs Blobby to be happy, but at the end of the day, you are only responsible for yourself. Seek adventure in Europe, don't up heave your kids, and encourage Mrs Blobby. But at the end of the day, you can only do so much.

Love this thread! I am going to come back on later to have a wee say when time. Just wanted to say whether we are for England or Australia (or maybe both) it is just nice to be able to have intelligent conversations with good opinions and diversity, that you can not always get outside of this forum. I have learnt to keep quiet. It is nice to feel supported or just want to express on this forum and people respond and listen. Oh and by the way, I don't think moving to Brisbane will make anything better.:wubclub:

Can you please clarify, when you say go back in March do you mean all your family including your wife? Is she happy to go back? Also you say before you daughter turns 11, which is two years. But you are talking about March which is 9 months.? Do you have a good relationship with your eldest daughter back in England? Do you get on with the mother of your child in England as obviously you will be in a lot more contact with her over there than here? How would you family here fit back into the family dynamic back in England? That is assuming your wife wishes to return also.

What do you really want Ned? We all can't really help you until you know what you want. From the brief reading above, you want to go home. Fair enough. But are you that displeased with you wife to go???????????????? No one here will judge, hopefully just help. All the best.

Yeah a new thread, delighted.! Welcome, I was new not so long ago myself. First of all, why are you going back to UK?? are you on your own?? Hubby around? Do not wish to offend, just lets get to basics real quick. I think sometimes people join this forum because they want someone to talk too, they are lost, they need support. And that's great. Because we should all help each other. Down to the logical, how long have you been away from England? Your daughter will be deemed as an international student, even if she was born in England. You need to reside 3 years in England (whether born or not) before you are eligible. I in same position. My eldest just turning 15, we in Aus, she want university in England. We are moving back. Why? because I believe the lifestyle and education better in England than Australia. You can only do soooo much. You might need to pay the first year of international fees. Save, apply for scholarships, but only short years out of overall life. Good luck to you. Hope you get lots of positive responses. End of day, just do what you think best. If going back to England right for you, go. Jut counter in extra costs for a couple of years, but think long term.

What do you mean Que Sera Sera, why?? did you get what you want out of it?? You are still in Western Australia??? Yes the 40's is a turning point.

Happyheart, like your enthusiasm. Go for it. I have patiently stood back and waited and watched on this thread. Got a little impatient, as said above, cause I think this thread needs to move on. Just wondering why you are so confident at age of 44 and can move on??? I am also just turned 44 and going "is this it!"

Perthbum, love your picture, as I have previously said. But the boat people can not be saved, until the people who are accounted for, matter, and have an opinion! yes government! Some of us try just to cope with our own family,or extended family first. And maybe no time for the boat people? Unfortunatley we are born into what we are born into. Only can do soooo much. I feel sympathy for anyone, will cry for anyone, but I know my initial resources always goes to my immediate family. And I am tired after that. Sooo, there it ends. Just be realistic, I like your ambition, but just confused why you bring this up. Not about being mean or unfair, but look after your own first. Maybe that is enough to bring about change.

What nonsense are you talking! bless the boat people, sure, but they don't subscribe too this thread! Focus on task at hand! We love you Marissa, but move on. A lot of you are using this thread to moan on, and on, and on!!! Marissa, move! I had not been too Southampton, but think pretty clear, crap! Don't move all the way across the world too not seek the best! Move, as members here have said! The rest of you, let it go. Maybe some other member has something else to say!

Take your dog back to England. You do not know what lies ahead. Your finances could turn around, hence you could afford your dog. I feel from reading your post, you defend your dog more than your hubby. Look into both. Just advice, and wishing you the best. Just stop and think about all before decisions.

Start a new thread! and stop squabbling! I think Marissa has enough advice, basically move! Maybe someone else has something to say????

I have been keeping one eye on this post! and waiting! for comments to get realistic! bitching back and forth over pub meals and meaningless! seriously! Marissa, I don't know Southampton, or exact terms on where you are living, but life is short, u have made huge move, MOVE! hand in your notice, wait your whatever terms and conditions, and move. Don't blame yourself or look too much into it, you did the best! just move on! Don't juge yourself just move! You move from Australia so handing in notice and moving into the most wonderful place in England can't be too hard! go for it! Don't settle, don't judge! And seriously who gives a toss about the prices of things! Emotions of people, and what people think matter more. Good luck Marissa, move, simple, go for it, beautiful places in England, and good for u protecting your hubby, hugs. xx But the rest of you, let if go.! squabbling over the prices of stuff, come on!

And I meant to add into the above post. My parents divorced when I was 16, just turning 17. Actually the timing was for me to finish high school so I could leave the family home which was being sold. I was the youngest so they waited for me. It was all nicely and logically planned. Dad did his own thing, I went to a city to start my tertiary education. I lived with an auntie and worked two part time jobs to pay my way. My mum who was a nurse prior, went back to education and re trained to become a mid wife. So technically my mum told me to leave because she wanted to re start her life and was off to study. I was very proud of her. And we use to meet up all the time as were both studying in the same city. She had been very unhappy in her marriage and I was so pleased she was having another chance. There was never any animosity. Then at 20 I left NZ to go to England. She was sad to see me go, but we both had our own lives to lead. (I am seeing her in two weeks time when she comes over for a holiday:wubclub:

I loved a quote a poster put on another recent thread "I am sure if your heart is happy then your head is right" or something like that. (sorry can not remember which member) I think if you miss home that much, and it was a big part of why your marriage broke up, how can you be the best you in Australia? And how are you going to have the strength and support to recover in Australia without your friends and family who are back in UK? You are a person in your own right and you deserve to live the life you want after putting you children first for nearly 20 years. And is it really fair for your husband (or nearly ex) to be telling you a lot you will regret moving back? Surely that just pulls you down even more? If your 19 year old is away at the mines and you only see him once a month, is it worth staying in Australia for the other 30 days for him? Surely there would be opportunities to see him in the future and keep an open door policy? If you youngest is 17 and finishing school in November, as another member suggested, could you two not take a trip back to England together and show him another option? He may end up loving the opportunities of England and meeting the other members of his family.