Bezza

When I agreed to move to oz I had said to my husband that it would be a case of 'giving it a go' for a couple of years to see if we liked it. Also, things change when you have a baby. In my case, I was at home alone with a little baby and you do end up feeling very isolated. I didn't feel I could just pop in to my in laws when I was feeling lonely as I would do with my parents in the UK. I agree with aunt agatha, feelings change due to circumstances and don't think you can hold someone down to staying in one country, think you have to keep your options open.

Hi, I was just going to a post on this forum about the exact same situation but just came across your post! My husband is australian, we met in the uk and then moved to oz 3 years ago. We got married just before we left and had a baby over here. With hindsight I probably would have stayed in the uk to start a family. I have really missed my family and friends and have felt quite isolated at times. My hubbies family live nearby but it just isn't the same as having your own family around you when you have a child. I'm very keen to move back but hubby is completely against it and it's having a real negative effect on our relationship. I do love Australia and can see myself living here at a later stage in my life, I just feel that I need the support of family and friends at the moment. It has got to the stage where my hubby won't even discuss this which is really getting me down. Its a really hard situation to be in and think that it's important that you can both communicate to each other what you want and come to some sort of compromise. I agree with others on this forum that it may be a case of going back and forth (although this does get harder when kids are involved). I just worry that whatever we do, one of us will always be miserable! Same as you, his family would not be supportive if we moved back (even tho mine were when we moved here!), one of his reasons for not moving was that he didn't want to have to tell his parents that we would be leaving! Our son is also currently their only grandchild. It's so hard and I wish we could somehow do half the year here and half there but that's just not possible. I hope you manage to come to a decision together, I think it's good to be thinking about it now before you have kids as I wish had thought it through more carefully.

Thanks for the advice, I think i will look into getting him a brit passport. Oh no to homesickness getting worse!! will be interesting to see whether the trip will make me wanna stay or come back!

Hi, I have just booked flights to travel back to the UK next July for 3 months with my son (who will be 2 then) without my husband. My hubbie is Australian and Im on a permanent spouse visa. Just wondered what happens in terms of passports? My son has an Australian passport and I have a British one - is this a problem at all? Do I have to get him a British passport? Just wondered if anyone else has been in this situation and what they did? Have now been living here for 2 years and still feeling homesick :sad: to those who have been out here for a while, does it get any better?? Bezza

Just had an email today so say that my visa (subclass 309) had been approved!! At last! Application recieved 9th Feb -requested medicals and police check Medicals done 18th Feb Police check recieved March 16th Received email 5th April saying early July for finalisation Received another email June 6th - again saying early July for finalisation Just need to book my flights now! Good luck to everyone who is waiting! :biggrin:

Hi Chimpy Chops, Our CO is MT. Wow - next week, thats great! We are planning on going to Melbourne - not sure whereabouts yet and havent even booked flights so lots of stuff to do! When do you fly out?

Hi, In response to those asking how long the visas are taking - my application (partner 309 visa) was recieved on 9th Feb and just yesterday recieved an email from the CO saying it will be finalised in early July - so exactly 5 months. Good timing as we are getting married at end of July in UK and then practically off to Australia straight away!

Just thought I would say a quick hi to everyone! I have just joined this forum as have recently sent off my application for a visa subclass 309. Its great to see that it seems to be taking around 5 months for the visas to be processed. My visa application was recieved on 9th Feb - the CO requested meds and police check which I have now completed so fingers crossed! Our plan is to go to Oz in Sept this year - can't wait!