excitedbutterrified Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 Is this a common thing? I have 5 days left at work, followed by 3 weeks of leave, and then Im off to Melbourne and immediately starting work. I'm getting an increasing feeling of dread about leaving my job which I have been in for 11 years and jumping in to the unknown. Also the wife and kids are staying in the uk for a while so I can set up home and Im not looking forward to being without them. Hopefully it will all settle down once I have arrived and gotten into the swing of our new Aussie life, but am really nervous now! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight7 Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 When you get to Melbourne it will take a few days to get your bearings so to speak (not to mention jetlag)- can't you take part of your 3 weeks off as that time and fly there a bit earlier? Everyone ges nervous with a big step like that, it's normal. What part of Melbourne are you looking at? Melbourne covers many kms, it is a huge sprawly place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
excitedbutterrified Posted March 27, 2015 Author Share Posted March 27, 2015 Hi Starlight, My new employer has a guest house / hotel on site which is in Clayton on the Monash university site. So they are putting me up in there for 4 weeks. After that I will be looking for a 4 beds house within 10k of Clayton. On our visit last year, we looked at some suburbs and liked Mount / Glen Waverley, liked some of the places nearer to the coast, but we dont want too much of a commute and rents seemed to ramp up. Ill be arriving on thursday 30th and starting work the monday 4th so there are a few days, but i want to keep the time I am apart from the family to a minimum! Pete Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tina0101 Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 I think most people get jittery at your stage!! Since we arrived, I haven't ever regretted it. We had no jobs and no family or friends here. Was a very nervy last few weeks in the UK. 7 months in and we love it!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BearnBob Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 Tina, You'll never know how much those few words of your help ... packers next Weds, Fly Easter Monday, start work the following Sunday. Yikes Bear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacaranda Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 Big changes about to happen in your lives,so I'm not surprised at all by you feeling nervous.Its a big thing,leaving the security of home and work,thats major stuff in anyone's lives tbh and to be feeling nervous is completely justified imho. Ok so now you need to focus on the positives.Atleast you have a job to go to,and accomo when first arriving.Having a job is a huge plus right?Thats security in itself.Great to also have the accomo,albeit its temp but its a starting point and gives you some breathing space to sort stuff out. Leaving your partner and kids is also huge but......it is only temporary so focus on that aspect!You'll no doubt be skyping etc on a regular basis,,and although you will miss them a lot,you will be starting your new job,and looking for a house for them,so that will be a nice distraction (if you know what I mean) Before you know it,by the time you've started settling into your new job,and house,you'll be collecting them from the airport and it will be fantastic to take them back to your new home! You would of found your feet by then and can show them around,so all will be good! So summing up?Feel the nerves,because they're normal!Say to yourself "I'm feeling really nervous right now"and actually feel it.That way,rather than push those emotions to the side and pretend they're not happening?You will actually start feeling better about this move.You'll be fine hon,seriously! Keep your expectations realistic.Not every single thing will go your way,but hopefully the majority will. I am looking forward to your future posts,where you will be writing "Yes my family are now with me and we couldn't be happier!:cute: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starlight7 Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 Hi Starlight, My new employer has a guest house / hotel on site which is in Clayton on the Monash university site. So they are putting me up in there for 4 weeks. After that I will be looking for a 4 beds house within 10k of Clayton. On our visit last year, we looked at some suburbs and liked Mount / Glen Waverley, liked some of the places nearer to the coast, but we dont want too much of a commute and rents seemed to ramp up. Ill be arriving on thursday 30th and starting work the monday 4th so there are a few days, but i want to keep the time I am apart from the family to a minimum! Pete I know the area well- grandson attends Monash and SIL works there! You won't go far wrong with Mt Waverley, Glen Waverley area it has shops , good restaurants, good schools etc.Will you be living in one of the campus flats at first? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ciaranmacgiolla Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 Best of luck... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Que Sera Sera Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 My OH started work a few days after arriving, it's good it helps you settle and releives the financial pressure. Good luck :wubclub: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
excitedbutterrified Posted March 28, 2015 Author Share Posted March 28, 2015 Thanks Jacaranda, this made me slightly emotional! Big changes about to happen in your lives,so I'm not surprised at all by you feeling nervous.Its a big thing,leaving the security of home and work,thats major stuff in anyone's lives tbh and to be feeling nervous is completely justified imho. Ok so now you need to focus on the positives.Atleast you have a job to go to,and accomo when first arriving.Having a job is a huge plus right?Thats security in itself.Great to also have the accomo,albeit its temp but its a starting point and gives you some breathing space to sort stuff out.Leaving your partner and kids is also huge but......it is only temporary so focus on that aspect!You'll no doubt be skyping etc on a regular basis,,and although you will miss them a lot,you will be starting your new job,and looking for a house for them,so that will be a nice distraction (if you know what I mean) Before you know it,by the time you've started settling into your new job,and house,you'll be collecting them from the airport and it will be fantastic to take them back to your new home! You would of found your feet by then and can show them around,so all will be good! So summing up?Feel the nerves,because they're normal!Say to yourself "I'm feeling really nervous right now"and actually feel it.That way,rather than push those emotions to the side and pretend they're not happening?You will actually start feeling better about this move.You'll be fine hon,seriously! Keep your expectations realistic.Not every single thing will go your way,but hopefully the majority will. I am looking forward to your future posts,where you will be writing "Yes my family are now with me and we couldn't be happier!:cute: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
excitedbutterrified Posted March 28, 2015 Author Share Posted March 28, 2015 Im going to be working at the Australian synchrotron, and they have a hotel and apartments for visiting scientists. I know the area well- grandson attends Monash and SIL works there! You won't go far wrong with Mt Waverley, Glen Waverley area it has shops , good restaurants, good schools etc.Will you be living in one of the campus flats at first? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quinkla Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 Is this a common thing? Yes this is normal. What you are doing is enormous. You are giving up your job, your home, your friends, your family, your habits - everything. People who have not emigrated cannot understand even a fraction of what you are going through. Personally, I'm not sure the three weeks leave was sensible; you will fry your brains and rattle around like a lost thing. I left work on the Wednesday, had stuff packed on the Thursday and flew on the Friday - no time to get anxious. But you will get through it. Even in Australia, you will get moments of wondering what you have done and potentially getting tearful. But these moments do get less frequent and it starts to feel normal. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tina0101 Posted March 29, 2015 Share Posted March 29, 2015 Enjoy the 3 weeks. I had two weeks between leaving work and flying. Used to to see family and say goodbyes. Was very very emotionally draining!! Ive been surprised though at how easy it is to Skype. It's not the same, obviously, as being in the same room, but I thought it would be terrible and awkward and forced and it's not. Its a a huge shift in life. We've been unbelievably lucky since we arrived and the fist 7 months has flown. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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