Booma

it might just be the holiday or it might not. no real need to put pressure on yourself & work that out at the moment. enjoy the rest of your holiday & then give it a couple of months back in oz & see how you feel then. you might feel the same or you might settle back quite happily. even though your little one has some issues i am sure she would cope with a move to the uk given the right support. i have taught children with similar issues which is why i dont think it would be a massive problem in the medium to long term if you moved her back as long as she got the support she needed. did you tell your husband how you are feeling? what was his reaction?

i think this demonstrates why people should do there own searches. it depends what you are used to & what you think is a acceptable standard of living. i know i wouldnt want to live in any of the houses you put links to. a couple of the older homes look pretty enough on the outside but i think the insides look horrible & so tiny. even the new build is tiny.

you should look at what counts as taxable income for family tax b benefit & you will see salary sacrificed superannuation is included in calculating your taxable income to determine eligibility for this benefit.

i think the main problem is the op wants to keep claiming something they arent actually entitled to at the moment.

no cause its still included on your payment summary & counts towards if you are eligible for the benefit or not.

sometimes you just got to do what you got to do. good luck with it all.

stop being so damn defensive all the time. this isnt about you & its no reflection on your life choices if not everyone is in a perpetual state of rapture over all things british the way you are. pretending everything will be roses for the op would be terribly wrong on the current plan so just take a chill pill & allow other people to offer there experiences for once.

i cant help wondering how long the joy of being back in the uk will last if the family moves back with the current plan. especially as the majority of the family is happy in oz. perhaps the op should go back on there own to start with & see how the reality of a reduced standard of living feels before burning bridges in oz. i wish we had tried it out before we threw away our lives in oz. it would have saved us a lot of money & heartache.

you must have had your reasons for wanting the adventure & applying for a job in oz in the first place. you just need to decide if you still want the adventure or if you want to stick with what you know. some people like to spread there wings & experience new things but other people just think they want it & then change there mind when they actually get a opportunity. you sound like the type that was more interested in the idea of it than actually doing it but only you know what you really want to do with your life.

no research. you should try it.

if the certifiction fees were paid to the oz govt for the benefit of people living here i wouldnt care. however i refuse to pay towards the promotion of a political ideology that will destroy my way of life. its that simple.

how much pork is usually in water?

thats the thing though. if it was jews or christians or buddhists saying everything had to be certified there would be uproar. but because its muslims its different & all ok. why is so many people drinking the must not disagree with anything the muslims come up with cool aide.

for such a small percentage of the population they have got a lot of political sway in a relatively short space of time. thats why i wont buy anything certified as halal. i dont want to contribute to funding the spread of a political ideology that destroys the lives of people in the countries where it gets a foothold. the whole certification thing is such a scam. even some muslims were honest enough to say its totally unnecessary & they can simply bless any food to make it halal. if they couldnt do that they wouldnt of been able to eat or drink anything before the certification was introduced. i got a great app for my phone call halal choices. it makes shopping much easier especially when not everything is labelled.

are you north or south side in canberra? when im in canberra for treatment i sometimes go to the playgroup morning on tuesdays at the soft play centre called kid city in mitchell. its on the north side. it costs $10 & as well as the play equipment there is morning tea & craft activity provided for the kids. there is lots of mums & some grandparents & they are all very friendly. lots of different nationalities including sometimes people who cant speak english yet but still everyone fits in with smiles & hand gestures. you can just turn up at 9:30 on any tuesday. theres no forms or anything official to do. you & your child get a coloured name sticker so you can see peoples names & everyone knows whos part of the group.

actually no, im not against it as such. it doesnt fit with my definition of marriage but i will go along with what a majority think in a vote. if a vote agrees to change the definition to deliver so called equality i do feel very strongly that equality should encompass more than just homosexual marriage.

you are mistaken as i have a friend who is a second wife legally married in iraq but not recognised in oz. when her family migrated everyone including her children came on her husbands qualifications but she wasnt counted as part of the family & had to qualify for her own visa. in this she had a harder time than homosexual couples who at least can get there relationship recognised if they want to migrate. i think other unions are very relevant to the discussion. if marriage is no longer accepted as being between one man & one woman & if people are going to throw the word equality around then they need to accept that equality doesnt end with homosexuals. you cant say you want equality for one group & not another based on your personal preferences. I prefer the traditional definition that marriage is between one man & one woman of legal age. however if that definition is to be changed it needs to encompass other people in the community.

its not that long ago that most people said the same thing about homosexuality. who are we to say something is just a lifestyle choice. you need to keep up with the times diane & embrace equality for all.

thats true. people talk about wanting marriage equality & the person who started this thread says oz is living in the dark ages but i wonder how far into the light people are willing to go in there pursuit of equality & if oz should go there at all. denmark is well & truly living in the light with a woman winning the right to marry her horse. equal rights & all that. http://worldnewsdailyreport.com/denmark-woman-marries-own-horse-creates-legal-precedent/

i didnt mean you had to be able to have children to get married or that it is a key factor. i was explaining why i think plural marriage is more closely aligned to the standard heterosexual marriage because both these marriages have the potential to procreate naturally. if people are serious about marriage equality & think it is worth changing the law then i dont think its fair to limit the change to only include same sex couples because thats not fair to other people.

you could look at places around tea gardens & hawks nest. they are close to the beach with nice houses in your budget. ulludulla mentioned earlier is a lovely beachside town but its about 3 hours to sydney. you could also look at the coastal towns east of nowra. some like vincentia are out of your budget but others nearby are more affordable. not sure you have time to cover the distances involved though. probably a bit unrealistic to even try.

i was thinking along the lines that in plural marriage between men and women they can procreate naturally the same as marriage between one man and one woman whereas homosexual couples cant procreate on their own. so from that view plural marriage is more closely aligned. either way though i am starting to think that if people believe in marriage equality then that should include all forms of marriage.

its odd that plural marriage wouldnt be accepted. it seems more closely related to conventional marriage than homosexual marriage. the more i thought about it over the night the more sense it makes to make it legal.

do you also support plural marriage & equal rights for people in those marriages?

thank you. its nice to have someone answer the question instead of just ignore it or get angry that i asked.