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many thanks snifter

He has got to find a job when he gets out there. He will be staying with family. We have no savings past enough to scrape together for deposit and one months rent on a house and a cheap old banger to get him to work when there. I am not wanting a moral debate, just a simple answer if anyone has one. If we were in a position not to ask then I wouldn't ask!!

She has been predicted good A level results and has offers from Cambridge and Kings College London but is researching her options in Australia. It is really difficult to find out online about the courses and how much it would all be. Much more simple in Uk to figure out, hence asking all you lovely knowing people on PIO!! Thanks, will contact vtac

wondered if it would be possible to claim any help with food, rent etc when husband goes to Australia. He is leaving 8th July and little ones and I don't go out until 30th September.

Hello, please could anyone advise me if my daughter would be eligible for any student funding for University in Melbourne? We have validated permanent resident visas in March last year and will be moving out in September this year. She wishes to study law so I believe she has to get a degree in another subject before undertaking post grad law at Melbourne. In Uk she would be eligible for full funding as we are on a low income so she would get the full grant and loan allowance. Grateful for any advice :biggrin:

I will be interested in the answers to this too. Was told by travel insurance firm that their cover stops a day after you arrive if moving permanently so would need to sort out asap I reckon

Cheapest are rentabomb

We used them and they were fantastic. Go for it

Give her the space she needs to put things into perspective as she may be getting cold feet about the move. It probably feels a bit unreal to her at the moment and she may feel she needs to escape the pressure of it a bit. Have a chat with her and tell her how you feel and that you understand how she must be feeling. I would not take it as a problem with the relationship or the commitment she has towards you or the move. Women just tend to over think things and it gets very confusing with all those thoughts and emotions - well I do anyway!! I'm sure things will work out well as long as the communication between you stays strong and positive and you give each other the space you need.

Thank you all for your responses. It has been great to hear from people about their own experiences. I am a great believer of learning through other people's mistakes with the use of their invaluable advice, so thanks to you all.

Just following on from another thread. Has anyone gone bankrupt in the Uk whilst living in Australia? Is it difficult/involved/expensive to do and does it affect Australian credit rating?

The idea of bankruptcy would be a last measure and hopefully we would be able to pay uk debts off from Oz. I believe it is possible to do from Australia if we find we are unable to pay our debts. Has anyone ever done this and know what and how much cost is involved and if it affects your credit rating in Australia too?

Flights can be cancelled, that's the easy part! We have two older daughters - 18 and 22 and two younger daughters - 7 and 4.

There is definitely a lot of carpentry work readily available in the area we were looking at, we did lots of research on this and have made contacts too. Husband has flight booked for July to stay with my uncle until the rest of us are booked to fly out at end of September, that was the plan so he could start earning and sort rental etc before we got out there. So difficult to make the right decision for everyone.

Unfortunately the firm that owed £30,000 has gone under and no money could be recouped - the sickening thing is that they are now trading under another member of the family's name. My girls are prompting us to make the move but of course are not looking forward to missing us and their little sisters. They are being strong and selfless about it - which makes me feel worse!!

Thanks Jules2409, I am worried about missing out on the weddings, grandchildren etc - the older ones are 18 and 22 so I know it won't be too far off. I don't know if my husband will ever talk to me again if I pull out now!! The 'perfect' list is a good idea. Thank you

I am so torn about whether to move to Australia. We are so far down the line and yet am really getting cold feet now and don't know what to do. We validated PR visas last March as a whole family and sold our house in readiness to move. Been stung by some bad rental moves and now don't have any money left. (We didn't get much at all from house sale in the first place). We have debts still that amount to about £15000 on credit cards and loan. If we moved to Oz we have been advised we could go bankrupt before we leave Uk or even from Oz and then we could have a clean slate if we returned to the Uk. I don't feel comfortable with this option though. Also on an emotional level we would be leaving our two older daughters at uni in Uk. My husband is a carpenter and has been struggling for work in Uk and has lost his business due to bad payers and is so adamant he wants the move. I like the feel of South Melbourne and would love the experience but wonder if it would feel the same to move to a 'holiday' location in the Uk without so much emotional turmoil?:wacko:

We went for reccie in March in Melbourne and just turned up at the schools, to be honest they are less likely to say no if you are standing right in front of them than if you ask by email or phone in advance. We were very welcomed by the schools that we looked round even though one of the days was an inset day. They were extremely accommodating seeing as you have travelled so far they seem to make allowances for you.

We all went out as a family of 6 to validate the visas in March and everyone loved it out there. We spent just under a month there to get a good feel of it. The 18 year old wants to study law and has just had offers from Cambridge and London Kings. She has always wanted to go to Cambridge and this has obviously swayed the decision for her. I know she will be an emotional wreck when we leave as she is a real mum's girl and gets lonely quickly. Absolutely everybody has suggested that she comes with us for a year and defers Uni in Uk but she is so stubborn and won't do it. The 22 year old has a steady boyfriend and is very independent and talks about coming out in the future. I can't please everyone and it is really difficult to see which side tips the scales. We would really love to give opportunity to the younger ones of a life in Oz but would it be at the cost of the older ones?

Essex to Melbourne

We have validated our PR visas (March last year) and are set to move out this year - hubby going July and myself and youngest 2 daughters 4 and 7 following in September. We made the decision to go at different times so less upheaval to little ones if shipment and house, car etc all ready when we get there. There has been an awful lot of debating by our 18 year old about if she was coming or not and she has now made a firm decision not to join us. We have another daughter at Uni who is 22 and she is staying too. In theory they are both adults and can look after themselves but I am feeling so guilty about leaving them both. I am very close to my parents too and feeling very sad to see the look in their eyes as the date for leaving approaches. Hubby has no backward glances at all and I feel so torn between wanting to live in Australia and wanting to be here for the older two girls. Every day I talk myself in and out of it a million times over. Just would really like to hear from anyone who has left children in Uk to move to Oz and how it went for you, or anyone who shares my dilemma. Thank you

In my area in South East Uk: Lots of shops closing down. Permanent sales on in shops, not just at key times of the year. Much much less availability of rental properties available. In schools they are stopping kids playing at play time. In all local primary schools they have forbidden playing 'it', doing handstands and cartwheels etc in the playground or on field. The poor kids just stand around most of the time talking. Lots more non english speaking children in the schools (who's parents have intentionally brought them to this country and not taught them english). Work: OH carpenter, work has dried up so badly that he has had to come out of his business partnership and work in a factory - been knocked for money several times by big firms. Weather: no summer to speak of over the past 2 years. Seasons have changed months. Better weather now in September - early October instead of July - August. Wages decreasing with lots in the building industry taking massive pay cuts just to stay in work, but cost of living escalating - especially fuel bills. People social a lot more at home as booze much cheaper at supermarket to drink at home. Teaching styles changing - a lot less emphasis on writing and spelling, most subjects requiring submission of typed work instead of hand written. Equality everywhere you look, gets a bit over the top with the political correctness everywhere and lack of freedom of speech. Lack of time for any social interaction or customer service. You don't even get a free carrier bag at a lot of shops now, let alone get it packed for you. Lots of these things are happening everywhere on the globe so some generalisations but it's just my personal opinion.

I always stock up when the sales are on ie now, so will check the school website and find out, very valid point, thank you. £8 in the sale and £36 full price for the trainers. Bulk buying is the way to go! Thank you all for your info

Going to get back into Clarks and buy some more over here I think before we go....just bought 8 pairs of trainers for £8 each!

Thanks for your very quick response. Just looked on their site and couldn't see any width fittings like here in Uk. Also are they all about $100, seems very expensive?