Guest dobbin74 Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 I heard a lot of dilemmas on the site but none memtioning the children.Going to get the ball rolling on friday,applying for a skilled visa me a joiner and my wife a nurse.we have two children girl=13 boy=11 and they are determined not to go.Hannah keeps crying saying she will miss her family and also scared of the snakes and spiders out there.Jacobs says he will miss his friends.What can I say are we being selfish? forcing our kids to move to the other side of the world?please can some one reassure me thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest loz Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Hi dobbin74 No you are not being selfish - you are planning to give them a better life than they can ever have in the UK. At the minute they cant understand that. They are being taken out of their comfort zone and its scary for them. I think one of the reasons you dont hear much about dilemas with kids is that they settle better than the adults!!!. Kids seem to make friends really quickly here. School gives them the enviroment to do that. We all want better for our kids and thats what you are doing. My kids are grown up doing their own thing in the UK ( Im not that old )and I still felt selfish going away " and leaving them" If I knew then what i know now, I would have done this years ago for the kids. As Blieble says sell the good points and get as much info as you can. Stick it through. Maybe even suggesting to them that if it doesnt work out in a certain time ie 2 years then you will come back. Sometimes if kids have an alternative they accept things better. you will probably find that in 2 years they will be so settled that they will have forgotten the conversation ever existed. hope this has been a help to you Loz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ABCDiamond Posted May 2, 2006 Share Posted May 2, 2006 Hannah keeps crying saying she will miss her family and also scared of the snakes and spiders out there.Kids must be a real worry when they say they dont want to go, but the vast majority, once they arrive, will not want to leave Australia Tell her the snakes in the UK are worse !! At least they were for me... I was bitten by an Adder in Cornwall when I was 11, spent a week in hospital. I've been in Australia since 1986, and not had an encounter with a snake yet A lot of what you read, especially on forums etc., about snakes and spiders is exagerated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest BrerRabbit Posted May 3, 2006 Share Posted May 3, 2006 Hi - we arrived in Sydney with 2 children on 2 march so we're still 'neweys' but the kids are loving it. Our eldest is 6 and the youngest 2.5 so she doesn't know any different but the six year old only got upset leaving england when he saw nana and me crying - since then , he hasn't looked back and chats on the phone to nana no problem - haven't had any tears about england from him at all - but lots about the other usual stuff! he started school and loves that - thins it's way better than the english school he went to and it was a pretty good good so that tells us a lot. i think a reccy trip with the kids is a great idea for you and them - we came 18 months before emigrating and it just confirmed everything we already thought. keep talking positive to the kids and they'll come 'round.... :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest choobs Posted May 3, 2006 Share Posted May 3, 2006 Hi dobbin74 No you are not being selfish - you are planning to give them a better life than they can ever have in the UK. Loz That's the crux of it. We try and do everything at home as democratically as possible but sometimes you just know best - you're a parent and it's your responsibility to give your children the best upbringing you can. The kids are looking at friends and family as reasons to stay, but you, as an adult, are looking at education, employment, crime, drug use, etc etc. There's a bigger picture that the wee ones don't see. Cheers Choobs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Beki Posted May 3, 2006 Share Posted May 3, 2006 Loads of good advice there...we've been a bit naughty, our 3 girls are all under 5 and we've told then we're going to live in the country that Kylie and High Five come from. That convinced them it is a good plan!!! :lol: Although I think they're under the impression they'll be our neighbours so we'll have some explaining to do once we get there :shock: Beki Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest bethandneil Posted May 3, 2006 Share Posted May 3, 2006 hi Have you tried showing them australia on http://www.googleearth.com we have installed it on our computer and the imaging is mind blowing, its very reassuring on those panick stricken days when you think WHAT AM I DOING, also, i dont know where your planning to go and live, but try showing them pictures of the gold coast on pc, so much to do so little time!!, another idea might be to buy lonely planet australia and involve them in researching oz, failing that appeal to their sadistic side (all kids have got one) and tell how much better off you'll be financially (more pocket money) and discuss all the new things they will get having left alot behind, also the outdoor activities that schools offer might win them round slightly, Failing all that dont mention it again and reintroduce the topic a few weeks before you go!! Beth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest dobbin74 Posted May 3, 2006 Share Posted May 3, 2006 Thanks for all your replys you have make me fell a lot better about it all.A couple of you have suggested to go out first on a hoilday and check it out,We would love to and cant believe we are not. There are a couple of resons why=We were told it will take about a year for your vises to come through and we have all ready booked two hoildays aboard and dont what to lost the deposit and you know the score on how much it all cost bloody hell(vises,moving stuff and getting animals there etc). And I think all that sun and activities out there will get them out and stop playing on all the computers they have that cant be bad. :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest BrerRabbit Posted May 4, 2006 Share Posted May 4, 2006 Hi dobbin74 - about the booked holidays thing - we did the same but asked the travel agent if we could transfer the holiday booked over to an australian flight (with thomson) and they agreed - it was a package holiday to menorca originally! ask and see...... :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
calNgary Posted May 4, 2006 Share Posted May 4, 2006 I have the solution guys !! ,,,sell the kids and use the money for a pre- migration visit anyway xx Cal x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nicoak Posted May 8, 2006 Share Posted May 8, 2006 My daughter who's 10 was adamant she would not go. Cried all the time. Set her up on MSN messenger where she can chat to all her friends on the internet. Set her up with a webcam. Now she's a little happier. What really swung her to our way of thinking was a promise of swimming with dolphins as a christmas present!!!! (we are moving out October). Just involve them with all the plans, show them australian internet sites, let them know about all the things they will be able to do and they'll soon come round. All the best Nicola Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest dobbin74 Posted May 8, 2006 Share Posted May 8, 2006 Good luck, Thanks might give it a go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ali Posted May 14, 2006 Share Posted May 14, 2006 My 11 year old was a little unsure, mainly about leaving friends, we talked alot about why we wanted to go and I agree that involving them in all the plans. I'm trying to get her a pen pal so she can ask questions about school, lessons, etc., then it won't seem quite as daunting. My 6 year old, just asks what day are we going!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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