Lucia Posted June 23, 2014 Author Share Posted June 23, 2014 Good Luck emmafinn. Let us know how you get on! as hard as it seems & I've been there you are making a mistake moving back to uk,we came back after 5 years and have regretted it ever since i now know every single day I'm here (uk) why we moved in the first place its the most depressing place on gods earth.we have oz citizenship and will go back eventually nee one or 2 personal matters are sorted hope it works out for you Thanks Splash. How long have you been back in the UK now? Why did you decide to go back to the UK? Why did you initially leave the UK in the first place? I'd be very interested to hear. Just want to see how our situations compare. The more info the better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toussaint Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 as hard as it seems & I've been there you are making a mistake moving back to uk,we came back after 5 years and have regretted it ever since i now know every single day I'm here (uk) why we moved in the first place its the most depressing place on gods earth.we have oz citizenship and will go back eventually nee one or 2 personal matters are sorted hope it works out for you Hello Splash. I was always a little homesick in Oz, ironically I had resigned to spending the next few years there, at least, maybe the rest of my days. But, a series of major events took over and within a short space of time we sold up and returned to the UK. I thank God every day I am back here. It is all I pined for and more. I do live in a lovely place, (the house we never sold), and hope that the financial damage done by emigrating can be recovered and I never have to leave. Britain has a huge contrast of living environments. As some wise person said on this forum you can make the huge financial commitment and risk to emigrate, you could equally find somewhere more appealing to live much closer to home. Returning may have been a big mistake for you, but that isn’t true for a lot of people. I try not to look back, but my big mistake (colossal) was not appreciating what we had here and seeking greener grass. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose Fuller Posted June 25, 2014 Share Posted June 25, 2014 Hello Splash. I was always a little homesick in Oz, ironically I had resigned to spending the next few years there, at least, maybe the rest of my days. But, a series of major events took over and within a short space of time we sold up and returned to the UK. I thank God every day I am back here. It is all I pined for and more. I do live in a lovely place, (the house we never sold), and hope that the financial damage done by emigrating can be recovered and I never have to leave. Britain has a huge contrast of living environments. As some wise person said on this forum you can make the huge financial commitment and risk to emigrate, you could equally find somewhere more appealing to live much closer to home. Returning may have been a big mistake for you, but that isn’t true for a lot of people. I try not to look back, but my big mistake (colossal) was not appreciating what we had here and seeking greener grass. Fabulous to hear Toussaint - I'm heading back at the end of August, like you its just made me realise that England really is lovely, and that the grass isn't greener...family and true friends are everything!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted June 25, 2014 Share Posted June 25, 2014 Think carefully, its a big decision going back. Don't rush into it, maybe have a holiday first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lass81 Posted June 25, 2014 Share Posted June 25, 2014 Good luck to you too Lass81. How long have you been here? I too, despite being here for quite some time, do not feel like I truly belong. Lucia We have been here just over five years, when we first came I really didn't settle well. But after a holiday home ( after two years here). I did settle a bit and tried to give it a chance. But that nagging feeling has just not gone away, and I'm tired of it. We are planning on being back in about June 2015, just figuring out the logistics/jobs just now. Looking forward to to hearing how you get on. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarah21syrett Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 Hi, well I am so envious. I've been here 6 years.... came when we had no kids. Things change when you do, the daily chores and child care is much the same and I'm left thinking, why the hell am I doing this to myself. I'm actually heading back to the UK in a couple of weeks with the kids for a holiday, so maybe that will get me over this pining for the old place. The problem is my husband wants to stay and just scoffs at me when I get emotional about missing family and friends. He has an excellent job, we live in a nice big house, have no financial constraints at all. However, I'd give it all up tomorrow if he said 'let's go'. I'm finding myself quite depressed at the moment. I know the UK is not without it's problems, but neither is Australia. We live 1 km to the beach, but we don't go there. WE have a boat, but we haven't used it in 1 year. I'm finding I'm wanting my children to grow up as I did, surrounded by lush countryside, going to a village school and having relationships with our families. The worst thing is that my husband can't articulate why he wants to stay here. I really don't know what to do. I love him, and wouldn't want our kids to be without him, so moving back myself isn't an option. However, it's making me very angry that we won't say anything positive about the UK, even though he had an idylic childhood. He works too hard, as hard as the UK and the commute is the same, so he can't use that excuse. Sorry, venting... just very frustrated. Will see how I feel after this trip. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 The grass isn't greener believe me. Think about being stuck indoors during the long winter months in UK. Think about what you're giving up here too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerryDXB Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 The grass isn't greener believe me. Think about being stuck indoors during the long winter months in UK. Think about what you're giving up here too and what do YOUR family think about all this then? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LRJohnson4 Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 We have been in a similar situation but the other way around. Cutting a long story short we moved to Melbourne in August 2005. We settled for 6 years in which time we got married, got pregnant mid 2010 and then due to visa issues we ended up having to move back to the UK November 2010. It was the worst time of our lives. We loved being in Australia and it felt like our home. So, we moved back to the UK our daughter was born march 2011. In between arriving back in the UK and our daughter being born we really struggled to settle back in and there were a lot of tears. When our daughter was born it gave us something else to focus on but there was always this thing in the back of our minds that we weren't at home and couldn't see ourselves settling. 15 months passed, we had somewhat settled and decided to try for another baby. Our son was born Feb 2013 and we decided to buy a house. About 3 months into saving for a deposit I just had a sudden change of heart and said to my husband I think we are making a huge mistake and I want to go back to Australia. My husband agreed and said he would go back tomorrow. We decided to book a holiday to visit just to check it was definitely where we wanted to be having been back in the uk for 3 years. We visited in February earlier this year and were still very much In love with the place it felt like we were home. My husband managed to organise a job interview whilst we were here to discuss the possibility of sponsorship and he got the job! We returned to the Uk 2 weeks later to organise our move and immediately knew we were making the right decision. We are now back in Australia and can't wait to make some solid foundations for the rest of our lives. I know this is a bit different to your situation but my parents are also in Australia and are citizens. I completely understand how you must be feeling being away from them. I think had my parents been in the UK things would have been different and I don't know if we would feel quite as at home in Australia as we do. Our in laws weren't the most supportive in the UK so this helped our decision. However aside from the family aspect we felt like we didn't fit in, in the UK. Most of the people we knew were all about having a drink on the weekend and not really doing much or going anywhere for the kid, which isn't us. We enjoy spending time outdoors with the kids, going to places that the kids would enjoy and making the most of our family time. I suppose it all depends whereabouts you are from in the UK too. We are from Wigan which to me isn't the greatest of places but I admit there are plenty of other places in the Uk which would be great to bring up a family. For us Australia is home, whilst we will always miss family and friends back in the UK, the opportunities here far greater out weigh those that we had in the Uk both for us and our children. I wish you the best of luck with your move and I'm sure whatever you decide will be the right decision for you. We didn't want to live our lives thinking 'what if'. You might move back and decide you've made the wrong decision again but at least you've tried and your kids are young enough to adjust. (Sorry about the essay : ) ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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