Hi all
this is a new discussion really so not sure if I am posting in the right place.
I just wanted to know if anyone else had a similar problem to ours and what they decided to do.
I have a very elderly mother here in the UK who is still sprightly at 91 but would be very lonely if we left. Our daughter, our only chld, is a permenant resident in NSW and very unlikely to move away now. We have been toing and froing for seven years, but I long to be able to live, not in her pocket, but at least on the same continent - to do all those things we all wish to do when our kids are so far away.
I am trying to work out whether applying for a contributory parent visa during the next twelve months would be a good move. If it came through fairly quickly, I have been told you then have five years to make the final move. At the risk of appearing to be waiting for my mother to die, I am wondering whether that would be long enough. If we just wait and one or other of us develops a major health problem, then that's our dream finished. If, on the other hand we are obliged to go in order to fulfil our visa requirements, leaving my mother ....... Can anyone tell me what the situation is re: returning to the UK on holiday? I am really just desperate to get our names on a list SOMEWHERE before costs rise even more, before my husband changes his mind, before we get too old, before before before.
I feel so torn.