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I will be turning 50 soon and have been single most of my adult life. Came here when I was 11 with my family and never fitted in so never connected with Australians. Moved back to UK June 2015 on my own and loved it. Only back in Australia due to illness and will be moving back to UK next year with my younger brother and sister. Life is too short to be in the wrong country no matter if your are single or attached. If it's not working make a change.

Hope all goes well back in the UK for the OP. I've just returned from 19 months in Nottingham and was forced back to Australia due to ill health. Can't wait to get back once I've sold my house here in Australia. Enjoy all that the East Midlands as to offer. Might be bias but it's one of the many areas of Britain thats so underrated . If you are a foxes fan enjoy the Champions league even in Nottingham you could feel the buzz coming from Leicester last year.

Just to put your mind at rest goodbye grey skies yes it is a one way ticket. This is the second time you have questioned my opinion regarding moving back to the UK. Just so you know I'm not a fool and the opinions I give are given after living in Australia for a long time. I was brought here at 11 by my parents even though I did not want to come. I have given Australia more than a good go and have enjoyed most of my time here. It as taken me several years to make up my mind to return to the UK and I will be sacrificing a lot both financially and personally to go back. If my time in the UK doesn't work then yes I will come back but it will def be reluctantly and only because my brother & sister are here. What a lot of people on the site ( especially people going from the UK to Aust} fail to see is that Australia is not a paradise to some and that their opinions are just as valid as everyone else. I hope your move to Australia goes well and you are happy with your decision to move but don't treat me and others like fools because we choose to move in the opposite direction.

Good for you buzzy-bee but I've lived in Melbourne a long time and it's def more humid now than 20 years ago but I'm fair skinned with red hair and the sun is not my friend. I'm glad you have a good social life but some people fit in with the aussies and some don't. I hope you continue to enjoy the footy talk and the burnt meat. Go Demons.

If you are really set on going back to the UK I would forget about the passport. You hear stories of people staying just for the aussie citizenship even though they want to go. It's seems like a waste of their life to me. I've lived in Australia for 36+ years and never considered changing my citizenship. To me where you are born is who you are and by becoming a citizen of another country you are devaluing your origins. I know people will disagree but thats their issue. I've always thought I was a fraud being proud of being English whilst living in Australia so when I move back I won't need to feel that way anymore.

Summer in Melbourne as been awful the last few years. IMO the state you live in isn't the problem. If you want to go home do whatever you have to to get there. I've only got two more weeks to go before I'm free and I can't wait. Australia has been good to me I've had good jobs a big house and nice cars but I've always felt like a didn't belong here. Friends are very hard to make here. I'm a friendly person but it's hard to socialise (in Victoria) here. I'm sorry sitting around in 30+ degrees heat talking about the footy (sorry you use your hands it's not football) or the aussies beating the poms whilst eating burnt meat and watching people get completely drunk is not my idea of fun. I know not all aussies are like this but the BBQ is the norm over here. If I suggested going for a walk in the countryside (bush) or going to a museum to people here I would seriously be laugh at. Anyway Australia as worn me down and it's time to go home. If I fall over in the UK so be it at least I would know but to be honest I would rather be dead poor and happy in England than rich and bored to death here.

Sorry everyone that should be brain lol. I knew that surgeon was lying when he said I was as good as new.

I remember stepping on to the plane to leave for Australia and feeling like it just wasn't right. I was eleven and 36 years later I am still here. Australia as never been my home but I have stayed here for my family. Last year I woke up in the nero ward after my second brian operation. Looking around everyone looked really sick and I realised you can't waste your life in a country you are not happy in. I decided that night I was going to do what ever I needed to to get back to the UK. In 4 weeks I'm going home and can't wait.

It's interesting reading other posts regarding moving countries to fix your problems. This is one reason I feel a lot of moves fail. Australia is so pumped up that sometimes it just can't live up to all the hype. I've wanted to move back to the UK for a long time and will be in 4 weeks. I'm just glad I've put in the time the last few years and will be going back a much better person. If it fails I know I have done the best I can and will be okay coming back knowing it wasn't me. Whatever works for you is the best plan if it takes 3 years then good for you.

Word of warning for anyone coming to Australia. Do not have anything to do with Telstra. They might be a private company now but they still act like they are in government hands. Service is not something they are known for.

I live in the outer suburbs of Melbourne 4 bedroom house 3 adults living here. We have a woodheater for heating no airconditioning. Houses are jerry built here but now have to be insulated walls & ceiling. My elec/ gas combined are about $350-00 per month water $100-00 council rates are about $1500- a year if you buy. Bills have gone crazy the last few years. At least you can shop around for food and petrol the utilities are crooks though.

I'm moving back in 5 weeks and can't wait to get back. It's taken me a long time to make up my mind but now it's made it's full steam ahead. You can't waste your life living in a country thats not right for you.

You can send document back to the UK with registered post international. A small envelope is just over $10-00. If you want conformation it's a further $4- $5-. You also have Express courier international which is fully trackable gets a signature and a lot quicker but it's closer to $50-00. Don't send by express (about $14-00) it not much quicker than ordinary post.

To the OP whilst your children's education would be one of the most important factors in making your decision I am sure they will do well no matter where they live. Kids can deal with a hell of a lot. Unlike others, people who have lived in Australia for a extended time will be aware of just how depressing this country can be. I have been worrying about the same decision for several years now but now feel so much relief now I have made my mind up. The pull to go home is very strong and sometimes the heart really does rule the head. I'm glad my heart won and I will deal with all the head stuff when I'm enjoying my life in the UK again.

Why are you waiting get back to where you really want to be. Don't worry about your kids education. I know a good education is important but it's what you do in the real world that matters. I lived here since 1978 and have finally decided to move back this year even at the old age of 48 I'm sure I will get some kind of job just like you and your husband will. To the people telling you the UK is stuffed they need to look at Australia first. This country might of missed the GFC but it is def moving towards a recession it's just that the natives are too blind to see it. Get on that plane quick smart and enjoy the life you really want.

Oh bugger all this time I thought they hated me but really they were just trying to be my Aussie buddy. So it's okay to put it together with b*stard or whinger? Like I said if you don't find it offensive good for you but imo it's used by Australians to label you as not being Aussie.

Pom or Pommy is def used by Australians to put the British down. Every time sports reporters use the word pommies to describe the English cricket team I cringe. If you don't take it as an insult than good for you but whats the difference from British people calling people from Pakistan Pakys I'm sure they take it as a compliment. If I started calling all Australians convicts I would go deaf from all the whingeing.

Just going from your original post your husband sounds like a real tool. What kind of husband and father buggers off when he can't get his way. I would be staying in the UK and when he comes to his senses you can work it out as a family. Being blackmailed is no way to start your new life in Australia. Listen to the other posters bringing your child to Australia could end up with you being stuck here until your child is 18. Take it from me Australia really feels like a prison when you don't want to be here.

Stay where you are. Its sounds like you can't male up our mind. Coming here for a year will be a waste of time and money if you are not fully committed. If you want to come make the commitment and come for real. Don't worry about your mum it's your life to live.

downgrading of medication happen here to. I was given a lower cost chemo drug for 3 months and it caused massive issues for me. I was back on the proper stuff as soon as my specialist found out . I've no experience with the NHS but I hope a patience in the UK isn't out of pocket each month like I am with my meds. To the OP both countries are 1st world countries the healthcare should be fine in either country.

You are so right Michaelp GP's are the people who keep the health system going and making them the badguys is a really low act by the government. Like I said before my doctor often doesn't charge me which I really appreciate unlike most specialist who charge you like a wounded bull. I don;t mind paying my way but living with any kind of chronic illness is a very expensive life adding to this is centrelink who often don't recognise serious illnesses any longer. I live with 4 separate conditions but none are apparently serious enough to qualify for a pension but I still have to live with the 4 different conditions. This government just doesn't seem to get it.

Melbourne is nothing like anywhere in the UK. You have the city centre funnily enough in the centre and then the suburbs radiate from it. There is no countryside for at least 3o k/m in any direction. There are some very nice suburbs in Melbourne so I would be renting in the suburbs you mentioned and then having a look for your perfect home when you get here. Melbourne as been planned really badly one suburbs ends and then the next begins a lot like the suburbs in the US. You have the beaches around the bay and the countryside about 1 hour away unless you want to travel right into the country where you might get both such as Mornington in the south east where I live. 4 Million people live in Victoria but we are spread out in an area the side of Britain like I said its nothing like the UK.

This really sucks. I have to go to my GP at least once a month sometimes more and my GP usually BB me to help me out. I don't have a health care card ( apparently I'm not sick enough ) so now he will have to charge me or take a $5-00 cut in his pay. What really annoys me is that kids don't get charged. I'm already paying for their childcare, private health insurance, private school fees and 50 % of their parents get more in rebates than they pay in tax. If you are thinking of coming to Australia don't bother if you are single and sick or at least delay coming until this fool is kicked out.

Wattsy1982 is so right. Australia is so much about the material things in life. To the OP I would be seeking some professional help with the depression. I have suffered for a long time and often think mbttuk would be a quick fix. Talking to a doctor and getting on the right medication can make a hugh difference to your life. I can't wait to move back to UK but know for now I need to fix myself before I make a major move back to the UK.

Been back three times in 36 years. It took me 16 years the first time after the death of my mother in australia. Pity she only got to go home in an urn. Then another 16 years to get back again. I've since been back 4 years ago and feel I really need to go back again. I really regret not going back more in the early years. I only got to see the older relatives the one time and even today I still feel quite guilty about this. It's strange but I do feel it's the obligation of the ones who have moved to make the effort to keep in touch.