Jane71

Thank you all so much for all your comments and advice especially the comments from Quoll and Melza as I no longer feel like the worlds worst mother and wife. I have decided to stay and hope oh comes to his senses if not for me then for the kids :rolleyes:

Hi all sorry bit crap at this but thank you all for your sound advice. Just to clarify, we went out to oz for 1 year to give it a go but I always insisted we came back. I did love it out there but it's not just telling my parents (I did have a chat with them and "manned up") But when I think about leaving I don't actually want to give up my extended family to go and I do actually feel bullied into going as the oh nagged the first time until I caved. I love Australia and have made some great friends and work was great and if it were closer I would move tomorrow but I don't see myself settling there and with kids I think they should be settled although ideally with both parents. I feel selfish I am crapping on oh dream as our visa is about to expire but I'm afraid I'm just a homebird. If no family in uk then I would move but I have. My oh keeps harping on about the better life our kid could have which makes me feel guilty but surely quality of life is not just about being able to get outside more often cause weather is better? Sorry gone off on one now

Hi thanks for the reply. It's not that I don't love my oh or don't trust him but although it was always our dream things changed for me when we had our child and i feel we could if he wanted to make a good like in the uk if we put more effort in but he will not give up his dream even though as I said I was the one working in oz to support that dream. I am really close to my mum but he thinks we should live our own lives and not worry about how it effects others. I just worry that I will resent him if I make the move & I keep thinking of leaving my family behind for good.

Hi new to this but need some impartial advice. my husband and I went to oz on visit after getting pr visa. I worked but hubby had trouble getting employment. We came back to uk ready to tell everyone that we were going to make the move permanently but when it came to it I bottled out as I am finding it difficult to tell my parents as they are dead against the idea. My oh and I had a massive falling out and he moved back to oz on his own leaving me and our child. I said I'd try to discuss with parents but they will be devastated and I feel so guilty as I Have to choose between oh and parents plus option of being a single parent. I'm in such a state. To top things off only couple of months left on visa!!!! any advice would be greatly appreciated :arghh: