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I will be heading back without lots of cash as back up. This is very scary for me. I just wondered if anyone else has managed to move back successfully without heaps of cash.

Thank you. I am grateful that my husband managed to open up a little yesterday although it has screwed with my head a bit. He definitely will not go back, he think that the uk means he will be struggling for ever and will never find a decent job. I have to say, in his line of work he is probably right With both kids in the uk the pull on my heart is strong, equally the pull on my heart for my husband is equally strong. He will be left with no-one here but he can only see pain and struggle going back. I wish I could have both but whatever path I choose then I will loose something

As I see it she is thinking of her family, that's why she is so torn. You should shack up with my husband, you'd do very well together!

because i only see my husband all up, 4 months a year. I want to stay longer as I'm lonely.

Thank you I have give it my best shot and I have still left the door open to compromise .... However, I have to be a realist and accept that I need to move on with my plans.

Well, my husband would be extremely unhappy and refused to go back. I tried to reach a compromise of going back for a few months a year, maybe buying a small flat. It's fallen on deaf ears so now I am going back alone. We only have the one property here. i totally understand about the kids, I haven't seem both my kids in the same place for 5 years. i hate the though of my marriage ending but at some point if a compromise cannot be reached what else is there to do? I can only think of one outcome and that is someone will remain unhappy forever unless they just accept their lot.

Thank you. Today has had it's ups and downs but on the whole I feel more positive. A very dear friend turned up on my doorstep tonight and listened as I poured my little heart out. She insisted in asking what was for tea ... Knows straight away I had not really been looking after myself but I managed to find crackers and cheese . I saw the counsellor yesterday and that was a bit confrontational but very necessary. i cannot seem to concentrate on any one thing at the moment so I have told myself if I sort out one thing a day then I am doing well. its not easy but I have been touched by phone calls I have received from the uk, all offering support and a bed to sleep in if I need it. I suddenly don't feel so alone

I have had a quotation to send my dog back to the uk. The quotation does not include fees at Heathrow e.g customs clearance fees, vets fees, taxes etc. I have been given an estimate of $770. Does anyone know the exact figure please?

There are only certain vets in Australia that can give rabies vaccinations and complete the relevant paperwork. They will also need to be microchipped. just make sure that all their vaccinations are up to date. Once you find a vet in your area that can give them their rabies shot, the vet will complete a rabies vaccination certificate. My vet gave me a copy and he kept a copy just incase anyone needed to contact him about them to check everything was done. Make a note of how much they weigh as this will be required by the shipping agent. once you have decided on a pet transport company they will help with most of it from hear on. Mine will board the pets for 3 days before they fly if needed, for free. They will bath them, worm them and make sure all they paperwork is in place. Try and get them with a company who will fly them the shortest route with the least stop over time. They will arrange all the flights for you and take them to the airport for their flight. Oh and the vet pointed out that blood tests are no longer required. He did say if you do plan to return it would be a good idea to get them done. Hope this helps.

I'm not sure we ever really know anyone to be honest. I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that I now have to think of my own happiness instead of 'our' happiness. This is very alien to me. It's hard to try and save a marriage when one of you doesn't want to listen or talk to try and find a way to compromise or find a solution. The battle seems almost lost before it has begun. i have now reached out and told a couple of people and they have been very supportive.

His issue was the fact that they required extra id via email but we never got the email so we thought everything was going fine with the application. In the end I got some help from a lady at the British High Commission | 44, Hill St | Wellington 6011, New Zealand. An examiner will approve the application but the passport come from the uk.

My son went back end of last year and we sent off is passport around 2 months before he went. We had a nightmare trying to get it in time for his trip, it arrive 2 days before he flew. It also took several phone calls and emails to the passport office so that he didn't miss his flight.

It feels like a death. I am so scared as I will be leaving with a few boxes and my pets. When I told him I was going all he said was ok. I know he is hurting too but he just will not open up to me. It's true, love is just not enough to keep you together. He hasn't asked me to stay, he hasn't put forward a compromise so it looks like I am going forward alone.

How hard it is to accept that your marriage is coming to an end, I feel like my heart is breaking. I have never felt so alone as I do now

Well my husband arrived home yesterday and not once has he brought up the conversation of moving back to the UK. Really, does he think that acting like everything is fine i will just give in as usual. It makes me feel like he doesn't value my feelings at all. It just feels like I am having the same discussion over again and for the first time

Yes same here, the flight times seem pretty good 7+ And 5+, not sure what the stop over would be.

I can relate to so much of your posts. I am currently trying to be strong and will be going home with just my two pets and a few boxes of possessions. Its taken me a good while to get to this point and I probably should have done it sooner. I guess I was hoping for the best but expecting the worst. The best is that I am now going home, the worse it that it will be alone. However, I have done so much soul searching and I know that no matter how tough the next few months will be, I will be responsible for the outcome and no-one else. After all its my life. For you my dear, you may have to take a good look at what you want and where you belong. What makes you feel complete? If you could have any life you wish, what would it look like? Funny I keep a journal and the other day I looked back on the entries that I made when I first arrived. I then looked forward to the recent entries that I had made. Strangely, they were so similar in thought. Nothing has changed in the way I feel. I love Australia a little more but the sadness is still there. Luck has nothing to do with how you feel and material possessions. Yes you may end up with less, but do you really? Won't you have what makes you happy? Whatever you decide good luck

Thanks Yes I am going to book my animals in to travel and book for my things to be shipped over in the next couple of days. He still hasn't mentioned anything or tried to enter into discussion so I am just going to go ahead, it feels the right thing to do. I know that I have a hart time ahead but at least I will have family around me for support and for the first time in ages I feel there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Hello, I have a quotation which is very reasonable to fly my cat and dog on Thai Air. Does anyone have any thoughts on this route? Thanks in advance.

The problem I have is that it is out in the open but he is still acting like nothing is happening. I really don't think he expects me to go through with it. During our talk he mentioned practical things but not once did he tell me that he doesn't want me to go, just that he doesn't want to go. Its been a couple of days now and when he calls it like nothing has changed. He is back next week and we are going away for a couple of days, I am now wondering if he will ever face it. This has been a very large problem throughout our marriage, he never wants to talk about things.

Traffic Last night and today at a standstill. Doesn't matter what country you are in, Easter it a bitch for traffic jams. This is in Queensland. I avoid the roads at all costs at this time of year.

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Quick question and it may sound a bit dumb ..... what is the best way to pack a computer? I also have to pack a large guitar amp and have no idea how that should be packed.

Where are you located. I am taking 1 dog and 1 cat back to the UK. As I am unsure when I need to return to the UK so I decided to start the process straight away so that we are ready to go. Make sure they have their had the vaccinations, C5 will be required. Get the vet to give them a rabies injections, pets must have received a rabies vaccination at least 21 days prior to departure. Oh and the vet advised that blood testing is no longer required The cheapest quote so far to fly them from Brisbane to London is $2845. A minimum of 10 days notice is required to get them all booked in. This is with a local company Most expensive is $3,950 with Dogtainers Hope this helps.

Thank you that has helped