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    I cant help but my thoughts and prays are with both Ladies. We are Living the night mare every day and it will not end for another 13 years. I just hope people read this thread and make themselves very well informed about the rules of the family court before they move over hear. The love of your life may not be the most loving and caring person when it comes to divorce and who will live where.
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    Been out of Brisbane for a couple of years now but both were great schools and the area in General is a top place to live. Well done on your husband getting a job in Brisbane, lovely place to live. Best of luck
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    Well said waylander, the issue really is the family court tries a one size fits all policy and it is having devastating effects on the children. The court and judges work load is just so high they don't have the time to deal in a one on one type situation with all the cases especially when as you say you have narcissists hell bent on destroying the other party and control freaks who again want to control the Ex partner and eventually the poor kids dragging the ex to court over every tine thing. I don't know what the answer is , maybe make it harder to get married in the first place. That is the place to start, intense pre marrage councilling, and if you are planning a family more intense councilling where these sort of issues could be discussed. Yes some people would refuse to attend but if there was a rule that if you don't attend you cant claim any benefits for any child born that might do the trick. I wish you all the best in finding a job so you can save to return to the UK.
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    Thank you quoll, try not being able to move SUBURBS never mind O/S with out the others approval, not for a better school, better housing, a job, a new relationship you are stuck till the youngest child turns 18. Currently family court is forcing children into overnight visits with the most horrendous results physical and emotional simply in an effort for children to have a relationship with both parents. God knows how the poor kids will turn out in a few years and there is little or nothing that can be done about it currently.
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    But there is a very fine line between discussing anything to do with the children and actual cases, without knowing and understanding in depth the actual situation it would be very hard for an outsider to understand what is truly going on, though I admit because people are quite frankly to scared of the consiquences to mention the children or the effect the break down of the marrage has had on the children it may come across that the adults are putting themselves first.
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    Under Blue Skies, the reason little of nothing is said about actual cases or the children caught up in these cases is because parents are not allowed by family court law to discuss these issues, and the same goes for the media. Anything said on open forums can and is being used against anyone who makes comments in open forums in family court disputes, this includes threats of jail time. I will however ad just one thing, we have now sold our home to try to raise funds to protect and support our grandchildren and our family member so please don't call people selfish unless you know the whole story.
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    What an awesome dad ! Every case is different you in this case have played "fair" no one could ask more of you and I for one admire you for that I truly wish you well. I totally get how hard life is for you, I see it every day in our daughter but you like her will in years to come be able to hold your head high and say look how great the kids turned out despite all the crap I had to go through.
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    Thought i would ad an update to this thread. The government in all there wisdom have now changed the law in regards to when single mums must return to work or starve. The age has been dropped to when your youngest child turns 8 year of age ! Yes at 8 "unless you have family who can care for the child or can afford before and after school care which costs a fortune" who looks after your child . if your family are back in the UK , and your ex partner either cant look after the child or does not want to look after the child? At age 8 single parents are moved of the parenting payments on to New Start which is below the povety level Not trying to scare anyone but this thread is about what happens if you split once you have settled in Australia and this is just another thing to think about. Bad enough when your family is interstate but when they are in a different country the challenges can be immence. for those interested http://www.wsws.org/en/articles/2012/10/sole-o17.html
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    <p><p>Good Morning, if your child has just turned 5 this year they will start "prep" in 2014.</p></p>

    <p><p>You could however enrol your child in kindy which has a pre school program places are limited in some areas.</p></p>

    <p><p>state schools (non private schools) are zoned that is you need to live in the zone to enrol your child.</p></p>

    <p><p>This shows local areas <a href="<a href="http://www.whereis.com" rel="external nofollow">http://www.whereis.com</a>" rel="external nofollow"><a href="http://www.whereis.com" rel="external nofollow">http://www.whereis.com</a></a> and different suburbs close to your work. Try <a href="<a href="http://www.myschool.edu.au/" rel="external nofollow">http://www.myschool.edu.au/</a>" rel="external nofollow"><a href="http://www.myschool.edu.au/" rel="external nofollow">http://www.myschool.edu.au/</a></a> this gives you a web link to individual schools with in the area you wish to live and academic results for the school in the area you would like to live. You also need to look at what you can afford in the way of a rental property becasue as i said you need to live in the zone for enrolment into a government school this is a site to find a rental on <a href="<a href="http://www.realestate.com.au/rent." rel="external nofollow">http://www.realestate.com.au/rent.</a>" rel="external nofollow"><a href="http://www.realestate.com.au/rent." rel="external nofollow">http://www.realestate.com.au/rent.</a></a> Also you need to decide if you want a school that is just primary prep - gr 6 or a school that goes right through prep to gr 12. Hope some of this help</p></p>

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    And permission from the courts can take weeks if not months and will most likely cost far more than the holiday. Things continue to deteriate here in Aus in regards to Family Court leaning more and more towards what the men want so be very very careful
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    Exactly ! Whopperdaisy, when you are in love and the sun is shining and the world is great you just never think of the "what ifs" but this is very much reality in Australia. If you Ex suddenly turns in a jeckle and hide and gets nasty and refuses to allow you to move life can become a living nightmare, as the law is on there side it is as black and white as that. If your break down ends up in a family court and orders are set, you are stuck fast until your last child turns 18 Here in Aus for a very simple break down involving split up of assets and family orders for children each side will be lucky to walk away with change from $150,000 in legal costs.
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    Hi Freesia here are just a couple of links http://www.news.com.au/money/federal-budget/tough-love-budget-targets-single-parents-to-save-700m/story-fn84fgcm-1226346302653 http://www.deewr.gov.au/Employment/JSA/JobSeekerSupport/Pages/parentsCarers.aspx http://www.abc.net.au/pm/content/2012/s3606249.htm www.acoss.org.au/.../ACOSS_2012_sole_parents_submission.docx http://www.mychild.gov.au/pages/CCJobs.aspx A family member is half way through a course which she has had to pay for out of her meger income only to now be told the course is scrapped and she will have to either "find a private college " to help her finish it (she cant afford private even if she found one doing the course ) or move onto a higher level, start from the begining and pay for the entire course herself.
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    Yes 2Tigers and many single parents are in panic mode right now. The government has also slashed funding to education facilities and financial support to single parent who were sudying to help them get a job. So with the Jet payment gone, unless you study a certificate 4 or above (to help with child care while you study) and forced to find some sort of work even though you have no one to care for the kids while you do so it is looking pretty bleak here in Aus.
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    not sure where this goes so please Mods move it if there is somewhere more appropreate. Can i now advise people who are reading this thread to carefully look into the new laws just past in Aus in regards to what will happen to single parents from the start of 2013. Once your youngest child turns 8 you loose a whole range of centerlink payments even the payments you get for the children if you work- if you dont work you also loose a heap of benifits associated with your health care card. The idea is to force single parents back into the work force. Yes brillient idea is the first responce, but stop and digest the reality. Single parents are basically on there own with the kids as stated previously due to the family court laws they cant move closer to family or friends to help when the kids are sick or after school - so what happens to an 8 year old child while the parent is forced to work ????? It is illegal to leave an 8 year old at home on there own. The parent cant move to find work, move to find cheaper accomadation and with employment vacancies (except in the mines) on the decrease how are they supposed to support the kids ? Only answer is to hand the kids over to the other partner if he / she is working and has the support base for the kids but if he/she is not the ideal parent what sort of situation are you then putting kids into ? No good going to the family court and many parents are now to scared or to broke to do so. Just some food for thought.
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    Here in OZ if mum gets a monetery settlement then if she has over $1000 in the bank she cant apply for legal aid all legal advise needs to be paid for out of her own funds and with lawyers charging like wounded bulls that money wont last long. Every time the parents have an issue they cant work out they MUST to go to medication (there is free mediation) takes "months" to get a place but NO LAYWERS are allowed so this can be a real trap for either party who may not be as smart or as decent as the other partner, private mediation costs on average $3000, after that then you have to go to court for a judgement and again that take months and costs HEAPS. Once your settlement runs out, then try living on center link payments which are adjusted according to any financial support ordered by the courts from your ex. Start adding things together, a vindictive partner who wont let you relocate (supported by the court) drags you to court at every opertunity until your settlement runs out, then you start to fight becasue he is saying he cant afford to pay support so you end up living on centerlink payments just above the poverty line with no family to support you because they are all back in the UK. You cant move to get away from him or her as the case may be, you cant move to get a better job, you cant move to live in a nicer less expencive area, you cant move if you meet a new partner, you cant move to get the kids into a better school to name just a few things without the written approval of the ex, and this is all fully supported by the family law courts of Australia.
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    More from the wisdom of the family court australia http://www.couriermail.com.au/news/queensland/girls-in-hiding-from-dad/story-e6freoof-1226355288334
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    Sheeni i am so sorry to hear of this. Dont know when this happened but as 2 tigers has said it does have a lot to do with the legal "team" you use and how much money you have. In our case the family member is now trapped in a state where she has no family support what so ever, no job and very little money, friends have walked away due to all the goings on, the ex has money a good job and a top legal team. Her life is horrendous, he is spitful, vindictive, and controling and there is zero she can do about it as she does not have the money to fight and to be honest she is not as intelligent as he is. EVERYTHING is a fight, orders are twisted to suit his desires and she gets to put up with it or find the money to take him to court, where she gets threatened with Jail for bothering the court over things the two of them should be able to sort out. The tradgedy in all this is to see what this is doing to the children who are now to be honest a total emotional disaster.
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    The best advise i can give to anyone coming to live in Australia is, if your marrage seems to be heading in the wrong direction and you have children, do what ever it takes to turn things around. Go to counciling, the doctor, the church, what ever it takes to prevent your life and your childrens lives being handed over to the family court of Australia. I tell you once that happens your life and your childrens lives will never be the same, life will become a living hell, you will have to live the rest of your life until your last child turns 18 by the rules and regulations of the family court, and you have no idea just how bad or how expencive that will be.
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    2 Tigers it is not JUST the HC that is the concern, bad as it may be, it is the Family Law System in Australia that is a huge concern and people coming here need to sit down with a "family" lawyer who has a good understanding of family law in Australia even if they have to contact someone over here to get that info. Family Law in Aus is VERY different to the UK. This 50/50 rules is now destroying lives. How many on here are aware that if dad demands it babies that are being breast fed are removed from mum and handed to dad for over night access ? Each partner cant cross an interstate boarder with the children without giving varing amount of notice to the Ex partner often around 8 weeks notice with a full itinerary, so forget popping over the boarder for a quick picnic with friends. If access is writen into a family court order Children may be sick in bed but have to be handed over for access if the other partner demands it. Things like choice of school, church, even doctors must be agreed by both parties. Now that may not sound like a big deal BUT if you have one partner who just wants to be "difficult" then oh boy you have no idea of the drama AND THE COST becasue it can take weeks of legal letters and even a court appearence to get a desision. Forget "family" Christmas or Easter or school holidays, these times are split and the kids handed around like a piece of furniture. I could write pages on this issue but wont bore you all with it, but PLEASE, find out what this law is like in Australia and be prepared for what will happen if things go wrong.
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    Totally correct Quoll, it is usually the mum who gives up a job when they have kids and moves with the partner to be nearer "his work" which as you said if often close to "his" family. Seperation sadly does not always go well and the mum is then by law required to get the ex approval to even move suburbs, if you want to move interstate basically forget it unless again the ex agrees mum has no hope even if she has to live in basic povety with no family support that is family law Australian style, so you can imagine the drama of trying to move back home to the UK. As i said have a look at that forum it will open many eyes to things they never imagined could possible be happening.
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    Not trying to hi jack this thread just adding some info that may help someone. The laws are very strick here in Australia in regards to marrage break ups where children are concerned so it is not just moving back home with the kids or even taking them on a holiday to the UK (as you will need your "ex" approval) but even moving around in Australia that becomes an issue. This is a single mums forum how ever even some dads may get an insite into the laws regarding moving with children after a break up here in Australia. http://www.singlemotherforum.com
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    Hi Henry As one of your issues is rentals, and the fact you may need to look further afield for accomadation, ST Peters is a Lutheran School so does not have a catchment area. It is a fantastic school and goes from Prep (5 year olds ) right through to Gr 12 on a superb campus so may be worth looking at but as Pinkk8 said it is a fee paying school. The whole area around Indooroopilly, corinda etc is a really top area so i am sure you will be happy where ever you end up.
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    Morning Henry Been a little while since i had involvement with Corinda High Shaz 36 will i am sure be able to give you more help, but i am sure a phone call to the school would answer many questions. All i can tell you is it is one of the loveliest parts of Brisbane, Older traditional homes and lovely big trees, a very sort after area especially with a 15 minuet train trip into the center of Brisbane. Great shops, coffee shop etc and the primary schools are superb both government and private.
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    The Brammies This is exactly why you "should" sort it out before it happens. Trust me after what we have been through and are going through and expect to now have to go through for the next 12 years i would even advise people to make these sorts of decisions before they even get pregnant ! As you said when marrages break up people aren't normally rational and to that i will ad they can become bitter and spitful and dont see how what they are doing is going to do long term damage to the children. The laws in Australia are tough very tough when it comes to family law, and common sense no longer seems to matter, what the rules in the book say is what happens, and as Tiger2 said the cost financially and emotionally is enormous.
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    Hi Henry An alternative if you cant get a rental in Indooroopilly is to cross the bridge to Chelmer, Graceville, Corinda, Sherwood. All those suburbs have fantastic primary schools and Corinda High is a top school. Also lovely area.
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