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Just goes to show we all see and feel differently, for me Graham I miss the place more than the people so technology does not really play a massive part for me, I possibly have a different view as I grew up in a beautiful part of the country in North Wales, I still say that the UK in summer is as beautiful as anywhere in the world, I am happy that you and the family know where your happy place is.....I know where mine is....... just got to work out how to get back there

male right here, and miss home every day, For what it is worth I think that some of the male species tend to hide their feelings and show less emotion towards admitting that they may have made a mistake, rather than opening up and admitting that they may be struggling with homesickness or just do not enjoy life here as much as 'back home', this is possibly why there seems to be more females. As for me I like to buck the trend, always was a bit out there lol

written perfectly tea4too Hiraeth .......Longing for my home land

my favourite bit....the black land rover would love one (out of my price range) ....snow looked very pretty though

It is a great place to visit and holiday ....but living here (in my opinion) has far less to offer than life back home

Absolutely Karl, don't let go of that foothold, its a long way back if you do trust me welcome to the group anyhow

Now there's an Idea...........

Hi Thompsonmax....which one Australia or the UK?

I kick myself regularly Ramot, because I did own a small cottage in north Wales with amazing views of the Irish sea, this had a mortgage on it. I used an estate agents to let it out, but it needed work and the tenants they got where not the best at paying etc, it did not cover the mortgage or fees completely, so i was struggling to pay for the house here and back home, I sadly sold it a few years back for a very small profit (basically broke even)....I know I could not afford to keep up paying for two places but i miss the place especially now as it would have been a base to start again from, it was also a lovely location and will have increased in value by now ...anyhooo onwards we go

great idea chortlepuss

Thanks blondie it would be good to chat

mmmmmm.......some days honestly yes, the combination of missing home and mind numbing boredom here takes its toll.......but, I am hoping for a compromise, for example I have recently discussed with my wife(ish) the idea of saving up (not quite sure how I am going to do it as yet) over the next few years and seeing if I can get together enough to purchase a small property in the UK, I am talking cheap cheap as in a flat etc or small house, I recently looked around the Carlisle and Scottish border area and noticed that there are some properties available for less than 60,000 pounds....although I have no idea if the area would be suitable, my idea would be to at least have a base in the UK, it would be a start and I would have a foothold back home so to speak, I could go back every year for a month or so (post Covid 19 of course) and use as a base with which to explore around the country and Europe with my kids and even wife(ish) if they want to come, I think that it is important in life to have something to aim towards as this helps to give purpose, and once reached it makes it easier to reach for the next target and so on.....I think am going to need a bigger piggy bank though

I think you possibly are missing what I am saying, I did not dislike Australia from the start or the thought of coming here, in fact i was looking forward to a new adventure in life, however I did make it clear to my wife and family at the beginning that for me this was not going to be a forever move, and that I intended to return home one day, I wanted honesty from the outset and my wife agreed so at the time, however she has now changed her mind which I support, after all it is her life as well....but I have not changed mine, however just to clear up once again I always intended to come on this adventure, but I also always intended to return home one day...no dislike of Australia was involved it would have been the same had I gone to anywhere else in the world

Maryrose02, I am confused, forgive me but where am I saying that I hated Australia before I stepped foot in the country?.......I asked the question ' How Long before you realised that Australia was or was not the place that you wanted to spend the rest of your days ?' And I shared my thoughts that I knew and voiced that I would be returning home one day, as I knew that it was not a forever move for me, just like thousands before me have voiced, I have never said that I hated the place but simply have been honest in my feelings to my wife and family so that they where under no illusion that this would not be a forever move for me from the beginning........I do not consider being honest with someone as being 'odd'...call me old fashioned and all that

well there you go, there is a first time for everything, Lets look at the question again.....................The question asked was 'How Long before you realised that Australia was or was not the place that you wanted to spend the rest of your days ? I knew (and voiced) before i left the UK that I would return home one day....not sure what you find so shocking about that view point.....some come forever, some do not

Hahaha the rovers would be great except for the fact that only you and two of your mates and maybe a cat could actually fit in the pub it's that small, but I know exactly what you mean, I was lucky enough to take a trip back home (2019) at Christmas time with my son (I am surprised you did not hear about it i told everyone lol) and during that trip we visited a pub in barmouth called 'The last Inn', it was the absolute essence of what a pub should be (in my opinion) low ceilings, beams , little nooks and alcoves, log fires, photographs and pictures of the town, brass ornaments, you get the idea, I also dream about that place.........you are right we are lucky to have escaped the worse of the Covid pandemic and will hopefully continue to do so, as for can I see my family moving back, yes and no, I have always maintained that i will move back one day (my 12 year old son Daniel is keen), but my wife and 8 year old daughter (emily ) are not and therein lies the sticking point

Thanks proud Preston....I sometimes wish that I had never taken this journey, (do you?) but then I would have been left always wondering and what ifs? can be toxic.....I mentioned to my wife-ish (we are good friends but without benefits), the other day that my dream would be to move back to the UK she get a job as a nurse (which i am sure she would have no problem doing) and I get a job as a paramedic (which i am sure I would have no problem doing), the kids go to a proper school, one with a football pitch and that is not built out of porta cabins, we get a mortgage on a house in the country or near the seaside and we all live happily ever after ....however i realised along time ago that despite what the media tell you about dreams coming true...they don't, lol , so move on...i would say that i am happy that my wife has found her happy place, but also i am not going to apologise for me not finding mine, it is good to hear from those such as yourself it makes you realise that you are not so isolated in your own point of view

But it is the same though, even after 32 years....I have this argument time and time again, people say that the place will have changed after a long period of time, therefore it is some fantasy land that you must be living in and yes time and progress will change an area to a certain degree, the building of new areas and more infrastructure etc, but the overall place has not changed, the mountains I looked at in wales are still there, the rivers are still running, the beach is still the same, the hedgerows, fields and old church yards are still there they have not changed

I have a very varied taste in music from classical to grunge, trance to Abba, and whilst I was listening to an 80's compilation a few days ago it got me thinking, what song would I choose to relate to my life and the place where I live here in Australia ......for me it would have to be Morrissey.............with the song ' Every day is like Sunday' what about you?

Can I ask blondie do you miss anything about your time here in Australia?.....would you return?

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Hey...just a thought maybe we could do it together

Sorry maryrose you miss my point totally ......from what I understand, what you are saying is if for example a Indian restaurant in Sydney is run by staff and cooks who originated in India, have grown up cooking Indian food all their lives and I mention that I prefer Indian food cooked in the UK, that I am somehow being disrespectful etc...huh well what happens if the restaurant in the UK also (which most do) happens to be staffed by those who have originated in India and also grown up cooking their recipes, your saying I am not allowed to prefer their cooking as I am being patronising and possibly discriminating against them me thinks you are looking to be offended by something that does not exist ........I could not care less the ethnicity of the person cooking my food as long as it tastes good ......I simply prefer in general the food back in the UK because that is what I have grown up with, it is what I am used to simple as that, and I can make the comparison based not on the ethnicity of the person cooking it but simply on what I believe tastes better to me ...no discrimination or patronising going on no need to worry,.........my final example being I actually prefer Mc McDonalds (other establishments are available ) in the UK, not because I don't like the food here but because in the UK i can get a banana milk shake (never worked out why they do not do them here) and they also serve a curry dip, sorry I do not think it is authentic curry dip but it tastes great so who cares......at no time do I consider that I am being disrespectful to the clown with the large red boots and curly red hair by making this comparison

22B..we sound very, very similar