naturelover Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 Hey, im in a tough situation and just need some guidance really.. I moved to australia in 2011 with my mom, sister and stepdad, leaving my dad back home. after 2 years, and lots of home sickness we came back to england on holiday and never returned, leaving my stepdad to fly back, pack up, and return to us in the uk. Ive been back for just under a year and realise how much i miss australia, how i miss the sun, the beach, just the lifestyle really. But i feel like while i was over in Australia i was making my dad upset, leaving him behind. And now were all back, im upsetting my mum and Step Dad because they loved their life there, they hate their jobs here. Its a constant battle between making either one of my parents miserable. im now stuck on a college course till next june. But ive got to at least fly to oz in the next month or so to activate my PR. My mom and step dad will move back, and I think i will too after my course is finished. if it was jsut me i would move back tomorrow, but i just feel as if its my fault, that ive got to upset someone in order to live somewhere. sorry for rambling on. just needed to type it out. Also, are level 3 diplomas seen as a qualification in australia. because they didnt notice my gcse's. Im currently studying a level 3 extended diploma in animal management. if yourve read all this then sorry about all that, and thanks :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peccavi Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 First of all you have no need to apologise. That I think is an issue for you; you feel guilty! If you are of age, then look to what YOU want. Not either parent. "This above all to thine own self be true" is not about selfishness. If you spend your time trying to please others you will be increasingly unhappy in yourself. I can't believe any caring parent would want that. I'm not saying it will be easy. I'm saying that you must concentrate on what you want for you. Not what others expect from you. (The academic stuff is something others can perhaps answer!). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanduex Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 Although it is very difficult I would echo Peccavi. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nerak123 Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 Ahh bless you. I'm a mum of two and and most parents will tell you that you make them happy just by being around and evenhappier to see you happy. But you shouldn't feel responsible for their happiness. I would say invest in your future now while you are young. Get your qualifications do the hard slog now and have more options when you are older - wherever in the world that maybe. I would check with someone who does the kind of work you are aspiring to what qualifications and equivalency is required. In my line of work I would have to do some extra study for example but other jobs would vary. Good luck and try not to worry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ptp113 Posted January 19, 2014 Share Posted January 19, 2014 Hey, im in a tough situation and just need some guidance really.. I moved to australia in 2011 with my mom, sister and stepdad, leaving my dad back home. after 2 years, and lots of home sickness we came back to england on holiday and never returned, leaving my stepdad to fly back, pack up, and return to us in the uk. Ive been back for just under a year and realise how much i miss australia, how i miss the sun, the beach, just the lifestyle really. But i feel like while i was over in Australia i was making my dad upset, leaving him behind. And now were all back, im upsetting my mum and Step Dad because they loved their life there, they hate their jobs here. Its a constant battle between making either one of my parents miserable. im now stuck on a college course till next june. But ive got to at least fly to oz in the next month or so to activate my PR. My mom and step dad will move back, and I think i will too after my course is finished. if it was jsut me i would move back tomorrow, but i just feel as if its my fault, that ive got to upset someone in order to live somewhere. sorry for rambling on. just needed to type it out. Also, are level 3 diplomas seen as a qualification in australia. because they didnt notice my gcse's. Im currently studying a level 3 extended diploma in animal management. if yourve read all this then sorry about all that, and thanks :-) It's your life, they've had theirs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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