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    Son moving to Oz to live with dad but now being nasty to me

    in Aussie Chat

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    Hi guys, thanks for thinking of us :)

     

    Well, the update is - he's loving it! He's been there six weeks now and celebrates his birthday tomorrow on Father's Day, so it will be a joint celebration and the first time in all these years that he's spent a birthday with his dad that has fallen on Father's Day. He started school last week and has told me that everyone is lovely and has made him welcome and (quote) "I've fitted right in", to which I replied enthusiastically "that's great" whilst secretly thinking "oh sh1t!" Apparently he's a big hit with the girls due to his English accent! I'm pleased he is happy; to be honest I probably have more detailed conversations with him now than I did when he was living with me.

     

    However, I miss him like mad and fear that when he comes home at Christmas it will only be for a visit and he will want to return to live with his dad, step-mum and brothers. BUT - the main thing is that he is happy at this time and that's the most important thing for me. Knowing he is happy has helped me to accept things and I'm making a life for myself and doing things I've not previously had time to do.

     

     

    thank you Rachel for letting us know how you and your son are ... early days for him ... my heart goes out to you ... you are a really good Mum ... please let us know as time goes on how you and your son are doing ...

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    unless she's having 2 bridesmaids then back off!! :policeman: I found him for her first lol :laugh:

     

    I bet we've scared him away and he never posts again haha

     

     

    I will have lots of bridesmaids ... but don't get too excited I think he has done a runner ! ...

    11 days to go until the big move!

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    And I keep thinking I've forgotten to do something or get something sorted as next Monday/Tuesday the packers come in so I need to have everything sorted by then...please tell me it's not just me that gets a total mental block in this situation??

     

    No , it is not just you ... so much to plan and do ... it can be overwhelming ... just make sure you have lots of tea / coffee and tasty biscuits for the packers ... Good Luck in your new life ...

    Leaving your kid behind because of your ex

    in Aussie Chat

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    Hi folks

     

    ill try and keep this as brief as possible. I had been posting in another thread about taking our step daughter to Oz and realised it was too complex.

     

    But I can't feel karma has caught up with me as me and my ex split up a few months ago and she has moved back to the Isle of Skye with my 2 year old daughter. She never settled in glasgow and I took on a job that was too stressful to chase money. I kind of neglected her and boom before I knew it she left and took my 2 year old daughter with her.

     

    Now it's one thing getting over a relationship but not seeing my daughter is killing me. I finally get to see her this weekend but after that it's up to me to drive up from glasgow to see her.

     

    if anyone knows Scotland trying to hold a job down and get to see your daughter at weekends in the Isle of Skye isn't going to be easy it's borderline impossible.

     

    i've lost two jobs already tried antidepressants from the doctor but they just made me feel worse. The thing is I'm totally lost without my daughter and fuel I'm getting worse and worse.

     

    My exes dad lives in Australia and also offers to pay for her to go over For 3 months every year. I'm at the stage where I'm thinking of going back to Oz as I just can't cope with her living so far away right at the top of Skye. I just don't think I'll be able to move on with my life.

     

    I am giving serious thought to returning to Oz at least for a year as I'm not getting any better being stuck in Glasgow with my depression getting worse. I've already lost 2 jobs because I couldn't concentrate and my performance suffered.

     

    It's about an 8 hour drive and virtually impossible in winter and just feel the journey combined with having to say goodbye will kill me. My driving is terrible as well I'm no good on motorways etc.

     

    UK law sucks and I could never get her for the holidays etc she would just scream for her mum anyway. I was told that taking some time out and going back will help as long as you keep in touch with her and she won't be 2 forever. There is also the 3 month holidays that she will def take up with her dad.

     

    if I got a contracting job I could go back once or twice a year. I just don't know if it would make it worse though? Has anyone ever been in a similar situation and did it help??

     

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    I am so sorry to hear that ...

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