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I know this might sound silly,but how do you know it's depression. Im ok most days,and other days i cant cope with anything.every single day at around the same time i get this weird feeling in the pit of my stomuch,like im on a rollercoaster ride,or that ride that goes shooting up and come back down,(the only way i can explan it).docs are still taking blood tests but im thinking if all is clear,i think i may be depressed?if so,does anybody know hw much psychologists or counseling cost here in oz?i just hope its not too expensive. Thanks.

I would take that advice mrsA..trust me keeping a diary has helped me loads.when im extremely down and feel like i cannot cope,i grab my diary and jot my feeling down onto paper,and it really helps.vent it all out,write about what makes u angry,wats making u sad,any regrets your experiencing, and then end it of with a happy not.try it,it might help

Awww i know how you feel.im very homesick too.but its just normal.you have your good and bad days.try and distract youself,thats what i do when im feeling really down.explore the city your in.Australia is a beautiful country,im always in awe with some places.hope you feel better soon hun

Doubt people are unhappy just because they dont like it here in oz

Hi jacaranda...i dont think its my because of my hubby.yes i did cum out here for him only,whilst i were already under quite alot of stress backin uk.i didnt quite get over the stresses in uk,then i had to make the huge move to oz.and then when i realised that oz is something i dont want right now in my life,it was too late as my husband had already done his exams,signed contracts,etc.so i began to just think positive,and started to look forward to aus.and the first month was great here.its just the past four months that have been hell.and my husband has now realised that maybe it wasnt the right time for me to move,hence why hes the one that made the decision for going back home late next year and if things get any worse to go back earlier.my husband the kind of person that acts first and then thinks about it,lol.but thanks and sorry you had to go through all that with your first husband,hope things improved for you

Cold is what im looking forward to

Thanks s up north...i really hope i do feel better,past four months have been a nightmare.just want abit of normality.i have no idea if it could be some sort of depression thats causing all this.i just want some relief soon

True...never thought the heat would ever be unbearable, i love heatwaves back in uk,and always make the most of it.here in oz its really bad,i'm quite tired of it and looking forward to winter.

Hi..sorry to hear about your ibs,hope you find relief soon...and i wish i could go back home earlier,but i feel bad for leaving my husband here by himself.but if i do feel any worse i will have no choice but to go without him.hopefully it wont get to that

It's because my husband can't leave his job so soon,especially with the debts he needs to pay off..however if things get worse for me,i may have to leave earlier with my daughter. But for now we're saying dec 2016

Iv cut out dairy,bread is next on my list...part of it is homesickness, but most of it is being ill and having no support.when i go back to the uk,i know theres no guarantee i'll feel better,but at least i'll have the support,my husband always at work,and i struggle sometimes with my little one

we're returning to uk December 2016,maybe earlier!and i cannot wait!5 months and heres my story... our first month was just like a holiday,we were loving it,the beautiful beaches,the wildlife,the sun,smiley faces,etc.but after the first month it just been downhill for me,i'm constantly ill,for those that have read my previous thread will know what i'm talking about.the nausea hasnt subsided,instead i've just been having more problems with my menstrual cycle. it could be the heat,could be the anxiety,or intolerance to some foods here,but i have tried everything and nothing seems to be working. homesickness for me is only getting worse,i'm actually beginning to miss the cold,which is bizarre coming from me.but the heat here is unbearable.i never understood people from hot countries that preferred rain and clouds,understand them perfectly now.i thought i would be out in the sun always,but majority of the day i'm indoors with the air con on, trying to block out every bit of sunlight. however the evenings are nice and cool.but half the time i can't enjoy that either as i'm always feeling unwell.i used loving going out,but these days i try and avoid it,in case i have to rush home again.i realise how much i took for granted in uk,and miss the little things,like chocolate.oh and Indian food,i'm yet to find a good indian restaurant. i'm also always feeling really bad about keeping my baby away from all her cousins,grandparents,aunts and uncles,i feel she's missing out on too much,like recent birthday parties and weddings.she does love Australia though.plus i feel bad for my parents who are getting old,i want to be their for them.didnt think about any of this when leaving,was just too busy thinking of our new life in oz.and living here is not what i expected,not what my husband expected either,as his job here is alot demanding then the one he had in uk. the bugs don't bother me too much,only the cockroaches,don't see that many anymore though.seen a couple of spiders,only in bushes and zoos,they seem to mind their own business.the people here that i'v met are lovely,really friendly and approachable.wasnt as difficult as i thought it would be to make friends.you just got to smile,and be approachable yourselves,and sometimes you may have to make the first move,not as scary as i thought.the parks are lovely too.there is alot more to do here,weather dependant. shopping malls are ok,but i prefer the uk stores.however i find the clothes here alot more expensive.the fruit and veg is really expensive too,i mean doesn't it all grow here anyway,so i don't understand the ridiculous prices.everything else doesn't seem too badly priced. overall, Australia is a beautiful country,it has its disadvantages like any other country, and if it wasn't for me being ill all the time,i think i would've given it longer.but unfortunately due to me being sick all the time i have just had enough,can't bear this heat anymore.not being able to go out sometimes does my head in too,as i always feel like i'm missing out on alot of oz.so i'd rather be in the uk where i don't feel i'm missing out on too much.anyway thought i'd give you an update of my time in oz. bring on 2016!

Know what you mean about no support and the guilt of taking kids away from grandparents. I feel bad for my little girl that shes missing out on so much with family back in the uk.plus before coming out here we thought we'd have more of an outdoor lifestyle,but we were so wrong,the heat here is unbearable, most the afternoons where indoors unfortunately.

Aww i want to go home now too,lol...miss my family and friends loads...patiently waiting for the day we return,but i get the feeling i'll also be a little sad leaving oz...glad its all working out for you!

^no i havnt been into the water,havnt had the chance

^what did your mum do to relieve the nausea?anti sickness tablets do nothing for me.i dont know if this was triggered by the flight

Aww im so sorry you go through it too.its terrible,i feel so upset that i cnt enjoy oz.i will take ur advice on the nearopath,docs gave me some nasal spray for my ears,as theres alot of fluid in my ears which may be causing the nausea,but if this spray doesnt work,i'll visit the neauropath and see what they come up with.i just so desperately want relief!thankyou for your advice.appreciated

Hi,i went docs today to get my ears checked,and gp said i have alot of water in my ears,asked a couple of questions about my ears,hes prescribed me a nasal spray to drain the water out slowly.and said the nausea might be caused by the fluid in my ears.but i dont get why this nausea just started in australia,i were fine back in uk,i just hope the nasal spray works,and this nausea disappears

Iv already been to the docs,everything came clear.but im going to visit th gp again to see a different doc

^i have a little more than a litre of water everyday...i haven't tried probiotics,but i will.im taking all the advice im getting on here

I dont know if its anxiety or stress doing this.i do get very homesick,and came out to oz for my husband only.i do like australia,but at the moment i just cant enjoy it much because im always feeling ill.i try not to think about it and always trying to distract myself,but doesnt seem to be working.i drink lots of water,as i passed out last time i went out,and i dont want that happening again so i make sure im always drinking water now.

That's a good idea,a diary.thanks Docs already took pregnancy test,im defo not pregnant..but thanks for the diary tip,that's a good idea

I always boil the water here and than filter it too,can't take any risks...plus i'v also tried bottled water,no change

^ive been here for 3 months now.i left all fam/friends too.it may be stress related,i have no idea.i just want to feel normal again!its an awful feeling.thanks hun

^yes i'm doing that soon too