Well I guess this is more of a whinge than anything else, but after all the wailing and gnashing of teeth exhibited by my Mother, she rarely makes contact. We've been here a little over a year now, and she has initiated contact three times... I don't want to hear the usual stuff trotted out by people who piously state that as we are the ones who left we should be the ones to make the effort to keep long distance relationships going! It should be a two way process dammit. Look, I know that the gap we leave in other people's lives doesnt stay empty.... Other people and activities move in to fill the spaces, and I wouldn't expect her to sit on the phone waiting for my calls, but a little effort wouldn't kill people would it?:mask: