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    Location location location

    Haha, yes that is a downside but they are only out for the summer months despite it being warm all year round. The first year I was bitten to death and then my body seemed to get used to it and after that hardly got bit at all
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    Location location location

    I think it would boil down to what you are looking for in the move. Yes you may get paid more in Melbourne but house prices and cost of living are quite a bit higher so it will likely negate the higher salary. Therefore start from what you are looking for.. People move to Melbourne for a vibrant city-it's arguably better for culture, diversity and events than Brisbane. The city itself is always described as more European feeling than others. If you are after what we Brits think of as an Aussie lifestyle then Brisbane is likely to be more for you. It has a more relaxed pace of life, better surrounding beaches, hotter weather (Melbournes weather, whilst probably still better than the UK, is not what people imagine of Australia-it can be rainy, cloudy and colder much more often), so all in all, Brisbane and Melbourne will give you pretty different things from your move, so dont just follow the money unless you have no preference otherwise
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    Location location location

    There isnt really a proper beach in and around Brisbane at all to be honest. If you need to be in the city then perhaps South Bank which has the (fabulous) made made beach with loads of restaurants, bbqs etc. Otherwise, have you considered the North end of the Gold Coast? You can commute to Brisbane from the GC but its a city in itself with loads of job opportunities, stunning beaches galore. Even though there is no beaches as such in Brisbane itself IMO it beats Melbourne hands down, but I am biased and I am sure others may disagree.. Certainly the QLD beaches are way better that the ones surrounding Melbourne once you get to them
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    What Book are you reading??

    I am a book lover and usually buy 2-3 new books per month in the UK. I was really shocked however to see the prices of books in Aus when I was doing a bit of research and it made me think I either need to stock up before I come, or cut down. Am I missing any hidden secret cheap places to buy books in Aus (new not used)
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    Maybe have a look at Port Macquarie in NSW as an option aswell. I am biased as I am hopefully heading that way next year myself, but it seems to be the perfect coastal location us Brits dream of and is expanding massively as lots of people moving there from Sydney for cheaper prices and a sea change, so lots of opportunities in teaching I imagine..
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    Not quite Stoke-bit further up in Cheshire but family all from Stoke. How are you finding life in Port Macquarie? Probably moving over there myself in the next year or so
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    How to get shut of regret and remorse?!

    I am so sorry that you feel this way. Just a couple of thoughts about your situation. As the above poster said, do you think that if you hadnt been brave and made the move then you would have similar remorse and regret about not taking a chance? I know several people who thought about going to Aus but never did and live with deep regret. As for the regret about cousins etc, without sounding harsh, as children get older the relationships with cousins and aunties etc often drift anyway and they end up being like extended family/aquaintainces in a lot of cases. Grandparents are obviously different, but what about the strong relationships your kids have made in Aus that they wouldnt have had otherwise. As for the feeling that everyone is doing great in the UK-well hopefully they are, but clearly your MIL is only going to give you the positives and whilst on paper going to uni and travel is a great success, are they all completely happy with no problems? are there issues you arent hearing about as usually people dont discuss the bad stuff in families. As a healthcare professional I know that there is a mental health epidemic amongst young ppl in the UK at the moment. And at the same time do you not think that people look at your life with envy and think how lucky you all are without realizing the sadness you feel. As for the air bnbs - of course they are going to post pictures of the pretty bits - same as Aus bnbs would post pics of the beach or the bush, but I can promise you that a lot of the UK is run down, litter strewn and decaying. I think you are looking at it through rose tinted glasses perhaps? At the end of the day, only you know how you feel and maybe it really was the wrong choice to move to Aus but alternatively, do you think the issue could be internal dissatisfaction maybe.. are there courses or career moves youd love to take, trips youd love to do or maybe even some therapy to give some personal sense of wellbeing and satisfaction?
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    NHS pension

    Great. Thats good to know, thanks!
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    NHS pension

    I was specifically referring to the NHS pension as I have a current defined 'pot' that I will get each year.. I should have been clearer, apologies.
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    NHS pension

    I am giving myself a headache trying to work all this out so apologies if the answers are elsewhere but I am struggling. Does an NHS pension continue to get uprated each year by the cpi + 1.5% if we emigrate or will it be frozen like the state pension is for expats in Aus. This is whilst working age and working in Aus, not as a retiree.. I know we cant transfer it over anymore and I am happy to keep a defined benefit pot but dont want it losing value if frozen.. Also, long way off but how is it then taxed if we stay in Aus?
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    This is so true.. I know I would end up always thinking 'what if' and I keep needing to remind myself that the UK is not going anywhere if it doesnt work out for us. Money is just money at the end of the day but time and opportunity is irreplaceable
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    The estate agent I have approached has said that with a fully managed service they would do regular inspections which I think would reassure me as a landlord but I can imagine would be pretty annoying for a tennant. We arent keen to sell really just in case it doesnt work out and we end up coming back and a managed service through a letting agency, whilst more expensive, I think would work better for us being so far away
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    I think that calling it fickle is a but unfair. For me it has been an all consuming passion for 15 years that has dominated my thoughts and life choices at times. All I meant was that my husband himself wouldnt be devastated if we didnt give it a go, but is equally happy to try it for the experience but also because he knows it is what I had planned to do since before we met. It was actually the mid 2000s (noughty) that I was there, but I am aware that Aus is likely to have changed a lot-in the way that the UK has also.
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    I genuinely think he is not bothered in that he said he is up for it, but wouldnt lose sleep if we didnt go. He is quite sporty so I think the lifestyle would suit him
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    Yes all good advice. The trouble is I have been failing miserably at drawing a line under it. I do worry about rose tinted glasses, although I did live and study in Aus for 2 years in the mid noughties so have a good idea of what to expect, but then again I was young and carefree during those times so my glasses are definitely rosy..