Put it away as a dream that could easily turn into a nightmare or regret.
The move to Australia…….or anywhere else in the world, can easily become an obsession that some people just have to overcome one way or another.
There are only two ways to satisfy that obsession.
Move or don’t move.
Nobody else can answer that conundrum for you.
We are all very different.
Our current lives are very different.
Our family circumstances are very different.
Our income ranges are very different.
Our ages are very different.
We are all at different stages in life.
People feel isolated. The beach becomes boring. The sausages don’t taste the same. The food is more expensive. It gets extremely hot.
None of that matters if your family members are not 100% with you throughout your process and once you are there.
Your own family members are individuals with their own opinions too. These can be the most difficult to overcome on both sides of the world……..and they come.
We all under estimate how those things play out and how they become the real deciding factors, which is often when we have already given up our jobs, spent a small fortune and upended a happy family.
There simply is no common ground other than the obsession that keeps us awake at night like a bad itch.
You need to decide one way or the other based on your personal circumstances………and how it is likely to affect those who are going with you or those being left behind. The pull and push isn’t nice if people are not committed or are left behind.
A married couple with very young children (who don’t yet have an opinion) are in a very different situation than a married couple with children of multiple ages, particularly older children with a life and an opinion that quickly changes.
Don’t get drawn too deeply into basing your decision on ‘the dream’ because the ‘dream’ works in both directions. Many Australians ‘dream’ of leaving OZ and living in the UK or elsewhere for many of the same reasons you have for leaving the UK.
The grass is not greener, either way. (Well the real grass is certainly greener in the UK but the ‘dreamy’ expectations are not).
The UK has far more to offer than we give it credit for if you have lived your life here and the same can be said if you have lived your life in OZ and are dreaming of the UK.
You won’t realise this until you are sat in your nice comfy neighbourhood in OZ and you start to miss family and daily life back home. What do you do when that happens to you? What do you do when that happens to the person sat next to you? What do you do when your child comes home a wants to pack a bag and get on the next flight back to the UK?
If, ‘IF’ your older children get their own visa, one day they will realise that they are missing their friends and family and their known life back home in the UK and they perhaps decide to leave OZ and go back home to live with grandma. What do you do then?
If you can uplift your family and afford to move and cover your costs with no income until you are settled then perhaps try it out for 12 months or so but if there is the slightest chance that it may not work…….then save yourself the heartache and focus on improving on the reasons you are leaving in the first place.
It has to be 100% what others want to do or there will be a nagging need to get back home and it only takes one person to have that feeling and it affects that rest of you, which isn’t a great situation to be in half way around the world and nothing to return too and no money left to start again.
I sense that you have too much too lose here in the UK and that OZ will drain what you already have, including the family ties.
