I understand , but that's life. It never goes perfect there will be ups and downs no matter where you go, can't expect everything to go the way you want it. But you never know if you don't take the chance and it also works out well for a lot of people. No ones story is enough to stop us from wanting to make a go of it, your luck could be just as bad if they had stayed at home, but then they would of never known. You can't go expecting too much or of course you'll be disappointed