menlow4

I live in Mandurah and have been here 7 years. Planned to go home but 'things changed' and we are staying. It is a very long story but I know exactly how you feel. If you ever want to chat then just message me. x

I know how you feel cartertucker. I think in everyone there is this innate sense of 'there must be something better than this.' Perth is a great place but day to day life is just normal. You are just living in a different place with a different climate. Think about things carefully and consider why you came in the first place. Everyone is different and there's no 'one comment fit all.' solution. We are in Mandurah if you want to get in touch. x

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts and wishes. Yes I am very close to my family here and breaking up our little unit was not an option for me. You just have to get on with it I suppose don't you and make sure that there are things in your life that you look forward to. All the best to you all again. XX

:em4600:I have not been on this site for a good few months now. I think the last post I put on here was after my family was involved in a high speed car crash and then a week later my husband told me that he didn't want to return to the UK anymore (that had been our plan.) That was a crazy time and I don't know which was worse really. There was lots of tears and tantrums (on my part) and what now? how can our relationship move on from this? I was devastated. He kept asking me to look for houses to buy with him and I was having non of it. Over a period of time I realised that I was the only one in the family stamping my feet. My teenage daughters were happy and settled and my actions were unsettling them. I was a mother and should be thinking of them and not just myself. We were living in a rental and I had imagined that the next place we would be settling down would be in the UK. But that couldn't happen. Telling family back home thatwe were not going to be returning was very difficult. So fast forward to May and we have bought a house, my girls are happy and feel more settled. I understand my OH's reasons (recession in UK, jobs, girls futures) but I had the huge pull of a close loving family in the UK pulling at my heart strings. I cannot say that I am unhappy but I have had to lock some things back up in the box inside my head. God knows after our accident last year we are all so lucky to be alive. My eldest daughter is going home for Christmas and I hope to take my youngest home in a couple of years. Those plans and the thought of my parents visiting next year is giving me a focus and something to look forward to. I wish all of the people on here, who are returning home, all the love and luck in the world. I hope everything works out for you. xxx