Marisawright, thank you so much for your wise words of caution and advice. I am sorry your friend is having problems settling to her new life. As I have already spent quite a bit of time with my son and dil, I am happy that we have already passed the novelty stage of me visiting as a tourist, needing to be guided and entertained, and we have a much more mundane, settled existence together now. I already have some friends of my own who live quite local to my son, that I met online through a mutual hobby, and I socialise with them, whereas most of my uk friends are now no longer around! Once I know my application has been accepted and I have my bridging visa, I will sell my home here and this will enable me to either invest in my sons house, to extend and improve it which they would love to do, or pool our resources and buy bigger something to share! I hope this all sounds viable!