Sue22

I am trying to show support because I really don't a rift to develop. We have always been close. I am asking about plans and we have said we would definitely visit to see them. At end of day it's their lives. Also if things don't work out I want her to be able to feel that she can contact us.

I have tried to talk to her about this, even asked how she would have felt if her dad had done this to her when she was a little child. She is definitely minimising any impact this will have. I am wondering if he will only feel impact for his part when he has made trip because he has a lovely relationship with his daughter - at the moment.

Thank you. Yes these things are not definitely not clear cut.

We have tried to talk to them both about this issue. They are leaving a lovely little girl, a young cat and a beautiful horse. It is heartbreaking.

We have major alarm bells sounding on exactly this issue.

Thank you very much. It will definitely be a huge adventure for them, I am in awe at the amount of organisation that it takes to make the move. We had opportunity to move to Canada many years ago, but I couldn't leave family and UK. Big concerns that she is having to find new homes for animals. But biggest concern is that her partner has 8 year old daughter with his ex. Not sure what damage it do to her if they stay long term. He looks after her on a regular basis.

Thank you Quoll. Yes she has always had an adventurous spirit and I always used to joke that she would go to Australia one day. They are going on a sponsored working visa as her partner is a chef. He has lived and worked in Australia before but she has never visited. They have a home here which they will rent out. The communication will be ok, it's the loss of the regular day to day stuff which will be hard. I don't like flying but we would have to plan a trip once they are out there.

Hello. First post which may be in wrong place on this site. I discovered this forum 2 months ago after learning that younger daughter and partner leaving UK to travel to Melbourne on working visa. They expect to travel before Xmas. Reading experiences of others who have said goodbye has been very helpful. At the moment trying to see positives and remember that adult children have to live their own lives. Whilst hoping that there might be a change of heart (which I know won't happen).