Thirtyyearoldpom

Thanks for the responses, it's good to get subjective feedback! Re residency, good point on the health side of things. I've already chatted with the visa agency and gone through the records which they said won't have an impact as my condition (endometriosis) isn't considered a long term risk like other types. As for children, i cannot imagine not being near my parents. And for my mum to fly out here we're still trying to figure out how we can accommodate her disability. Please can I ask for anyone who has been in the scenario of wanting/having children then having parents need more care what you find helped or how you coped? Many thanks, it's so nice to hear people share their experiences and view on this

Hi there, I've always come to this site for wise advice from time to time so thought I'd finally ask for some specific to my situation! If anyone could advise, provide suggestions it would be much appreciated :) Current situation: I moved from the UK to Oz on Working Holiday Visa in 2016 and 9 months in was fortunate enough to get sponsorship - i don't have a degree (I'm a ICT Business Analyst) so my company would need to sponsor me for residency (eligible in June) which take 1 - 1.5 years to process. At the same time i've turned 30 and a have a set of circumstances like many people here which feel like a tug of war between Oz and the UK! Oz situation: I never planned to move here but after being offered a 457 visa i thought i'd give it a chance. Here's the pro's/cons: I feel restricted on the Visa and as i need to go home twice a year it's become a big expense I've been waiting for the company to pay me at the salary level my Oz counterparts are paid at but still waiting a year after they said they would I have a chronic illness which has cost me nearly 10k in Oz to treat (that's after health insurance & medicare rebates) I can't afford to live alone so have been flat sharing On the PLUS side... Best boss and team i've ever had I live in Melbourne and love the culture, food, coffee etc. Health wise i get seen very quickly when i need to I'm so close to residency and that may give me more freedom in Oz Situation in UK: Since I've left the UK, my parents have moved to the Isle of Wight & my brother is having a baby. Here's the pro's/cons of going back: I'd be cutting an opportunity short to stay here in Oz Brexit, not sure what to say about this one as I'm still not clear what the impact is :/ The lifestyle isn't as easygoing The NHS is struggling, and I've been told already I'll need another op and fertility treatment (subject to meeting a man, having a baby etc) On the PLUS side... It's family and close friends (my mum is disabled and dad is 75 this year) Freedom to buy a house, choice over jobs, no visa complications I love the British culture and humor I want children and i want to be near my parents, so meeting a potential partner in the UK seems a better option The education and lifestyle for children (depending on where you live) I can have a second job again (use to sell art in the UK) Having more annual leave and going to Countries nearby i can take my family too Being there as family gets older to look after them and seeing the younger ones grow up It comes down to this - i need to start a family soon and have parents whose needs are only going to increase over the next few years. If i was in my early 20s i would stay and get residency as the goal in Australia has always been to have choice. On the other hand there's the present, and some of the wonderful people in my life who i want to be around when i start a family are in the UK. So it really comes down to timing. I can see from these feeds people feel the struggle of making the right decision and more importantly how they live with those decisions. So bring on the wise words! Many thanks, Amelia