Completely understand your anger and you have our total sympathy. I have only been sorting through the maze of moving to Australia for the last couple of months and we are eligible but, as you say, you need to weigh up everything and it is exhausting. It is no doubt devastating for you - do hope there is a way around it. It had crossed our minds, however, that the visa costs (already huge) may increase mid application, as you would only have paid the deposit until the very end of the process.