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the children are not making the decisions and there will be experts talking to them before we make any final decision. this is not about more money for me this is about opportunities for them, we are not taking anything lightly and please don't think that we are, yes the world is a smaller place with skype and modern technology and flights are cheaper but I understand it is not the same. but i feel that this is something that should at least be tried either way for their sake. i would like to think that when they are older then at least we can say we tried and not regret something we could have done =. not only for myself but for my children. nothing is set in stone, things change all the time it is only going to get harder here in the UK

Ultimately it will be their mum and myself that makes the decision but we are giving them every opportunity to have an input, they are having all the facts from myself and their mum, we want them to feel involved as much as possible and to know as much as they are able

my plan is to take the children on holiday august time for 4 weeks, they have a teste of Australia and time away from their mum. then I would move the end of September and start work and get on my feet so that if the children have time away from me and time for them to think. if they wanted to come live with me then I would be set up.

my father was born in Perth, I am applying for citizenship by decent

I am extremely unhappy here in the UK, I have lived her my whole life but have never felt at home, I have been to Australia twice this year with my ex partner and I now know why I have never felt at home here. if there was such a thing as nationality dysphoria then that is how I feel about Australia, I am not going for the weather nor for the sights but to feel at home. I know people are going to hit out at me for saying but if the children do deicide to stay in the UK I feel I would still be able to be a better father from Australia, we have a lot of support from UK and Australia and the kids would not go without either me nor their mother either decision they make

i know there is going to be a lot of criticism, we have asked the children and they have made the extremely mature decision to ask for a holiday there first. I was seeing an Australian man for a year and he was a very big part of their lives until he walked out on us a few weeks ago. his family have accepted me and my children and are supporting us the best they can. I believe that I can make it work with my children and give them a better life. if they did not want to stay I would have a decision to make as to if I stayed or not. if I cannot make it work by coming back and them coming out then I would move back to the UK, I do not want to abandon my children and will fight tooth and nail for them, I am trying to do the best for them there is little life here for them, and if they come with me it will be hard but I am willing to try, if they stay in the UK then I would support them from oz. In the long term they will have a foot in both country's. as for the type of mother that would let their children move without her, it is a very hard position to be in and I believe that putting the children's opportunity for a better life above herself is extremely hard and I for one am very proud of her.

Hello I am looking for... I don't know really. I am a gay dad I was with a woman who had 2 children and we was together for 7 years,we got married and had to children together, we split up because a came out but we are still good friends. I have an brilliant relationship with all 4children 10, 8, 5 and 4 and contact is split 50/50 with mayself ans my mum( other father not involved ) I have always wanted to move to Australia and now I have an opportunity to, I have asked my ex if I can take the children and she has agreed to let the children decide. But if they don't want to come would I be selfish to go. I have a job opportunity that will give me plenty of money to come back and see the children and for the children to come and visit me couple times a year. Has anyone done this and can we make it work